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    Hi there,

    Basically up until about a year ago I considered myself a happy, healthy person who was getting on with their life. Unfortunately, over the last year things haven't gone my way and about a month ago I was diagnosed with depression and offered medication or therapy. I chose therapy and have since learnt that thoughts I've had all my life have not been healthy and have led to me being in the state I am now i.e feel pretty bad about myself. Since being diagnosed I have had days in which I feel better (but of course feel bad about that because i've been diagnosed with "depression" and shouldn't be feeling ok) and i've had days where the whole thing feels a lot worse. Also, I come from a relatively old fashioned family and I feel like they've dealt with the concept of mental illness badly which has had a negative effect on the whole thing. My mum tiptoes round me and my sister just tell me to cheer up. At Uni i dealt with this thing by either distracting myself with company or just blockading myself in my room. On the good days I have also started to become seriously anxious (things make me really mad and irritated which in turn makes me guilty about not being "me" and leads to me feeling bad again). On the bad days I have thought about doing "something stupid" but it's only a thought. I seem to be struggling with the concept of getting better because I feel like I should be feeling bad and when I feel better I feel guilty for having therapy. Basically I just want to know whether these experiences are normal and what to do about it. I haven't seemed to have met anyone who "gets" it.
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    Hi there,

    Basically up until about a year ago I considered myself a happy, healthy person who was getting on with their life. Unfortunately, over the last year things haven't gone my way and about a month ago I was diagnosed with depression and offered medication or therapy. I chose therapy and have since learnt that thoughts I've had all my life have not been healthy and have led to me being in the state I am now i.e feel pretty bad about myself. Since being diagnosed I have had days in which I feel better (but of course feel bad about that because i've been diagnosed with "depression" and shouldn't be feeling ok) and i've had days where the whole thing feels a lot worse. Also, I come from a relatively old fashioned family and I feel like they've dealt with the concept of mental illness badly which has had a negative effect on the whole thing. My mum tiptoes round me and my sister just tell me to cheer up. At Uni i dealt with this thing by either distracting myself with company or just blockading myself in my room. On the good days I have also started to become seriously anxious (things make me really mad and irritated which in turn makes me guilty about not being "me" and leads to me feeling bad again). On the bad days I have thought about doing "something stupid" but it's only a thought. I seem to be struggling with the concept of getting better because I feel like I should be feeling bad and when I feel better I feel guilty for having therapy. Basically I just want to know whether these experiences are normal and what to do about it. I haven't seemed to have met anyone who "gets" it.
    Hey. How have you been finding therapy? That's good that you can see that these thoughts have caused you to feel bad about yourself. Did they teach you any skills about how to deal with these thoughts? Don't feel bad about having good days - the large majority of people with depression have good days, it doesn't mean you are a fraud or that!

    Families can be difficult. I come from a family where MH is rarely discussed, and they found it hard to come to turns with my diagnosis and being sectioned etc. I don't have much advice around this, but maybe, you could show them some information on depression (this is good - http://www.mind.org.uk/mental_health...ing_depression) and maybe get your Dr to talk to your mum? I had a family meeting when I was in hospital, and that really helped.

    Do you know why you feel like you should be feeling bad? Why do you feel guilty about therapy? Are you still in it now.

    Top answer your question - your experiences are definitely normal! Try and do what you can to keep yourself well - try and get out, socialise, exercise, eat well, avoid drugs and alcohol, and keep up with your therapy and keep seeing your GP. If you ever want to talk, I'm here.
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    (Original post by salmon789)
    Since being diagnosed I have had days in which I feel better (but of course feel bad about that because i've been diagnosed with "depression" and shouldn't be feeling ok) and i've had days where the whole thing feels a lot worse.
    Not everyone with depression feels depressed 24/7. Many of us have days where we feel ok. Not unusual.
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    Hey. How have you been finding therapy? That's good that you can see that these thoughts have caused you to feel bad about yourself. Did they teach you any skills about how to deal with these thoughts? Don't feel bad about having good days - the large majority of people with depression have good days, it doesn't mean you are a fraud or that!

    Families can be difficult. I come from a family where MH is rarely discussed, and they found it hard to come to turns with my diagnosis and being sectioned etc. I don't have much advice around this, but maybe, you could show them some information on depression (this is good - http://www.mind.org.uk/mental_health...ing_depression) and maybe get your Dr to talk to your mum? I had a family meeting when I was in hospital, and that really helped.

    Do you know why you feel like you should be feeling bad? Why do you feel guilty about therapy? Are you still in it now.

