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    I am finding that I am quite lonely, and have been for a number of years now. However, when I try to do something about it, I cannot succeed because I am considered slightly weird, possibly even autistic.

    When I go down the pub, or for a lunch with a mate, I am always too quiet, and I think other people get bored with me very easily.

    Body language is my worst problem. When talking online such as Facebook or Twitter, or when texting people, I do not have to worry about body language, therefore I often come across as normal. Yet when I meet up with people, I am often considered a horrendously different person.

    So is it even possible to cure my loneliness when I am maybe battling some form of autism with which I have not yet been diagnosed?
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    I think you need to relax and aim to meet and be around people who accept you for who you are.
    You are not wierd, the only person who is formaly labelling you as that is yourself.
    Stop worrying about how people react to you, you'll become more confident and things will sort themselves out.
    In order to be accepted you need to accept yourself!
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    (Original post by reedA93)
    I think you need to relax and aim to meet and be around people who accept you for who you are.
    You are not wierd, the only person who is formaly labelling you as that is yourself.
    Stop worrying about how people react to you, you'll become more confident and things will sort themselves out.
    In order to be accepted you need to accept yourself!
    I labelled weird at work all the time, and get bullied by grown adults because of it, but that's another story.

    I label myself weird because that's all I have ever heard anyone else say to me.

    However, let's be frank: I am weird, if only a little. My body language is hideous; I cannot make eye contact; I have a weird voice; I cannot smile because I don't like my teeth, etc.

    People must hate being around me; I must give off such negative vibes.
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    'I must give off such negative vibes', there's the issue.
    You shouldn't let other people define who you are, you choose how you are.
    By thinking that the vibes you give off are negative you are giving off negative vibes as you're beating yourself up about it.
    Think about the things you think about yourself, then think how someone you know would feel if you said similar things about them to them.
    How would someone you know feel if you said to them 'your body language is hideous, you can't make eye contact, your voice is wierd.
    You wouldn't say it to them because of how much pain you'd cause. So why on earth should you say it to yourself?!
    I think the first step is self respect and confidence, if you respect yourself you become more confidence.
    People will then also respect you and admire your confidence.
    Social situations can be hard, however the only way to get good a socialising is through practising.
    Confidence is key, change the way you think!
 
 
 
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