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    Hi,

    I'm in my early twenties and I don't really have a group of friends or boys.

    To be honest, I'm not the drinking, smoking, gambling or trouble making type. I find that the majority of guys in my area are of this type.

    There are however, a few exceptions.

    Thing is, I am not that confident at times. Like a few weeks back, my cousin had a party and there were like 20 odd people. I could have easily made friends there, but they drink alcohol and smoked.

    However, one thing people have positively picked about me is my dancing ability. I seem to be a good dancer even without the influence of alcohol. People say I'm very confident on the dancefloor. The dancefloor is a whole new world to me.

    I think it's very difficult to find boys or groups even at university as they would be living so far away.

    I really want to change. I really do.

    I guess, when I was younger being in a group and going out was SO NOT my thing.

    Need good advice please.
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    It is important for your advancement in, say, the workplace that you learn how to make friends with blokes, and we are all so insecure about seeming gay that we can only make friends with a crutch like the workplace to help us. I advise you to cultivate a vague interest in football, rugby and cars and attempt to keep abreast of them. You should have a hobby you are passionate about. Drinking heavily, causing trouble is not necessary. Drinking slightly, or at least putting in the hours at the pub with a soft drink, is.

    Aside from that, the way to be likeable as a man is to have the courage of your convictions.

    You are certainly too judgemental about the people you make friends with. Drinking alcohol, if not smoking, is rather ubiquitous. A man is laid-back, non-anxious and generally tolerant of other people's idiosyncrasies.
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    Friends are expensive...I din't care about money, but they piss me off how much they cost...the hours at work earning it doesn't seem to bring back the return
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    Just try and socialise with everyone. Talk to people and meet them, I doubt just because you don't drink or smoke they won't let you speak to them.
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    (Original post by yellowcopter)
    Just try and socialise with everyone. Talk to people and meet them, I doubt just because you don't drink or smoke they won't let you speak to them.
    The first year of university is nearly over.

    I haven't really made friends with people this year.

    This year doesn't count but I'm taking it seriously.
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    I think im the opposite , I'm a guy but practically all of my mates are male , it gets boring doing the same old same old.
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    (Original post by po10tial)
    The first year of university is nearly over.

    I haven't really made friends with people this year.

    This year doesn't count but I'm taking it seriously.
    Then make friends, there is no secret to making friends that only special people know, all it takes is saying hello to make friends. Make friends with every social group you find, expand your friends from the ones you already have and in lectures or classes make friends with a few people.
 
 
 
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