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    Anon as people may know me here.

    Okay here's the thing. I'm 21 years old and go to an American University in the Middle East. I'm an Arab, and this makes things much complicated for me.

    Anyway, that's not the point. I have a friend, let's call her Megan. Megan and I are really close friends. We tell each other EVERYTHING. Literally everything. She knows my deepest secrets and I trust her with my life.

    As far as I'm concerned, I always classified myself as straight with a hint of bi-curious-ness. I have fantasized about 2 or 3 other guy friends before, but it's only those particular guys.

    Moving on, there's this guy whom I first saw in my uni a year ago. And let me tell you a few things about this guy:

    1) HOT
    2) FIT
    3) SEXY
    4) PERFECT

    Seriously, I'm not exaggerating. He's like a sex-god. I never saw a guy as beautiful as him. He's tall, lean, fit, a bit muscular, the perfect body hair, sexy wavy jet black hair, and the right amount of trimmed beard. He's one gorgeous human being, and trust me, I never ever EVER felt so much attraction for another human as much as him. It's quite odd, since I don't even consider him a "male", just some sort of beautiful creature. I can imagine being with him and doing things with him and it doesnt even feel wrong, because he's p.e.r.f.e.c.t. I just cant take my eyes off him whenever I see him walking by!

    Megan knows my infatuation with him, as she finds him super sexy too. She would say things like "oh god I just wanna rip his t-shirt" and **** he's so beautiful, what a sexy man".... She also loves his lips, and how they're big and perfect...all things I agree with

    Anyway, poor Megan has been helping me, well, both of us really, to get to know the guy. She is very social and knows a lot of people in uni, so it's easy for her to chat him up. And she did, for the first time, 1 month ago....

    First thing she told him? "Can I have your number?" Lol I know. He looked at her and his hands were shaking and he was like "but you dont even know me. Get to know me first..." SO CUTE!

    3 or 4 more times she met him here and there, campus, library, etc, while I awkwardly stood far away or in a corner.... Every time he would be like next time. And every time we see him, he looks at Megan and gives her a wink. That would make her day. We would always see him on campus and he would usually be alone, which made us, me and Megan, both super happy as an excuse to befriend him. Just when things were going smooth, turns out he knows a lot of people, and now we would often see him hanging around with his guy friends

    But we are not giving up. I really want to do something, you know, chat him up, initiate the friendship, but that would be plan weird. I mean I'm a guy...I cant go randomly to another guy and talk to him...awkward and weird...plus we're in completely different majors (fields of study), and he doesnt even know I exist! He just sees me with Megan, that's it.

    And this is really eating me up, you know. I think it's moved beyond this point, where I'm actually becoming obsessed with him. I just want to be friends with him. I swear. Megan told me today, she was like don't worry, I promise you next time I see him, I'll take his number and invite him out and stuff and make you guys close friends. I really hope this works! But it's taking so long!

    Honestly guys, at this point, I just wanna get to know him and be friends with him. I don't know why, but I really believe me and him would be excellent buddies, probably some potential bromance lol. I never actually had close males friends in school, and in uni, I have quite a few male friends, but I'm not so close to them. I really want to be friends with this guy. No matter what! I just want us to be close friends. And if he is into guys, then that's a bonus, but like I said, I'd much rather prefer his friendship. I think we would be great friends.

    I don't know what I can do at this point other than hoping Megan would speed up the process. I know you guys might find it weird how I desperately want to be friends with this guy, but I really think me and him would be excellent mates. The thought of never getting to know him would KILL me.... Anyone been in a similar situation? Guys? Girls? I just NEED him in my life. What can I do?

    I apologize for the long post, but I finally let that off my chest. Please help me TSR.
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    okay , relax, eat some nutella, think about the situation yourself, get some sort of answer, come back here, see the replies, compare it the replies you get, eat some more nutella and then bobs your uncle, fannys your aunt. hope this helps.
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    Why can't you 'accidentally' bump into megan at the library or sth? You know the typical 'opps, i guess i have to tag along' kind of situation.


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    (Original post by whatevenislife?)
    okay , relax, eat some nutella, think about the situation yourself, get some sort of answer, come back here, see the replies, compare it the replies you get, eat some more nutella and then bobs your uncle, fannys your aunt. hope this helps.
    Are you that nutella thief!? :holmes:

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    (Original post by jellybeansnkmk)
    Why can't you 'accidentally' bump into megan at the library or sth? You know the typical 'opps, i guess i have to tag along' kind of situation.


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    i think you should definitely do this!
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    I got a hard on reading that. You should read him that and see how he reacts imo. You are obviously way into him, I doubt you'd be happy being just his friend.
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    (Original post by jellybeansnkmk)
    Why can't you 'accidentally' bump into megan at the library or sth? You know the typical 'opps, i guess i have to tag along' kind of situation.


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    that's actually a great idea! lol But then again, what would happen after that? I mean, hey....and megan would introduce us to each other...then what? See that's the thing. I wouldn't know what to say and then it would be a moot conversation....
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a friend, let's call her Megan.
    Can't we call her Brunhilde instead?
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    (Original post by danny111)
    I got a hard on reading that. You should read him that and see how he reacts imo. You are obviously way into him, I doubt you'd be happy being just his friend.
    hahahaha that actually made me laugh

    I cant do that :P What if he's straight and freak out? Then forget ever befriending him! Lol. Nah, I think it's cuz I'm crushing him so hard it's getting to know me, but once I get to know him, it would stop The important thing is that he's in my life! lol... I just wanna be his friend...is that asking for too much?
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    Megan's blatantly doing this to bang him OP.

