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    hi all,
    sorry for this thread but i feel like i need to say a few things aloud (in an online sort of way at least) and get a few things out there, with any advice being much appreciated
    basically had a really rough couple of years, during my second year of uni me and my partner of over 2 years split up, i really thought she was the one :'( i think this was down to some personal issues, i was bullied for years at school due to appearance and stuff (im not too bad looking now ) but this has made me struggle with being outgoing and meeting new people, not good with chit chat and stuff. ive always had friends, but as time has gone on ive drifted away from them and only have a couple left, who i dont see much anyway. also had some family issues recently which have been tough, my sister died and ive struggled dealing with that. I also graduated from uni a year ago, but i have not found a good job yet and im unsure what job i even want. I have some casual work ive had since i was at uni, but its so rubbish its depressing, i dont even meet new people there. So i basically feel lonely and stuck, i want new friends and to feel refreshed and to improve as a person, but nothing is happening in my life, all the jobs i apply for i just get rejected so i cant even meet new people through a new job.
    thanks to anyone who has read this, what would you do? anyone in a similar situation?
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    I'm a bit younger and I've just come out of a 2 year relationship which obviously isn't as serious but i did find that because i spent so much time with him i sort of expected to have my friends keep up with me but i socialised with them less. BUT now i have got in contact with almost all of my old friends. honestly if they were once your friends then dropping them a wee email or text wouldn't do any harm. i know you want new friends but meeting up with the old ones would be a start because then they will have parties etc...
    my friend who broke up with his long term girlfriend last year went to a festival in Croatia or somewhere by himself and he made a ton of new friends and had a really great time!
    Start off by applying to another job, barman maybe? if you get rejected ask for feedback on why, this may be a bit of a blow to your confidence but knowing where to improve can seriously help you get that little bit more prepared for the next interview!
    or if you need a boost for your CV and meet new people that are naturally kind then volunteer. It may not sound like the most amazing idea but you will grow to love the people you are helping as much as the people you work with.
    Or you could do a one year or shorter course at college or uni. Ive heard of a lot of people being health care assistants in hospitals (you need to apply via NHS jobs) and going to companies to teach you how to teach english- that skill you can take abroad. One of my family friends did that and now she is twenty five and she is travelling the world LITERALLY with a wealthy russian family to teach their kids english and help around the house.
    just some ideas
    if you ever feel lonely and want to chat you can email me- [email protected]
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    (Original post by izzypetrie)
    I'm a bit younger and I've just come out of a 2 year relationship which obviously isn't as serious but i did find that because i spent so much time with him i sort of expected to have my friends keep up with me but i socialised with them less. BUT now i have got in contact with almost all of my old friends. honestly if they were once your friends then dropping them a wee email or text wouldn't do any harm. i know you want new friends but meeting up with the old ones would be a start because then they will have parties etc...
    my friend who broke up with his long term girlfriend last year went to a festival in Croatia or somewhere by himself and he made a ton of new friends and had a really great time!
    Start off by applying to another job, barman maybe? if you get rejected ask for feedback on why, this may be a bit of a blow to your confidence but knowing where to improve can seriously help you get that little bit more prepared for the next interview!
    or if you need a boost for your CV and meet new people that are naturally kind then volunteer. It may not sound like the most amazing idea but you will grow to love the people you are helping as much as the people you work with.
    Or you could do a one year or shorter course at college or uni. Ive heard of a lot of people being health care assistants in hospitals (you need to apply via NHS jobs) and going to companies to teach you how to teach english- that skill you can take abroad. One of my family friends did that and now she is twenty five and she is travelling the world LITERALLY with a wealthy russian family to teach their kids english and help around the house.
    just some ideas
    if you ever feel lonely and want to chat you can email me- [email protected]
    thanks for the reply I think i have more friends than i thought, ive just not been bothering or making an effort, due to just feeling fed up, i guess its just all about making an effort and making the most of stuff I have considered teaching English abroad and i think its something im going to seriously consider, need a change of scenery and a new challenge
 
 
 
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