    Top answer your question - your experiences are definitely normal! Try and do what you can to keep yourself well - try and get out, socialise, exercise, eat well, avoid drugs and alcohol, and keep up with your therapy and keep seeing your GP. If you ever want to talk, I'm here.
    Thanks for the response, it's good to hear from others about it. If anything now the periods of anxiety and depression seem to be nearly constant and last week my therapist was ill so I couldn't talk about it. I have also had a couple of what I guess are panic attacks but I don't really know. I've never ever been like this. I guess I feel guilty about therapy because there are people worse off than me who could use it and when I feel OK I feel like I don't deserve it. Am now considering starting some medication to help with getting through it. Anyone had experience with that?
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    Not everyone with depression feels depressed 24/7. Many of us have days where we feel ok. Not unusual.
    This is what I think most people find hardest to accept.
    It was very hard for my girlfriend to realise I can have a week, maybe even two, where I feel good, and am happy, and then something happens and I get knocked back down again.
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    (Original post by ekudamram)
    This is what I think most people find hardest to accept.
    It was very hard for my girlfriend to realise I can have a week, maybe even two, where I feel good, and am happy, and then something happens and I get knocked back down again.
    I've noticed this too. I've had someone tell me I can't have depression because I'm sometimes ok.:mad: That sometimes was maybe for a week or so each month.
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    (Original post by salmon789)
    Thanks for the response, it's good to hear from others about it. If anything now the periods of anxiety and depression seem to be nearly constant and last week my therapist was ill so I couldn't talk about it. I have also had a couple of what I guess are panic attacks but I don't really know. I've never ever been like this. I guess I feel guilty about therapy because there are people worse off than me who could use it and when I feel OK I feel like I don't deserve it. Am now considering starting some medication to help with getting through it. Anyone had experience with that?
    Ah its always hard when therapists are off! Are the panic attacks new? Do you know any relaxation techniques. Yes there may be people who are worse off, but they think that the therapy is for you and therefore its right and you do deserve it. There will always be others worse off, but that doesn't invalidate our own feelings, and you deserve help. Yeah I have a lot of experience with medication - what do you want to know?
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    Ah its always hard when therapists are off! Are the panic attacks new? Do you know any relaxation techniques. Yes there may be people who are worse off, but they think that the therapy is for you and therefore its right and you do deserve it. There will always be others worse off, but that doesn't invalidate our own feelings, and you deserve help. Yeah I have a lot of experience with medication - what do you want to know?
    What have you been on and has it proven to be effective? I hear mixed things about how good it is. I'm also not really sleeping well at all and I was wondering what effect it will have on that. Thanks!
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    What have you been on and has it proven to be effective? I hear mixed things about how good it is. I'm also not really sleeping well at all and I was wondering what effect it will have on that. Thanks!
    I have been on the Fluoxetine (Prozac), Citalopram, Escitalopram, Venlafaxine, Duloxetine and Mirtazapine. I have also been on Depakote and Quetiapine (but these aren't antidepressants - Depakote is a antimanic drug and Quetiapine is a antipsychotic). Other medication includes Benzos like Diazepam (valium) and Zopiclone (sleeping tablet).

    The only anti depressants that really worked for me is Mirtazapine and Fluoxetine. However, I do not have a diagnosis of solely depression. People with my diagnosis tend not to have much response to medication, so I am a bit of an odd case. Mirtazapine is a very sedating drug and can make you sleep well. However it is a bit heavy and therefore not really used as a first drug.

    If this is your first anti depressant your GP will most likely give you a SSRI antidepressant - probably fluoxetine or citalopram. If that fails they will move onto different types of anti depressant. Each drug has their own side effects. Most won't help you sleep except mirtazapine. Other drugs can be given (like zopiclone or promethazine) to help you sleep.
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    I have been on the Fluoxetine (Prozac), Citalopram, Escitalopram, Venlafaxine, Duloxetine and Mirtazapine. I have also been on Depakote and Quetiapine (but these aren't antidepressants - Depakote is a antimanic drug and Quetiapine is a antipsychotic). Other medication includes Benzos like Diazepam (valium) and Zopiclone (sleeping tablet).

    The only anti depressants that really worked for me is Mirtazapine and Fluoxetine. However, I do not have a diagnosis of solely depression. People with my diagnosis tend not to have much response to medication, so I am a bit of an odd case. Mirtazapine is a very sedating drug and can make you sleep well. However it is a bit heavy and therefore not really used as a first drug.

    If this is your first anti depressant your GP will most likely give you a SSRI antidepressant - probably fluoxetine or citalopram. If that fails they will move onto different types of anti depressant. Each drug has their own side effects. Most won't help you sleep except mirtazapine. Other drugs can be given (like zopiclone or promethazine) to help you sleep.
    Cool thanks I'm seeing my doctor on Wednesday so I'll discuss it then. Just another question about something that has been making me anxious, on good days does it feel like to anyone else that you'll almost make yourself feel bad because you feel like that's what you deserve and that you don't deserve to just get better?
 
 
 
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