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    Hi,

    Basically I live with my 2 friends and I've been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months now. We spend a lot of time together but whenever he's over he does washing up, is very polite to them and friendly, doesn't get in the way and even took my friend home when she got too drunk after night out. He's so lovely to then I couldn't ask for a nicer guy. They get on so well but recently they've been getting angry at me saying he's round too much. They are both dominating people and I don't like confrontation at all and sometimes they try to guilt trip me or force me to spend time with them. It's gotten to the point where I'm scared to go back to my flat and don't want to be there. My boyfriend has heard is arguing and heard them saw 'were sick of him being here' which really hurt him as he considered then friends. They say it's nothing against him but I'm fed up and want them to leave me along tbh. What do I do to resolve this anything I do doesn't make them happy. I have stopped him coming over and went to his instead but s not good enough gettin so stressed out
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    They just sound jealous imo. You live there and pay rent so you should be allowed to have your boyfriend over.
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    How often does he come over?
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    The title is rather disingenuous as they are not saying you should see him less, just that they should see him less

    Often the way when one flat mate starts to have their partner at the flat too much
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    We see each other probably every other day but vary whose house we go to
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi,
    Basically I live with my 2 friends and I've been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months now. We spend a lot of time together but whenever he's over he does washing up, is very polite to them and friendly, doesn't get in the way and even took my friend home when she got too drunk after night out. He's so lovely to then I couldn't ask for a nicer guy. They get on so well but recently they've been getting angry at me saying he's round too much. They are both dominating people and I don't like confrontation at all and sometimes they try to guilt trip me or force me to spend time with them. It's gotten to the point where I'm scared to go back to my flat and don't want to be there. My boyfriend has heard is arguing and heard them saw 'were sick of him being here' which really hurt him as he considered then friends. They say it's nothing against him but I'm fed up and want them to leave me along tbh. What do I do to resolve this anything I do doesn't make them happy. I have stopped him coming over and went to his instead but s not good enough gettin so stressed out
    There's not enough info to make a confident answer. However, you should remember that it's their space too. They opted to share with you, not with you and your bf. Having a guy always round in an all-girl flat could be uncomfortable. Having a 4th person frequently using shared items whose costs are split 3 ways could be annoying. There may be other objections which they might have - you probably need to buy a bottle of wine and sit down and talk with them.
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    It's all about compromise
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    They say it's not about bills just the amount he's there but if I go to his it's that I'm there too often but I have exams atm so not going to be hanging out with them anyway I literally go to library and then sleep at bfs or he stays at mine it's not hanging out. Can't really win with them!
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    It sounds to me like they feel you're not spending any time with them anymore. How often do you go out with them now you have a boyfriend and how does it compare to how often you went out before? You may feel you still spend time together because you live together and maybe are in the same lectures/seminars but these don't really count as you're sort of forced into them. They probably feel you've abandoned them as a friend in favour of your boyfriend, and want you to spend a little less time with him so you guys can go out together as friends again.

    If you have exams at the minute are you also not seeing your boyfriend or are you just splitting your time between him and revision? If it's the latter then that may be making things worse. If you have time to socialise with your boyfriend then you have time to socialise with your friends too.
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    Are you two getting in their way, or do you generally go into your room and spend time there?

    They sound jealous tbh.
 
 
 
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