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My boyfriend hates the idea of sex toys :( i love them watch

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    Heya,
    so me and my lovely boyfriend are both 20 and have been together for 4 months now, after being friends for a year.
    And were absolutely loving every moment of it!
    The sex is great! considering he was soooo inexperienced, I've taught him well LOL
    But the thing is.... i can never seem to have an orgasm through penetration, i've never had one before anyway, so i dont even know what im expecting, but this isnt the main issue. He'll usually finish inside me, then i'll finish on my own, through clitoral stimulation, while he'll help by caressing me and whispering in my ear. THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS, I KINDA LIKE IT.
    BUT i'd really like him to reeeeaallly help me orgasm, so i'd love him to use the vibrating dildo's with the clitoral vibrator bit on me.
    but he HATES the idea of me or him using sex toys, he says things like "isnt the sex good enough with just us?" and it breaks my heart, so i say "yeah, forget it, Its GREAT as it is"
    So my many sex toys boxes are gathering dust.

    he also thinks i shouldnt really watch porn while im with him.
    :/
    how do i convince him to let me use sex toys? he would let me if i bothered him enough about it, BUT i wouldnt enjoy it, if he wasnt okay with it
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    If you managed to find some for him, would that convince him?

    My boyfriend got upset when I bought a vibrator because he thought I was replacing him but I got him to buy a sex toy of his own and now he understands the appeal of them and doesn't mind about mine.
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    I like sex toys ! I am very willing to help u using them !!
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    Ha, i wonder where the minus on point comes from, all i offer her is my free of charge help to get an descent orgasme.....
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    Just tell him exactly what you've written here.

    If he takes it like a ***** that's his problem.

    And teach him to make you *** the same way you do so yourself! Although I'm sure that'll take him a while.. but like you said you're a good teacher.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Heya,
    so me and my lovely boyfriend are both 20 and have been together for 4 months now, after being friends for a year.
    And were absolutely loving every moment of it!
    The sex is great! considering he was soooo inexperienced, I've taught him well LOL
    But the thing is.... i can never seem to have an orgasm through penetration, i've never had one before anyway, so i dont even know what im expecting, but this isnt the main issue. He'll usually finish inside me, then i'll finish on my own, through clitoral stimulation, while he'll help by caressing me and whispering in my ear. THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS, I KINDA LIKE IT.
    BUT i'd really like him to reeeeaallly help me orgasm, so i'd love him to use the vibrating dildo's with the clitoral vibrator bit on me.
    but he HATES the idea of me or him using sex toys, he says things like "isnt the sex good enough with just us?" and it breaks my heart, so i say "yeah, forget it, Its GREAT as it is"
    So my many sex toys boxes are gathering dust.

    he also thinks i shouldnt really watch porn while im with him.
    :/
    how do i convince him to let me use sex toys? he would let me if i bothered him enough about it, BUT i wouldnt enjoy it, if he wasnt okay with it

    Well you're throwing him in a bit at the deep end with a vibrating dildo as a starter toy, especially if he's inexperienced. Maybe start with something smaller like a bullet? All you can really do is reassure him and encourage him to research it, a bit of looking around on the internet and he'll soon realize that there aren't actually many girls at all who can orgasm from penetration alone. He should want sex to be as good for you as it possibly can, not letting his own insecurities get in the way. A toy will never compare to sex with someone you really care about.
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    What about something like a **** ring with the little 'bunny ears' to help provide the stimulation during sex with him?
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    Sex toys: man's worst enemy? :holmes: hmmm..... But seriously as a guy, I know that before I experimented with them I would be put off too. It's just that he would be scared you'd replace his *ahem* thingy with toys.

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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    Well you're throwing him in a bit at the deep end with a vibrating dildo as a starter toy, especially if he's inexperienced.
    Are we here talking about a boy who never had sisters orso, or who has a trauma about vaginas because something bad happend to him when he was a child?
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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    Well you're throwing him in a bit at the deep end with a vibrating dildo as a starter toy, especially if he's inexperienced. Maybe start with something smaller like a bullet? All you can really do is reassure him and encourage him to research it, a bit of looking around on the internet and he'll soon realize that there aren't actually many girls at all who can orgasm from penetration alone. He should want sex to be as good for you as it possibly can, not letting his own insecurities get in the way. A toy will never compare to sex with someone you really care about.
    (Original post by rubixcyoob)
    What about something like a **** ring with the little 'bunny ears' to help provide the stimulation during sex with him?
    wait, what?
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    **** da police!
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    Also, (off topic from my **** da police things) I think sex toys molded on other men's penises shouldn't be used.
    The ones not molded. Fine.

    (That's if you're in a relationship! If you're not, go crazy)
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    Well, also i see people as litle computers hey, and lots of times when u are programmed by watching porn on the web, u see this rude sex with only penetration , and not so often a guy who is talking gently to a girl, or even ask her what her wishes
    are in bed, so yeah lots of young boys comsume this internet stuff and then they think its normal what u see on the web....
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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    A toy will never compare to sex with someone you really care about.
    I dont agree, when i was 20 i had a stronge penis, and my GF often came twice, a toy on the other hand is very sexy, it comes close to oral sex when u operate the toy as a man with a girl.. A boy who doesnt like it always seems weird to me....
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    (Original post by edwinemanuelposse)
    I dont agree, when i was 20 i had a stronge penis, and my GF often came twice, a toy on the other hand is very sexy, it comes close to oral sex when u operate the toy as a man with a girl.. A boy who doesnt like it always seems weird to me....
    I might be a bit.. off here considering I've never actually had sex, so Im guessing it makes some guys feel inferior? Like they're being replaced with a toy?

    As for the rest, sure you have
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    (Original post by de_monies)
    I might be a bit.. off here considering I've never actually had sex, so Im guessing it makes some guys feel inferior? Like they're being replaced with a toy?

    As for the rest, sure you have
    Well if it makes them feel inferior , i am never so pittyfull to those kinda man , perhaps u are but i am not !!!

    For the second, well i am not Jesus himself hey, but yeah i happened to be born with quite a strong body, the rest of my life sucks....
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    Dude, how close are you to your sister?

    It's one side of the line to know that they have the toys - but to go a step further and either a) play with them yourself or b) discuss with her the effectiveness of them is so far over the line it must be a dot to you.
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    Buy him a fleshlight and then see all his previous fears about your sex toys fade into the abyss.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    he says things like "isnt the sex good enough with just us?"
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    i can never seem to have an orgasm through penetration
    Well evidently the sex isn't good enough without the aid of toys. How's it fair that he gets to have a good orgasm while you're left masturbating? If I were unable to finish my girlfriend using my penis I would be willing to go the extra mile to make up for it.
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    (Original post by Student-95)
    Well evidently the sex isn't good enough without the aid of toys.
    Or rather some people just can't come through penetrative sex, not about how good it is. I rarely can, always oral/fingers, which can be a royal pain in the ass (excuse the pun) when wanting a quickie.

    Do as someone said and start with a bullet or something that isn't necessarily going to be inside you but will help him feel more comfortable with the whole idea of toys. Good luck!
 
 
 
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