Hi everyone, hope I posted in the right place as I'm pretty new to this site
Basically I have a problem with my parents. At the moment, I'm a first year uni student (19 next month). Since its Easter holidays at uni and my friends have all gone home, I decide to visit home for the first time in 3 months and they still treat me like I'm 4 or something. At the moment, I'm staying at home for a few more days then going back to campus and staying there for 2-3months.
Firstly, they won't let me go anywhere where alcohol could be involved (like clubs bars, nights out with friends etc, I can drink alcohol btw), they both constantly argue at each other for no reason (mum and dad) and they are such pessimists about everything, it's driving me insane. No one at uni so far has pissed me off so much to that extent.
Because I'm 19 next month, I will be planning to have a flat party in my halls at uni. Despite this happening at my flat/room and not at their house, my parents seem to severely oppose this and they said they'll "check up on me that night".
Also, they have invited me for a holiday but I want to decline in favor of seeing some uni friends and hopefully travel places (if I have enough money). They haven
I need advice, please, especially for summer when I gotta move back to my parents house
-my parents are Chinese and strict.
-My halls is roughly 50-60miles (about 1 hour drive on motorway) from my parents house.
-I have my dad on fb and I can't remove him as friend otherwise he'll start intimidating me with threats etc
-I need to stay on good terms with my parents and so can't "ignore them" because although I sorted my student finance this year (for my 2nd year uni), I'm certain that I will need their information again.
sorry for the long post, but I REALLY need advice please, thanks
Parents being unreasonable, need advice Watch
- Thread Starter
- 08-04-2013 19:12
- 11-04-2013 02:18
You can block FB Friends from seeing anything you post. Click the "cog" icon at the top right and select "Privacy Settings". Next to "Who can see your future posts" click Edit. Select "Custom" then "Custom" again. In the "Don't share this with" box, enter your Dad's FB name. "Save Changes", "Close".
Your Dad will then not automatically be able to see anything you post from now on, unless you choose to let him. You can make the occasional post for him to see, so that it just looks like you're not using FB so often. However, beware that he'll still be able to see posts you make on other peoples' FB if they're set to anything other than "Friends Only". If he's like my Mum, he'll be stalking you round those. I eventually Unfriended my Mum and blocked her, then pretended it was some sort of technical problem that I couldn't resolve. Nightmare.
If it's any consolation, my parents still talk to me like I'm 13 and I'm 49. When I came home from uni in the holidays at the age of 19, I used to get sent to bed at 10pm. One night I stayed out after pub closing time (I'd gone round to a friend's house afterwards) and they drove round the local streets looking for me until midnight. Trust me - you aren't alone!Last edited by Klix88; 11-04-2013 at 02:21.
- 12-04-2013 22:56
make afake account on fb!!! and definetely decline the offer to go on holidays-you will regret going!
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- Thread Starter
- 13-04-2013 02:26
thanks for the fb advice everyone
but i need advice on the other information