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    I know this seems like a lot of writing more like an essay but please read this and HELP ME!!! PLEASE!!

    I dunno i think and kind of knew i had depression for a while now because i always feel down and worthess partly because i hate myself i have a very low self esteem, low self confidence i am always shy around others no matter who they are and when i get embarrassed i go all red in the face like RED it's sooooooooo embarrasing and oh yeah i'm 18 years old and doing my A-Levels if that even matters... so i was doing my coursework a while ago and i did this Goldberg's depression test and i got 43 points and it told me i have mild to severe depression and that i should get help quickly ... hmmmm

    but the thing is i don't want to get help because ummm my family are basically never gonna take me seriously and are probably going to laugh it off or laugh at me plus i don't live with my dad and haven't seen him in years since my parents had a divorce :/

    and my friends at sixth form kind of hate me i used to have good friends who i knew from year 7 up until year 11 so thats like 5 years and they were really nice and then when i came to the sixth form i decided not to be friends with them anymore because i never fitted in with them they always used to go out to watch a movie and have amazing mobiles and stuff but i was different i was a shy girl who wasn't aloud out of her house to see her friends. and now they practically hate me because i just left them i never told them why i wasn't their friends any more and i don't have the guts to explain it to them even though they are leaving school in about 2 months for uni

    plus i'm never aloud out of my house because my mums so strict. i never go out and socialise i'm not independant i can't even find a part time job.... my older sister goes out for a part time job on the weekend, my younger brother goes to see his friends at a youth centre on fridays and saturdays, my mum goes shopping with her friends and i'm ALWAYS the one stuck at home and there is NOT A CHANCE my mum would ever let me out of this house to go out i always have to go with HER!! whether that's to the cinema or a shopping trip i just have to go with her !! not independent here!!

    i swear my life is soooooo boring and i don't know what to do please help someone !!!
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    So you want help but you don't want help? You'll have to calm down and be more clear, this is difficult to advise on.

    If you do want help, go see your GP. tell them that your family are not understanding. Visit mind.co.uk for other info on depression and how to get help, and also self help methods.
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    Hey

    How do you know you're family would laugh at you if you were to look for help ?

    Also you mum cant stop you from going out of the house when you want to as you are 18
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    Getting help is pretty scary. But it will be worth it, if this is affecting your ability to live how you want to. A doctor will not tell your family anything, so if their reaction is all thats stopping you then you can simply not tell them; you may want to at some point but honestly, its entirely up to you. You really dont have to tell anyone anything that you dont want them to know.

    Not that I'm in any place to diagnose but if you're shy to that extent its probably more of an anxiety thing, maybe. The best thing to do would be to write down a list of everything that you feel is affected by this (so self-esteem problems, general mood, if it affects your sleep etc) and take that to your GP. It makes that first visit a lot less nerve wracking and means you wont forget to tell them anything, and it makes it much easier for them to see the problem!

    Are you going to uni next year too? Having plans will give you things to look forward to. If not and you cant find a job, how about volunteering? Or just do that for the summer even if you are. Itll look good on your CV and even one or two days a week will help you push yourself socially a little and improve your confidence. Try talking to one of your old friends (through email if face to face is too hard) and explain that youre having a very hard time and you didnt mean to upset them but you just havent felt like part of the group. Admitting that you made a mistake and trying to rectify it will probably help them feel more friendly towards you.

    it sounds to me like you are a bit scared of admitting your difficulties to people you know, and thats understandable, but unless people know what is going on they wont know to support you. Try and think about it calmly - do you know for sure your family wont take you seriously, or have you just convinced yourself of it without any real basis? Thats what depression does, makes you think the worst of everything even when its not really rational. They may surprise you! This isnt something you have to do completely on your own, but youre still the one responsible for what action you take regardless of what your family may think - youre an adult, so its your choice how to deal with your health.

    Everyone goes through this stage of being sure they cant ask for help but once you drive through that roadblock then you'll be on the way to sorting it and theres so many places to go from there but the only step you need to deal with now is telling your doctor. good luck!
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    if you are not happy yourself then invest your time into making others happy and your own happiness will follow

    i.e..perhaps do some missionary work in a foreign country for a year?
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    email me on [email protected]
    i will listen to you or we can just have a wee chat
    always here to listen and i will give you advice xxxxx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know this seems like a lot of writing more like an essay but please read this and HELP ME!!! PLEASE!!

    I dunno i think and kind of knew i had depression for a while now because i always feel down and worthess partly because i hate myself i have a very low self esteem, low self confidence i am always shy around others no matter who they are and when i get embarrassed i go all red in the face like RED it's sooooooooo embarrasing and oh yeah i'm 18 years old and doing my A-Levels if that even matters... so i was doing my coursework a while ago and i did this Goldberg's depression test and i got 43 points and it told me i have mild to severe depression and that i should get help quickly ... hmmmm

    but the thing is i don't want to get help because ummm my family are basically never gonna take me seriously and are probably going to laugh it off or laugh at me plus i don't live with my dad and haven't seen him in years since my parents had a divorce :/

    and my friends at sixth form kind of hate me i used to have good friends who i knew from year 7 up until year 11 so thats like 5 years and they were really nice and then when i came to the sixth form i decided not to be friends with them anymore because i never fitted in with them they always used to go out to watch a movie and have amazing mobiles and stuff but i was different i was a shy girl who wasn't aloud out of her house to see her friends. and now they practically hate me because i just left them i never told them why i wasn't their friends any more and i don't have the guts to explain it to them even though they are leaving school in about 2 months for uni

    plus i'm never aloud out of my house because my mums so strict. i never go out and socialise i'm not independant i can't even find a part time job.... my older sister goes out for a part time job on the weekend, my younger brother goes to see his friends at a youth centre on fridays and saturdays, my mum goes shopping with her friends and i'm ALWAYS the one stuck at home and there is NOT A CHANCE my mum would ever let me out of this house to go out i always have to go with HER!! whether that's to the cinema or a shopping trip i just have to go with her !! not independent here!!

    i swear my life is soooooo boring and i don't know what to do please help someone !!!
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