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    Basically, after being friends with this guy for over a year(while crushing on him hard) he confessed to me that he liked me. So we're giving it a go. Taking things slow to see how it goes. He's told a mutual friend of mine that he can see us getting in relationship. Okay, great. He's quite closed off and guarded though. I can be the same way but I like to think that I try not to be.

    Anyway, our friends and I were under the impression that he's never had a girlfriend or been in any kind of real relationship. So I was attributing that to the fact as to maybe that's why he's so closed off. So what do I do? Probably only the most awful thing I can: Facebook creep the **** outta him.

    I find lots of old pictures of him with this girl. At first, I didn't think anything of it or the girl to be honest because she's in a lot more recent pictures but I thought they were always just friends. But it seems they use to have a thing. While looking at the pictures, I see him laughing, having a good time, and etc. I think I feel a little jealous. Maybe because I want him to be that way with me but instead he's a little more awkward... It's making me feel like our 'relationship' is doomed from the start.

    Should I talk to him about it? Give it time? Is this even normal? Am I completely psycho?

    I take it that you're in the very early stages of a relationship, or rather warming towards a relationship?

    If that's the case, I would simply give it time and see what happens. It's entirely normal to have concerns and, though few of us will admit to it, almost all of us have done some form of 'creeping' on Facebook and such.

    You must also consider the nature of that previous relationship and the context of the pictures. Is he posing for them, or are they taken without him knowing/being prepared? People obviously look happier when they know they're having a photo taken.

    Similarly, who knows how that relationship ended? Perhaps it was badly, and hence his reluctance to express himself. Or maybe he's just someone who takes time to get really comfortable.

    There are plenty of questions here, which will only be answered if you feel it's worth giving the relationship time to develop. Certainly it's premature to consider the potential relationship 'doomed'. The fact he confessed his feelings for you is a good sign, after all.
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