I'm 23, I graduated nearly two years ago now. I've moved back home to London and I've been fortunate enough to have been working most of the time since I finished uni. But even with an income and the bright lights of London and all my friends around, I feel like my life is really boring.
I get up, I go to work, I come home. Usually at weekends I'll go out to a bar or club with friends but it's not enough for me. I feel like at uni, although I worked really hard, life was really lots of fun all the time and now it's just really dull. My friends never seem to do anything during the week. I just want to enjoy myself while I'm still young and care free.
Doing an evening hobby seems like an obvious way out but a lot of things seem quite solitary and I'd prefer to do something where I'd get to hang out with people my age.
I read this person's letter to The Guardian and it sounds so much like how I feel - http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandsty...rt-of-comments
Is anyone else feeling like this? Or have you gone through this yourself and what sort of things helped you get out of it?
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- Thread Starter
- 07-04-2013 23:26
- 07-04-2013 23:43
Yeah, I have that too. I am pretty busy during the week but at the weekends I am less so. I guess that's got a fair bit to do with not having as many friends living in the same city as I used to. I only graduated in 2012 then spent until December having my life consumed with job hunting so I feel like I am only just getting round to sorting out my social life again. Partly I am a bit on the 'well what should I do to meet more people?' side of things but also even if I were magically to have more local friends I am still pretty sure I'd be a bit bored.
I've decided I need to take a break/s from daily life. So I am saving up to go live abroad for a year, which also makes my current life a bit more boring since i am trying to not spend much. I have also took a few cheap flight short breaks to enjoy the fact I do have some money now. I want to live abroad for a year to take a chance to work out what are the things that can/will make my life really fun. I want to go enjoy myself for the sake of it but also to hopefully have things I can transfer back to making the daily grind more bearable.
I also still live where I went to uni so I want to go live somewhere new once I get back. Being where I have lived for over four years does seem to make me a bit lazy- I feel rather been there done that. I think if I went somewhere new I'd be out doing more things and be excited about doing them.
Longer term I think I need to find a job I enjoy more. 9-5 at a desk just isn't me and I want to find a work place where the working environment is right for me too. I want to get to a point where I can earn enough pro rota to work 3 days a week. It's not hard to find part time jobs in my sector and I'd be happy on 3 days at around £25,000 (so living on 15k) which isn't a point of career development that far off but still a few years. I want to work for the money, sense of purpose and just to fill time productively but I also feel like having more free time would be easier to fill because I could have a few substantial time commitments to whatever.
- Thread Starter
- 08-04-2013 22:36
I've thought about moving to another city a few times because it kind of forces you to make a life of your own. Maybe my problem is that I've been too comfortable settling back into my pre-uni routines. Probably the same for my friends too.