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    How's your ratio ? And how does the angst compare?

    I am atleast 3 to 1 dumped versus dumper. I have found being dumped much worse as one might selfishly expect. Mind you I have never ended a long term significant relationship and I guess this would be quite traumatic.
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    Dumped one, never been dumped. It'd be weird to never get dumped.
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    I've never been 'dumped'...been rejected (rather harshly too) but never dumped
    I've dumped quite a few people but none were a long-term relationship
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    I have always been the dumpee. It sucks.
    I guess the last one was kind of mutual but he was still better off.
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    Too much toilet talk goin on in here :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by HibbsicleBean19)
    I've never been 'dumped'...been rejected (rather harshly too) but never dumped
    I've dumped quite a few people but none were a long-term relationship
    Can't make up my mind if rejected or dumped is worse to be honest. Strangely the first can, in some ways, be more hurtful
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    (Original post by aranexus)
    Too much toilet talk goin on in here :rolleyes:
    Always wondered what girls talk about in the toilet..
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    Never dumped anyone in my life, although I've been guilty of not letting go even when it was painfully obvious that it had to end.
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    Been the dumpee once, the dumper once and one mutual decision. Selfishly, being the dumper hurts a lot less.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Can't make up my mind if rejected or dumped is worse to be honest. Strangely the first can, in some ways, be more hurtful
    Being rejected by someone you're in love with is pretty heartbreaking
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    So far I've always been the dumper
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    Never dumped. Never been dumped. Foreveralone
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    Hard to say, as I've never been in a committed, long term relationship (and won't until I find the person I want to be with). I have rejected a great deal of guys and I've stopped talking to them after one or two dates and I've had guys not wanted to get serious with me, and guys only looking for sex. So a bit of both.

    I don't think dumper vs dumpee is that big of a deal, although it may be a negative if it's very strongly one-sided.
    Rejection is a part of life, everybody has to deal with it. It is also a sign that you are trying to get the best you can get. Men who are successful with women approach more and ask more girls out, so they also experience more rejection. People who have never been rejected are often settling. I know some girls that are all about getting a boyfriend, almost no matter who it is. They always give out their number and never turn down a date. If you're trying to get the most attractive, funniest and most interesting partner you can, you will sometimes punch above your weight.
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    A slightly different question and twist.. Do you thing the girl or the guy is usually the one to call it a day? My strong instinct is that it is more often the women. But a more scientific analysis of my mates would suggest that it is close to 50:50. But I think girls are more commonly the dumper in short term relationships..
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    (Original post by MissDavies)
    Been dumped once, the dumpee once and one mutual decision. Selfishly, being the dumpee hurts a lot less.
    The dumpee is the one getting dumped.
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    Dumped twice (once after three weeks but we got back together again and the second after a week) and been dumper three times. Once after two weeks, once after 1.5 years and once after 2 years. eek. Been rejected a few times.

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    Dumped one, never been dumped. I dumped him then a week later he said he didn't wanna be in a relationship anyway. Dunno if that also counts as being dumped, I'd already dumped him!
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    A slightly different question and twist.. Do you thing the girl or the guy is usually the one to call it a day? My strong instinct is that it is more often the women. But a more scientific analysis of my mates would suggest that it is close to 50:50. But I think girls are more commonly the dumper in short term relationships..
    Girls are more often the dumper before sex has happened (which technically just is a rejection), guys are more often the dumper into the relationship. Basically because a lot of guys are looking to be single/have casual sex before they find the one they have to marry (low standards for sex, high standards for commitment), whereas women want commitment from an early stage and see relationships as the only means of being with someone.
    This is the grand picture, not every case of course.
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    Either way the man is the bad guy. He dumps someone,he was a bad guy. He gets dumped, he must have been a bad guy.
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    4:2 as I used to do the chickens way out and push them away until they end it
    Yes, I really was that immature
 
 
 
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