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    I've grown up with a stammer for my entire childhood, which is the physical inability to speak in certain situations which is worsened by nerves, etc. I am worried that this stammer is having increasing effects on my mental health in general. Mostly because since starting sixth form my friends usually go to places such as Nando's and the cinema which they invite me to, etc. I really want to go, but I'm always terrified of being mocked and judged by the people at these places due to my stammer so I make excuses about why I 'can't go' to these places. I can see that if this carries on I am going to become excluded from my social group but I have no idea what to do about it. I really really do not wish to go on any sort of medication because I do not agree with using tablets to get out of everything. My friends do not know that I am suffering from this and I don't know if I should tell them or not. My parents just think I'm just a little bit anti-social, which really isn't the case as I really do like socializing with others, these situations are (but shouldn't be) out of my comfort zone, I am also becoming increasingly worried by the prospect of university after sixth form whilst suffering with this. I'm not sure what options are available to me, if anyone could spread some light I'd be appreciated.

    You can get speech therapy, my mum works with people with speech and language issues in schools and you get get therapy to help.
    I think perhaps though that you may need to bite the bullet as harsh as that sounds.
    My Grandpa had a stammer which he grew out of and he said that when he was in a situation where he wasn't confident and perhaps nervous his stammer got worse.
    I think maybe the more you put off social situations, the worse facing people will seem so therefore you will be more nervous and your stammer will be worse as a result.
    You need to nip it in the bud, tell someone you trust and then get help and stop the downward spiral.
    You can over come anything if you want it enough, just please ask for help.
    Good luck! x
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