I've been with my boyf for 1 and a half years and were both going to university next year.
Our universities will be about 1.5-2 hours away in the train (I'm off to York and he's off to newcastle) but he said he said well see each other once every 3 months and even then it will be for a couple of hours or so if that!
i know the reason why this is and I understand him but seeing him so little is still extreme
I'm a girl who loves to be in his presence and seeks his affection and I can just see my self becoming a very jealous and paranoid person and I think I will get frustrated and I don't want it to affect my university work (studying chemistry)
we both love each other very much
what shall I do? Thanks
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- Thread Starter
- 11-04-2013 19:04
- 11-04-2013 19:18
Unless he's ugly/socially inept, which I'm guessing he's not since he's managed to bag you, then yeah it's pretty much doomed, soz xoxo
But hey on the bright side, there will be lots of fresh meat for you too!
- 11-04-2013 19:29
Why only every three months? That's a long time to wait.
- 11-04-2013 19:43
Under normal circumstances I would say it'll be fine - after all, I've been in a 300+ mile LDR for three years, almost right through university.
But if he says things like,
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- 11-04-2013 22:39
Wow every 3 months when you are only an hour and a half apart, sounds like he cannot be bothered, I could understand if he was going to a different country but he isn't. It almost sounds he wants to go off to uni and play the field. I mean LDR's are do-able with communication and honesty to each other, it's hard work but if both put the effort in then it can work, unfortunately sounds like he has already made his decision.
Also a big massive thread dedicated to LDR's here http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=626670
- 11-04-2013 22:44
York to newcastle is one hour by train! Jesus. I go see my gf and she is 1.5 hours by train.
- 11-04-2013 23:07
Yeah, you need to talk to him about it. If my boyfriend told me he could only see me every 3 months (in a situation where we were in an LDR all year round and not just in the holidays) then I would have it out with him about it and ask him if he really wants to be with me anymore if he's only prepared to see me that much. Newcastle to York is really not that far and not expensive either.
If he thinks that seeing you is going to interfere with his degree that much, your relationship probably is doomed. I understand him wanting to put his work first if that is his reason, but if he really wants to be with you he should make time to see you too - wouldn't he see it as a nice break from studying? And besides, although it'll feel like it at the time, first year really isn't a demanding year (unless you're doing something like Medicine) as for most courses it doesn't count towards the final mark - again if he can't make time for you then he's not going to be able to later on when the workload increases.