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    Hellooo,
    I'm 16 and been with my boyfriend for a few months. The other day when we met up, he was really tired and didn't really speak at all at first. He said he'd been clubbing with his friends and hadn't got back until 4am. Anyway, he said when they were out, there was a random girl there who his friend quite liked and bought her a drink. However, some guys appeared and were trying to get this girl to go with them, but she didn't want to. Then, she got away from them and was apparently with my boyfriend most the night and stayed with him and was following him round the club and stuff. Then all my boyfriend said to me was that he "lost her in the club and couldn't be bothered to find her again." ...Also, in the club they were in, there was people working there taking pictures of everyone. However, on Facebook, all my boyfriend's friends are in the picture, but he's not. Oh and usually when he's out, he's really sweet and randomly texts me to. I don't ask him to or anything, it's just something he usually does.
    Anyway, given everything I've said, do you think I have a right to feel a bit confused or hurt? Like, who was this girl and why was she with him and no-one else all night?
    Do you personally think anything might've happened, or that I'm just being really stupid? (which yeah, I probably am tbh:/)
    Thanks guys!
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    Yeah I think you are over thinking things.
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    Sounds like you're overthinking it to me. He probably wouldn't have mentioned her to you at all if anything had happened. One photo of his friends on facebook doesn't mean he was away from them the whole time, who knows maybe he was away peeing or something.
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    (Original post by seyrose)
    Sounds like you're overthinking it to me. He probably wouldn't have mentioned her to you at all if anything had happened. One photo of his friends on facebook doesn't mean he was away from them the whole time, who knows maybe he was away peeing or something.
    Hmm, yeah maybe you're right. I still just think it's a bit weird how she was with him all night there... I mean, fair enough that she didn't want the creepy guys trying to grab her, but without sounding harsh, what does she expect lingering about on her own? :rolleyes:

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    Relationships are built on trust.
    ask him outright
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    (Original post by 3mma_gal96)
    Hmm, yeah maybe you're right. I still just think it's a bit weird how she was with him all night there... I mean, fair enough that she didn't want the creepy guys trying to grab her, but without sounding harsh, what does she expect lingering about on her own? :rolleyes:

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    A girl lingering on her own does not make it ok to grab her? That is the sort of thinking that makes victim blaming ok.

    I wouldn't worry, you have no reason to be upset or worried. If someone said they had made out/gone into a bathroom stall together/rented a hotel room together then maybe.
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    (Original post by FranticMind)
    A girl lingering on her own does not make it ok to grab her? That is the sort of thinking that makes victim blaming ok.
    Oh no, I didn't mean that! Being a girl too, I wouldn't expect to be grabbed and perved on, but, and it's a sad truth I think, that is unfortunately what's more likely to happen if you are a young girl walking round a busy club on your own. I'm only generalizing here, but still.

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