I am hoping to get a job as a seasonnaire in the Alps later this year, I am very excited for this however, there is one major concern that keeps crossing my mind, my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together almost three years and we're really good together but I feel that it is unfair on him that we stay together whilst I am away doing what I want to do. This is my view on it, I have asked friends, many of them are my boyfriends friends too, and they say that we'll work it out.
My boyfriend supports what I want to do and he says that it will be fine. However, in the past he has had a tendency to 'wander' if you understand. I am worried that he will do this because I am away and I will not know anything about it as he may think he can get away with it. So I would rather us have a clean break and we can both just do as we want. I get that this will probably sound really stupid but I want to make the best decision for both of us. When we do talk about it he just says the same thing.
Has anyone been in this situation?! Please give me your thoughts and help me to make sense of all this !!
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- Thread Starter
- 05-04-2013 14:52
- 05-04-2013 18:09
I don't think you should end it, just make a pact with him that if either of you does something stupid or meets someone else then you'll tell each other and move on
My boyfriend got drunk and tried it on with a friend before we went to uni, I thought he may do it again but our relationship is really good and we've been together for a year now.
However, if you really feel you can't trust him then I would leave him, worrying about what he's getting up to will ruin the experience and you shouldn't have to worry in the first place really!
- Thread Starter
- 05-04-2013 18:37
Its good that there's someone that has had a similar situation
The pact thing is a good thing actually. We do trust each other fully but that doesn't mean to say that the truth would always come out But yeah, I do trust him enough to no worry about his actions while I'm away
Thanks Its made me feel better and a given me a new approach to it