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    There's this chick I met through a friend and she's really boring but I like one of her friends (in a non romantic way) and a couple of her other friends. The friend I met her through feels the same way.

    She's had a couple of little get togethers at her house but from what I can tell no one really goes. I only wanted to go if her friend went and maybe a couple of others but I texted her and she said she isn't going. Me and my friend have decided not to go.

    I'm also having a birthday party very soon but don't want to invite her because she is really dull and I would just rather the night be without her. She's nice enough and does make the effort but she really is uninteresting and I'm obviously not the only one who thinks this way.

    What would you do? Keep going to her things, inviting her to yours ... or not see her as you would rather not? I don't think I should feel guilty for not wanting to be around someone who isn't enjoyable to be around but I wanted to hear your thoughts, lovely TSR.
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    (Original post by Umbra)
    There's this chick I met through a friend and she's really boring but I like one of her friends (in a non romantic way) and a couple of her other friends. The friend I met her through feels the same way.

    She's had a couple of little get togethers at her house but from what I can tell no one really goes. I only wanted to go if her friend went and maybe a couple of others but I texted her and she said she isn't going. Me and my friend have decided not to go.

    I'm also having a birthday party very soon but don't want to invite her because she is really dull and I would just rather the night be without her. She's nice enough and does make the effort but she really is uninteresting and I'm obviously not the only one who thinks this way.

    What would you do? Keep going to her things, inviting her to yours ... or not see her as you would rather not? I don't think I should feel guilty for not wanting to be around someone who isn't enjoyable to be around but I wanted to hear your thoughts, lovely TSR.
    I would still invite her and if she comes she comes and if not her loss she's going to be missing out the fun
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    Put them in a sandwich and eated them all up :teeth:
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    (Original post by placenta medicae talpae)
    Put them in a sandwich and eated them all up :teeth:
    Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ol ur so funny
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    We all have boring friends. Just because they are a little dull isn't really a reason not to invite her. That said if you have nothing in common, and don't like her, there is no obligation to be her friend. My advice, invite her to the party and get quite a few people there and that way her dullness won't be a drag on you.
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    If she invited you to her gatherings and you go you should return the invite.

    Is she a downer like the kind of person who makes people drink water when they're tipsy? Or just moans about things?

    If she just sits there quietly minding her own I don't see the problem.

    She might be the kind of person you'll need to bail you out of jail
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    (Original post by Annuhlees)
    If she invited you to her gatherings and you go you should return the invite.

    Is she a downer like the kind of person who makes people drink water when they're tipsy? Or just moans about things?

    If she just sits there quietly minding her own I don't see the problem.

    She might be the kind of person you'll need to bail you out of jail
    Not like that, she actually got more drunk than anyone when I first met her and was throwing up.

    Idk how to describe it. My friend put it as 'socially awkward' and I kind of agree. She's quite posh, doesn't have anything interesting to talk about or really much of a personality. Like I said she's friendly enough to people but she's has nothing interesting to say, conversations are like small talk with her (even though I feel she is making an effort and is just boring).. And yes I feel guilty describing her this way lol
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    (Original post by Umbra)
    There's this chick I met through a friend and she's really boring but I like one of her friends (in a non romantic way) and a couple of her other friends. The friend I met her through feels the same way.

    She's had a couple of little get togethers at her house but from what I can tell no one really goes. I only wanted to go if her friend went and maybe a couple of others but I texted her and she said she isn't going. Me and my friend have decided not to go.

    I'm also having a birthday party very soon but don't want to invite her because she is really dull and I would just rather the night be without her. She's nice enough and does make the effort but she really is uninteresting and I'm obviously not the only one who thinks this way.

    What would you do? Keep going to her things, inviting her to yours ... or not see her as you would rather not? I don't think I should feel guilty for not wanting to be around someone who isn't enjoyable to be around but I wanted to hear your thoughts, lovely TSR.
    is she really that bad that you don't want her at your party? just invite her and don't speak to her.
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    (Original post by Umbra)
    Not like that, she actually got more drunk than anyone when I first met her and was throwing up.

    Idk how to describe it. My friend put it as 'socially awkward' and I kind of agree. She's quite posh, doesn't have anything interesting to talk about or really much of a personality. Like I said she's friendly enough to people but she's has nothing interesting to say, conversations are like small talk with her (even though I feel she is making an effort and is just boring).. And yes I feel guilty describing her this way lol
    Bring out the twister or play drinking games I don't see the harm in inviting her as she's not harming anyone and you don't need to talk to her. Maybe you all need to loosen up abit? I donno, if she's a friend of a friend ask your friend not to bring her? If she's a friend let her come
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    Awkward if she was on TSR too and saw this thread...
 
 
 
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