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    When I go down on my boyfriend I can spend ages varying between both mouth and hand and he still won't ejaculate. I can easily make him hard but this is worrying me because quite simply I want to be good at it for him. I'm very careful not to use my teeth and to use my tongue around the head. He's always silent for the whole time, the only way he reacts is if he's lying down he sometimes squeezes his legs together and one while standing his legs began to shake and his breathing increased. He rarely touches me while I do this though. i try maintain eye contact as i heard it helps. He's only ever had me go down on him as in previous relationships she had never been ready.
    I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if its because of the position were in when we do it...etc
    I love him and just want to make him feel good.
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    By the sounds of it it's not the lack of trying on your behalf. If he isn't ejaculating how do you know when to stop? Also just how long are you spending on the hj / bj? (estimate since no one times this stuff)

    Personally physical contact during any type of sex if very important for me... and also it could be a problem on his side. (Has he ever spoken about any sort of medical condition?)
    - Also are you both relaxed when attempting any type of sex? Nerves could be his problem.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When I go down on my boyfriend I can spend ages varying between both mouth and hand and he still won't ejaculate. I can easily make him hard but this is worrying me because quite simply I want to be good at it for him. I'm very careful not to use my teeth and to use my tongue around the head. He's always silent for the whole time, the only way he reacts is if he's lying down he sometimes squeezes his legs together and one while standing his legs began to shake and his breathing increased. He rarely touches me while I do this though. i try maintain eye contact as i heard it helps. He's only ever had me go down on him as in previous relationships she had never been ready.
    I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if its because of the position were in when we do it...etc
    I love him and just want to make him feel good.
    Don't worry about it, he's probably a little nervous, even subconsciously, if you're the first person to do it.
    I was at it for 2 and a half hours once without realising and he still didnt ^_^
    Also if he's not reacting, he's probably just a bit embarrassed or nervous about getting too "appreciative", these things take time, once you both get fully used to it it should be okay
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    You might just not be very good at it. Watch some porn.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You might just not be very good at it. Watch some porn.
    This advice can go eitherway...I wouldn't recomend following what you see in porn. As everyone says, it's not realistic and every couple is different, you will find what works eventually.
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    (Original post by TreeOfKnowledge)
    By the sounds of it it's not the lack of trying on your behalf. If he isn't ejaculating how do you know when to stop? Also just how long are you spending on the hj / bj? (estimate since no one times this stuff)

    Personally physical contact during any type of sex if very important for me... and also it could be a problem on his side. (Has he ever spoken about any sort of medical condition?)
    - Also are you both relaxed when attempting any type of sex? Nerves could be his problem.


    Thank you everyone for the reassurance! He usually stops me and pulls me in for a cuddle if its been over an hour or i usually stop after half an hour or so. As far as I know he has no medical condition and we have talked a little about it.
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    Does he even like getting head?

    A few of my friends aren't into it.

    And if he watches porn, ask him who he likes in terms of head giving. I don't think there's anything wrong with watching and learning. Those girls are pros.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You might just not be very good at it. Watch some porn.

    (Original post by TreeOfKnowledge)
    This advice can go eitherway...I wouldn't recomend following what you see in porn. As everyone says, it's not realistic and every couple is different, you will find what works eventually.
    Yeaaahh, I tried a move I thought was called "The Buffer", by stopping stone still for ages ...
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    (Original post by AtlasCanTakeIt)
    Does he even like getting head?

    A few of my friends aren't into it.

    And if he watches porn, ask him who he likes in terms of head giving. I don't think there's anything wrong with watching and learning. Those girls are pros.
    So maybe don't do anything unless he initiates it?
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    All I can say is i feel your pain.

    I have never made anyone ***, and tbh its awfully embarrassing. I was once at it for 3 hours with this guy until we gave up.

    As far as im aware, im not awful, but im not exactly good enough to make them ***.

    It really depresses me
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    Some guys just can't come from head just like some girls can't come from penetrative sex. that doesn't mean he's not enjoying it.

    You're better just off asking him if he enjoys it/how you can make it better.


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    All I can say is i feel your pain.

    I have never made anyone ***, and tbh its awfully embarrassing. I was once at it for 3 hours with this guy until we gave up.

    As far as im aware, im not awful, but im not exactly good enough to make them ***.

    It really depresses me

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So maybe don't do anything unless he initiates it?
    Ask him!

    Ask him what he likes.
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    3 hours? That's crazyyyyy
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When I go down on my boyfriend I can spend ages varying between both mouth and hand and he still won't ejaculate. I can easily make him hard but this is worrying me because quite simply I want to be good at it for him. I'm very careful not to use my teeth and to use my tongue around the head. He's always silent for the whole time, the only way he reacts is if he's lying down he sometimes squeezes his legs together and one while standing his legs began to shake and his breathing increased. He rarely touches me while I do this though. i try maintain eye contact as i heard it helps. He's only ever had me go down on him as in previous relationships she had never been ready.
    I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if its because of the position were in when we do it...etc
    I love him and just want to make him feel good.
    Oh I personally hate eye concact during oral... But it's personal preference I guess
    From what you're saying, he's responding. That's a good start. Maybe you do it for too short period of time? Or maybe try changing your technique? Experimenting is good, it should help
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    This sounds like 100% nerves, nothing physical. I think your attaching too much importance to making your parter orgasm. This is puts stress on him and renders him unable. Personally I think the 'eye contact' sounds like a bad idea too. Just relax and take the pressure off him, consider the sensation to be the purpose rather than just the 'ending'. You will both enjoy it more and eventually the stress will go and he will orgasm.
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    Eye contact is a big thing.

    And if she looks like she enjoys it (even if she doesn't) it'll make him relax.

    Loads more too, but practise makes perfect.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You might just not be very good at it. Watch some porn.
    Probably the worst advice given on this forum. Ever.
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    (Original post by danny111)
    Probably the worst advice given on this forum. Ever.
    Agree. Porn is so horrible... There are no emotions or passsion. It's like watching a programme about fixing up a washing machine - just manual thing.
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    (Original post by lastlullabyy)
    Agree. Porn is so horrible... There are no emotions or passsion. It's like watching a programme about fixing up a washing machine - just manual thing.
    Actually I was more thinking that she would probably choke if she tried to do it like in porn.
 
 
 
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