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    Hey all,

    I'm a guy and a friend of mine split up with her boyfriend recently. When I say recently, this initially happened about the end of January. However, since then, they've been on and off. He ended it with her for not so long ago. He was her first and only long term boyfriend till date (they've been together for 2 years). She's taken it quite hard.

    I'm her close friend and so she's been sort of depending on me to talk things through, ask a bit of advice, my opinions and sometimes cheer her up or take her mind off what's been going. This has primarily been through texts and sometimes skype. She's been emotional, which is understandable.

    Problem is 2 things:

    1) She can't get to sleep so she ends up texting me during the middle of the night. I don't have the heart to ignore it, so end up replying. This becomes a convo throughout the night. Last 2 weeks, I haven't slept earlier than 3am! Worst was when we stayed up till 4:30am! This is extremely tiring as I have work the next day whereas she doesn't.

    2) She's never texted me this regularly ever before. Now its not only nights but day time as well. I'm just worried that I'm being taken advantage of. I don't know if I am. She has other friends but I'm not sure how close she is with them. Either way, its me she ends up coming to.

    For the record, I'm don't fancy her or have a crush on her. I'm just losing sleep in trying to help her out. I thought it may be one or two nights but now its every night. And like I say, I can't help but feel she's taking a bit of advantage.

    What do I do? Please help, I like my sleep lol

    (Please keep anon as I know quite a few people on here, thanks.)
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    Turn your phone off at night. Don't let this become a regular thing, by all means give her the support she needs, but texting you regularly in the middle of the night is a bit too far.

    Try to speak to her other friends and see if they can help her out.

    Tom
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    Turn your phone off at night. Don't let this become a regular thing, by all means give her the support she needs, but texting you regularly in the middle of the night is a bit too far.

    Try to speak to her other friends and see if they can help her out.

    Tom
    I usually keep it on silent, but because she starts texting from about 11pm, I end up replying because I'm still awake. And she sounds really sad in her text so I feel bad to just stop.

    I don't know her other friends very well at all unfortunately.

    But thanks for your reply.
 
 
 
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