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    Spoke every day, slept with him, haven't spoken since. I sent him an angry text telling him my friend knew then one saying it wasn't his fault since someone else had told him. I get the feeling I've now relegated myself to hook up status, which is sad since I actually like him. Is there a way back or is sleeping with him without any commitment the point of relationship no return. I'm not in love with the boy or anything, and don't want to make him my boyfriend but I also don't want it to be JUST sex, if that makes sense. I want to have sex with him again but I want him to take me for coffee or drinks first.
    1. I know the sex was good. It happened 6 times across 24hrs.
    2. He said "we have to do this again".
    3. A text popped up that he claimed was for something else but I saw the name and it was a girl.
    4. He was arguing with his ex-gf
    5. He was very adamant that he didn't sleep with another girl and wanted to know who told me.

    I have a feeling now that all of our conversations will be replaced by late night texts. Am I right?

    Also, I got the morning after pill, should I text him so he doesn't worry or not.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Spoke every day, slept with him, haven't spoken since. I sent him an angry text telling him my friend knew then one saying it wasn't his fault since someone else had told him. I get the feeling I've now relegated myself to hook up status, which is sad since I actually like him. Is there a way back or is sleeping with him without any commitment the point of relationship no return. I'm not in love with the boy or anything, and don't want to make him my boyfriend but I also don't want it to be JUST sex, if that makes sense. I want to have sex with him again but I want him to take me for coffee or drinks first.
    1. I know the sex was good. It happened 6 times across 24hrs.
    2. He said "we have to do this again".
    3. A text popped up that he claimed was for something else but I saw the name and it was a girl.
    4. He was arguing with his ex-gf
    5. He was very adamant that he didn't sleep with another girl and wanted to know who told me.

    I have a feeling now that all of our conversations will be replaced by late night texts. Am I right?

    Also, I got the morning after pill, should I text him so he doesn't worry or not.
    I think you have been relegated too.... what is it that you are after exactly, a casual relationship?
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    I think your just sex, he wouldnt not contact you afterwards if it meant anything more. I had an ex who kept his options open so would text talk to lots of girls and when somebody better came along he'd go off with them
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    He's using you.
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    This happened to me last year, knew the guy for years, met up a few times and we agreed we just wanted sex, slept with him and I was up for a casual thing, but after the first time he went all weird and didn't really speak to me again even though I tried to speak to him. My advice just leave it with him, by trying to speak to him you'll only end up annoying him. Just leave it and accept that he used you (horrible feeling I know). And you never know he might end up coming back for round two. If not it's his loss!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Spoke every day, slept with him, haven't spoken since. I sent him an angry text telling him my friend knew then one saying it wasn't his fault since someone else had told him. I get the feeling I've now relegated myself to hook up status, which is sad since I actually like him. Is there a way back or is sleeping with him without any commitment the point of relationship no return. I'm not in love with the boy or anything, and don't want to make him my boyfriend but I also don't want it to be JUST sex, if that makes sense. I want to have sex with him again but I want him to take me for coffee or drinks first.
    1. I know the sex was good. It happened 6 times across 24hrs.
    2. He said "we have to do this again".
    3. A text popped up that he claimed was for something else but I saw the name and it was a girl.
    4. He was arguing with his ex-gf
    5. He was very adamant that he didn't sleep with another girl and wanted to know who told me.

    I have a feeling now that all of our conversations will be replaced by late night texts. Am I right?

    Also, I got the morning after pill, should I text him so he doesn't worry or not.
    Exactly what's happened to me over the past week. Spoke all day long for like 2 weeks, had sex, wouldn't speak to me afterwards. I had to message asking why he was ignoring me to get a response - that he now realised he 'wasn't ready' for a new relationship and so didn't want to mess me about (bit late). It's a bit different to yours cos it was pretty much said beforehand that we were exclusively dating, would become a couple, etc. But yeah - now all I've got for the past 2 nights is those late night texts.
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    Ssounds like he was just using you for sex.
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    (Original post by staceylacey)
    ^ exactly the same is happened to me, get out of there before its too late:| same excuses and everything grrrr
    :console: it really sucks. I suppose at the very least it's a learning experience to stop being so naive!
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    Lol i hate the aftertalk after sex should be aleep


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