To get straight into, my female best friend (let's call her Sarah) is extremely close with one of my other friends (let's call him Sam). We're all in a close friendship group with 3 others (Katy, Jordan and Carl). Sarah and Sam are always flirting and joking about being in a relationship, but when questioned, they both say its a joke and they'd rule out a relationship because it would make things weird in the group. Whilst Sam was on holiday, we all went on a night out and Sarah got extremely drunk and went home with Jordan, who is best friends with Sam, and they slept together. Jordan is the type of person to sleep with anyone and everyone, regardless of who it is, but I or anyone else Didnt expect him to sleep with Sarah, nor did we think that about her. They didn't tell anyone and she only told me and another 'friend' a week ago. Well I say friend, she ended up telling Sam. Sam and Jordan spoke about it and put it in the past, because their friendship is a lot stronger than arguing over a girl, and Sam said he didn't care but he was just annoyed that no one told him because they thought it would upset him. But ever since he found out, he has been nothing but horrible to Sarah until the past couple of days. When they confronted each other, Sarah said she didn't want him to know because she genuinely does have feelings for Sam but there's nothing she can do about her actions. Sam also admitted similar feelings but he wouldn't get with her because she's slept with his friend, Sarah understood and they both said they'd just be friends, but it's obvious they both want to be together. I believe if you love someone and you have strong feelings, you should ignore their past and do whatever makes you happy. It is a bit weird that it's happened in a friendship group, that I understand but I can't bare seeing two of my friends unhappy! What are your thoughts on the situation?
My friend slept with our friend's friend?!!! Watch
- Thread Starter
- 07-04-2013 21:32
- 07-04-2013 21:39
There's ignoring the past and then there's ignoring the fact that you're going to have to sit next to your best friend everyday around the girl knowing that they've had sex. It sounds like they both were pretty sure the other liked them, and if that's the case you don't sleep with someone's best friend. It'll be weird for a while and I can see why he's being horrible, it's better than trying to act like it's how it was before between them, because I doubt it is.