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    I was wondering what people have done about their relationship, when the pair of you parted ways to go to different universities in different cities. Does long distance work, or have you made the tough decision to end it?
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    I wanted to stay in a relationship but my girlfriend felt like it wouldn't work so we broke up. Many have tried and failed but I've seen some make it (at least so far, nearly 2 years in). Long distance does work if it's only temporary (i.e. university) even if it is for many years. But you both have to really trust each other, want it to work and put in the effort to visit each other/stay in contact regularly.
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    me and my boyfriend stayed together for uni (he's been there two years, i've been at mine for one), and we've coped really well so far. though i think the lack of desire we both have for socialising helps a lot - neither of us are bothered about missing out on social events when we visit each other, and we're prepared to spend money on travel instead of alcohol etc.

    a friend of mine also had her boyfriend go off to uni, and they decided to break it off before he left... only for them to get back together the first time he visited home! that was almost two years ago, and they're still happily together.

    so there are some success stories for you, it can work.
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    Me and my then girlfriend broke up for uni. I recon it saved us a lot of heart ache, but sometimes I question the decision because I see quite a few people who have kept their relationships going. Then again, I don't truly know what they go through since i'm not in a long term relationship myself.
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    Happy LDR for 4 years, doing medicine. You can always leave the relationship when/if you start to find it negative. I guess it depends how attached you are whether you want to give it a go. If I'd have given up, I'd have missed out on the man of my life and at least 4 years of an awesome fulfilling relationship. Then again, I never gave it a second thought. Then again, I wasn't exposed to any negativity about it really. Make the decision that's right for you?
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    I'm having this issue at the moment, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year and a half and everything has been perfect. however yesterday she wanted to have 'the talk' (ie about university) She doesn't think its a good idea of us being together because of distance (living Bedfordshire, I want to go to Plymouth Uni) however we are already in a mid distance relationship, So I think it could work.
    Shes also thinking the in terms of 'whats the point of being together if we know its going to end'. I know this makes her sound bad, but She really isnt and this is the first time shes mentioned something like this and everything has been perfect up to this point. Im not sure what to do and its really playing on my mind, breaking up with her will ruin me and will be sure to ruin my focus for upcoming A2 exams :L
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    I'm hopefully going to uni September and I've split up with BF of two years. There were other reasons too but I felt that me moving away... it would have just fizzled out anyway? Obviously some people can do LDRs but as we were already growing distant emotionally it just wouldn't take the strain of me living hours away.

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    Me and my boyfriend have decided to stay together when I go to uni in September. He's staying here cause he works but I'm going 2 and a half hours away. At first he wasn't sure it would work but we talked about it and have decided to make it work. I suppose it depends on how willing you are to make it work. I wouldn't end it before I'd even tried


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