    Better make your move before she does.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    that's actually a great idea! lol But then again, what would happen after that? I mean, hey....and megan would introduce us to each other...then what? See that's the thing. I wouldn't know what to say and then it would be a moot conversation....
    Then megan will 'invite' you to library to study and she 'has' to go to the toilet. And you just have to take the chance and talk.


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    (Original post by jellybeansnkmk)
    Then megan will 'invite' you to library to study and she 'has' to go to the toilet. And you just have to take the chance and talk.


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    but what happens then? Like it's probably gunna end like this: We talk, get to know each other "briefly", Megan comes out, conversation is over, we go our separate ways, and just say hi/bye when we pass by each other on campus. How can I get close to him and like we start hanging out, etc?
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    Oh come on guys!! Is one else gunna contribute?? I really need some advice please
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    but what happens then? Like it's probably gunna end like this: We talk, get to know each other "briefly", Megan comes out, conversation is over, we go our separate ways, and just say hi/bye when we pass by each other on campus. How can I get close to him and like we start hanging out, etc?
    Ask Megan for any interests he may have and start a conversation on that? Or interests you happen to share (not in a way that suggests you've been reading up on him though xD)


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    Oh come on guys!! Is one else gunna contribute?? I really need some advice please
    you're not gonna like this, I think it's best you forget about him, you hold him in such high esteem like he's better than every body else and so you'll never feel comfortable talking to him. Like when you meet a celeb and you're like :O omg!
    But this could also be turned around the other way I guess, you need to realise that he's just the same as everybody else, albeit very attractive, and once you have that mindset you may feel more comfortable to go up and talk to him

    TL;DR He's no more special than anyone else, don't feel like he's better than you and maybe you'll feel more comfortable to go up to him.
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    Well talk to him and make yourself stand out of the crowd! You could do the library thing. Just make it interesting and share something that will lead to a long conversation or at the very least a short but meaningful one. Or maybe, ask a question when you see him and initiate a conversation. Be creative! Though in the end, you might want to know if he's attracted to guys cause if he's not then there's no point talking to him. You won't be satisfied with just friendship though if he is a jerk you might be. He might be very attractive it doesn't mean he's perfect. Plus you only know his appearance not his personality.
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    (Original post by paperskin)
    Well talk to him and make yourself stand out of the crowd! You could do the library thing. Just make it interesting and share something that will lead to a long conversation or at the very least a short but meaningful one. Or maybe, ask a question when you see him and initiate a conversation. Be creative! Though in the end, you might want to know if he's attracted to guys cause if he's not then there's no point talking to him. You won't be satisfied with just friendship though if he is a jerk you might be. He might be very attractive it doesn't mean he's perfect. Plus you only know his appearance not his personality.
    omgggggggggggggg. Just when I was about to give up, me and Megan were walking across the campus when we saw him with his friend. Megan screamed "IT'S FATE!" and ran to him. She was telling him why do you always ignore me, I call your name..and he was like I don't ignore you...it's the first time I hear his voice from so clear and its so sexy!! lol

    Anyway, so I moved backwards and called my friend and told her to just talk to me so it's not awkward me standing there with him. Anyway, so then me, Megan, the GUY, and his friend, were walking towards the library. (I was distancing myself away a bit and pretending to be talking to my friend on the phone). That's when amazing Megan called my name and was like "Hey (my name) come say hello to (his name)." I walked up and he we shook hands and he smiled at me and was like "is she always ... social..like that?" I smiled and said "always". lol ...anyway, I wish we were indoors! ahh I was wearing my sunglasses so he couldnt stare into my eyes

    Lol anyway, you can't have everything ;p So then I dunno what happened and Megan was like you're 18? You're so young lol. Shes 20 and I just turned 21. Anyway, so she was like "can i have your phone no. now?" and he was hesitant and then she was like fine take my number and he saved her number and she told him you wanna go out sometime and hang out with us? And he was like sure I'd like to. OMG! I died!! xD

    PS: Also, he told Megan randomly as we were walking that "my friend is gay" meaning the guy with him, and Megan asked the friend are you gay? And the friend laughed and was like no I'm not. MY GUY was actually joking but me and Megan were wondering WHY did he bring it up? It was so random and sudden, maybe he's hiding his sexuality? Cuz Megan asked him, what's your preference? He was like what do you mean and then she was like do you like men or women and he was like females obviously. LOL .. we dont think so ;P

    Anyway, so much happened in one time and I have Megan to thank to and I have YOU GUYS to thank for too, as we're gonna do the library thing tonight! He seems really cool and nice and sweet. Btw he's gonna turn 19 soon and I just turned 21, that's not a big gap if say...something were to happen right?
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    (Original post by srhc24)
    you're not gonna like this, I think it's best you forget about him, you hold him in such high esteem like he's better than every body else and so you'll never feel comfortable talking to him. Like when you meet a celeb and you're like :O omg!
    But this could also be turned around the other way I guess, you need to realise that he's just the same as everybody else, albeit very attractive, and once you have that mindset you may feel more comfortable to go up and talk to him

    TL;DR He's no more special than anyone else, don't feel like he's better than you and maybe you'll feel more comfortable to go up to him.
    hahaha I know, and that's what I'm trying to do! I can never forget him. I'll die lol
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    (Original post by Orenjichan)
    Ask Megan for any interests he may have and start a conversation on that? Or interests you happen to share (not in a way that suggests you've been reading up on him though xD)


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    That sounds like a great idea and Hahhahaha yeah, I'll try not to appear "stalkerIsh" much ;-P Check my latest update....I'M SO HAPPYY!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That sounds like a great idea and Hahhahaha yeah, I'll try not to appear "stalkerIsh" much ;-P Check my latest update....I'M SO HAPPYY!!
    Yay progress!! Just don't get too fired up... Act coooool :cool:
 
 
 
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