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    Ever had a situation where you wanted to be friends with somebody, and tried to make it work, but just cannot get over an awkwardness in so doing?

    I feel as though I have made an effort with somebody at work (another lad) whom I really respect (although quite a bit younger than me) but it just doesn't seem to be working. It's not that the effort isn't reciprocated, it's just that both of us seem weird and awkward in each other's presence.

    I feel it has something to do with the age gap; we have things in common, but not social stuff, which makes social occasions such as meeting down the pub for a quick pint a little strange, when really it shouldn't be strange.

    I can accept that I am more to blame than my friend, as I am out of practice of this kind of thing, yet other people find me more bearable, so it cannot all be me.

    By now, I think I am embarrassed to continue making an effort in a friendship that doesn't work. How do I go about shying away from it?
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    Sometimes thebonly thing you can do is to stop trying and it happens naturally. Hopefully. worked a couple of times for me.

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    (Original post by goldenforever)
    Sometimes thebonly thing you can do is to stop trying and it happens naturally. Hopefully. worked a couple of times for me.
    I am pretty certain that if I stopped making an effort with this guy, then I would never hear from him again, so it won't improve the friendship.

    Yet I am just feeling a sense of failure and embarrassment as I feel I have let my guard down to this person in a small way; I am not normally known as sociable, yet because I respect this guy so much I found things to relate to and talk about.
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    (Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel)
    I am pretty certain that if I stopped making an effort with this guy, then I would never hear from him again, so it won't improve the friendship.

    Yet I am just feeling a sense of failure and embarrassment as I feel I have let my guard down to this person in a small way; I am not normally known as sociable, yet because I respect this guy so much I found things to relate to and talk about.
    Dont worry about it, honestly, i wouldnt want a friend that doesnt make the effort back,which is the impression im getting. Honestly stop trying to make it work, more try and imply within your conversations that youre worth the effort on his part. Maybe mention your other friends from another social circle, might make him jealous to a minor degree. Things like that will eventually make him more willing to make conversation.
 
 
 
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