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I'm not an extremely emotional or affectionate person. My boyfriend, however, is. On MSN he's always telling me he loves me and that he wants to cuddle me. When we're together he is always kissing and hugging me. I do like him, but this constant mushiness is starting to irritate me! It seems really corny and cheesy sometimes. I just want a mature, balanced relationship with the right amount of affection. I know everyone will tell me to talk to him, but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him enough and get upset. How can I gently discourage him from being so over-the-top?
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You're right about everyone telling you to talk to him. Communication is the key, just tell him how you feel and see if things clear up. Make sure he realises you don't like it as soon as he does it as well - but don't be too mean or put-offy.
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I sometimes find this a problem. A swift slapping away (not violently!) or roll of the eyes works wonders. I also say things like "no more kisses till we get to the end of the road" etc or it takes FOREVER to get anywhere.
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Just stop showering! problem solved!
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Talking is best. If you start trying to "discourage" him without talking about the issue, he will quickly assume you are giving him the cold shoulder.

or you could watch a mushy movie and then pull faces whenever the characters start getting squishy. Is he perceptive enough to pick up on it?

Fact: men love cuddles.
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(Original post by Schmokie Dragon)
Fact: men love cuddles.
*Nods* But I think by the sounds of it her man is taking it a bit far...
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Atleast he doesnt beat you up.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm not an extremely emotional or affectionate person. My boyfriend, however, is. On MSN he's always telling me he loves me and that he wants to cuddle me. When we're together he is always kissing and hugging me. I do like him, but this constant mushiness is starting to irritate me! It seems really corny and cheesy sometimes. I just want a mature, balanced relationship with the right amount of affection. I know everyone will tell me to talk to him, but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him enough and get upset. How can I gently discourage him from being so over-the-top?
how long have you and your boyfriend been together? its just i know that my ex was very OTT at the start but things settled down a bit as we got further into the relationship. he may just be so happy to be with you that he wants to show your how he is feeling inside. if your not happy with the situation tho it is best to talk things through, you have both got to want the same thing from a relationship for it to work, otherwise one of you will be miserable.
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Talk To Him.
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dump him. LOL
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Seriously, tell him. He may not realise that it's making you uncomfortable.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm not an extremely emotional or affectionate person. My boyfriend, however, is. On MSN he's always telling me he loves me and that he wants to cuddle me. When we're together he is always kissing and hugging me. I do like him, but this constant mushiness is starting to irritate me! It seems really corny and cheesy sometimes. I just want a mature, balanced relationship with the right amount of affection. I know everyone will tell me to talk to him, but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him enough and get upset. How can I gently discourage him from being so over-the-top?
Can I have your boyfriend. I find guys arent affectionate enough
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dump him
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Is it me or is there a growing amount of these kind of threads? to the OP, i do agree that there should be some kind of balance in the relationship and the best way to resolve this is letting him know what you you've just said in this thread.
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(Original post by keenya2006)
Can I have your boyfriend. I find guys arent affectionate enough
I'm available
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Last time I date peas/
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It's official: I don't want my eyes anymore.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm not an extremely emotional or affectionate person. My boyfriend, however, is. On MSN he's always telling me he loves me and that he wants to cuddle me. When we're together he is always kissing and hugging me. I do like him, but this constant mushiness is starting to irritate me! It seems really corny and cheesy sometimes. I just want a mature, balanced relationship with the right amount of affection. I know everyone will tell me to talk to him, but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him enough and get upset. How can I gently discourage him from being so over-the-top?
While communication is the key, I can't help but see this end in a break-up. You can't really 'discourage' an affectionate guy to be less affectionate, it's just a case of mismatched affection. As you said, he's an extremely affectionate person, and you're not.
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slap with sharp stick
repeat if needed
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*wishes her bf was a little more mushy at times"

am i lucky in the fact i have a bf who hates public displays of affection?
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