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    I'm 23 in a few weeks. My job isn't what I applied for, was headhunted as a temp then it went perm after months. I'm a 1 person team doing admin for all our offices on a national scale, my colleague quit with no notice who I started temping with as the pays too bad at £18k and we were already understaffed replacing a team of 4-5 who were made redundant. So now it is just me and my team leader but his role is split as only half the time to help me. I've got almost 2yrs experience doing this same job at smaller firms though and have always had the most responsibility. We all know that I'm going to move soon if not promoted with payrise soon, I've been prompting questions about this and people get shocked to find how small our team is and is just a pair, everytime visitors from other regions come to see us

    Here's the thing, since my 1st day er people sitting nearby have been trying to set me up with male colleagues. Mainly the recruitment consultant who met and got commission off me, as a temp hmm I didn't show that I liked him at all as it is risky but now I'm perm. It is allowed as everyone dates. Wondering why they're mostly mentioning him to me all the time though, maybe as we're both brown but he never acts like he likes me... Is nice though and has bought me drinks or is a gentleman though but doesn't try hard to talk and get to know me. He's in his late 20s 27/28 and really good looking, everytime colleagues asked me about this I'd say he's a colleague so can't comment but the more I was bugged er I just admitted yea he's attractive. Some other guys are too. He was honest at the start and said this is the starting point of a career as we're the biggest recruitment firm in the world so it'd look good. We'd chitchatted at first during the meeting after my interview informally and the moment I saw him, I was so shy and thought oh **** **** uhoh he's hot! Didn't know what to say so we rambled talking **** and he said lol I thought he'd be white because he's got a Christian name but is also Indian right and I was like lol, he said his dad was Catholic or something which for a first meeting was suggesting that his dad is no longer around and it felt quite personal. He didn't really ask me anything work related, just said that he thinks I should work internally rather than for the jobs they hire for and it was good advice which I took

    Tomorrow I'm interviewing at a competitor which pays a graduate salary and if I get a career, I'd look to move asap as I'm getting old now and have to think seriously. If I fail to get a career after 3 to max 5 interviews by July, then I'm thinking of staying for 1yr from now until doing a postgrad abroad. The people are mostly nice, I guess it is fun and the guys are cute but it is difficult as I'd have to wait 6months from now to see if promoted and the payrise won't be that high I reckon. If I move to a competitor for a career, maybe there would be more nice guys but what if there isn't and I miss the people from where I work now, it'd be hard to have time to date etc. It is just a difficult situation, if I leave er I wouldn't know whether to hint it to the guy that I think he's cute. This week it is a social night, I'm thinking to spruce up so he notices me more as he briefly comes over to say how I'm doing but not for that long tbh. If I move jobs, hope he'd be understanding as he's going to think why did I take perm, well I didn't think it'd be worse situation where no replacement would be found and no negotiation for me to get payrise to do all the work. I hope he doesn't get annoyed by me but probably will be :rolleyes:. My colleague who quit and I at the pub did say to him that the pays crap for the workload. Now it is just me, I think he sort of knows that I may not last long now as when walking by to go home, I overheard him saying to someone else why don't they just hire another 1 to work with me now as I'm always doing daily overtime until late! I'm really unsure how he's going to react though as he can be empathetic but may not be and hope it doesn't upset me if he says something mean to me if I leave :mad:. Unsure if he cares but I'd feel the need to explain myself:confused:
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    What utterly ridiculous reasons for wanting to stay in a job.
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    Current job, the people are nice, it is fun. A bit like uni. Apparently the training is the best on the market. When I move, everyone will be disappointed in me as I already knew some people and have made lots of friends. My team leader and boss will be pissed off when I move as they've been nice but I just can't stay to do all of the work on low pay, they count on me to do it all. The director isn't that nice, when he gave me perm, I said I'd think about it but he wanted an answer there and then so I said er I need a day to think, as this would mean working alone permanently a lot. There's no real career progression, I don't blame people to leave and find a career. There's a really nice girl my age who quit after promoted who'd been there since placement year, she got a 1st from a good uni so I did wonder why she's still around, until she moved then the managers were mad but everyone else said that she's missed

    I guess the dating thing can get unprofessional at times. I sit next to someone who dated the director then got promoted to manager and we all know that otherwise they wouldn't have got it, friends of managers too as the person leading me again was lucky to get promoted as the boss is a childhood friend. I think I'd only date if I know I'm going to stay somewhere long, otherwise it may give the person a bad name. I don't know whether I want to stay and wait, moving is effort but the promotional thing is a matter of how liked someone is

    Think I've sort of answered my own question but unsure. Move to a career and start over again, hopefully people will be just as nice or nicer and I'll stay long-term. If we weren't understaffed and the situation wasn't so unfair, I wouldn't be wanting to move urgently. People do try keep me sweet and it works but not for much longer, keeping someone sweet isn't the same as a payrise. I'll miss people
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    This post response to an article is something that I can relate to and feel like now, as of the age and the fact the dude is a graduate but in dead-end jobs:
    http://lifehacker.com/5988272/why-you-should-revisit-your-five-year-plan?post=58011859

    Apart from I think about 6month-1 or 2yr plans. Although since I started working full-time, it has been through contacts and mostly by not applying. I move around and at the moment I ask about how long it'd take to get promoted and what the next stage would be. If it'd take too long as I feel so now, I think it'd be better to move to a promotion instead elsewhere

    I don't think about marriage but have started to think of settling down, since graduating. Before as a student when asked about marriage, I'd say that I'd maybe think about it 5yrs after graduating as I'm too career focused or on studying more. Also it means that I have to start thinking of serious relationships right now. Hmm, I'm panicking as I'm 23 in a few weeks... It has been too difficult finding people I like, I've never liked any of my male friends back and it is so hard to find time to socialise besides at work. I only liked 1 guy at uni who I was seeing briefly, noone at 6th form I liked back. I'm feeling pressure as I'm too picky about what I want and can never find everything easily: career, man. Heck I'm too picky with food
 
 
 
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