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    So i'm in a ldr, been together since just before christmas, and skyped 4 times, cause we're both busy people, not been on a date yet though. Anyway the last two times, he's asked me to play with myself, but i'm just never horny. Well not when i'm skyping, just rather talk... And when i try, it just doesn't happen, twice now he's ended the call cause of it... really annoying, i told him the last time it won't happen, and we talk for two weeks. He said he loved me and that for the first time ever, on the last skype chat.
    Oh and i'm still a virgin, but he's experienced...
    What do i do?...
    Any advice or guidance, would be much appreciated
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    Dirty talk is your solution. While you're on skype and/or perhaps just before, send dirty messages to each other. If he is any good, that will get you going.

    Speaking from experience.
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    Talk to him on Skype when you're horny.
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    Am I the only one who thinks he sounds like a bit of a **** if he ends the call with you just because you don't feel like masturbating for him on camera?
    Fair enough a man may have needs, but it's not fair of him to act childish and make you feel bad if you're not comfortable with something.
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    The guy might not want to pay for some live webcam porn so he's using you!
    Break up with him and try and find someone nearer to where you live
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    You're just some free live porn for him, he only said he loved you to get something on camera!
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    (Original post by Daniellejo.)
    Am I the only one who thinks he sounds like a bit of a **** if he ends the call with you just because you don't feel like masturbating for him on camera?
    Fair enough a man may have needs, but it's not fair of him to act childish and make you feel bad if you're not comfortable with something.
    I forgot to mention this. I totally agree with you, it's well out of order for him to just end the call because he didn't get what he wanted.

    Having said that...

    (Original post by bahjat93)
    The guy might not want to pay for some live webcam porn so he's using you!
    Break up with him and try and find someone nearer to where you live

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    You're just some free live porn for him, he only said he loved you to get something on camera!
    ... the assumption that this guy doesn't actually care about the OP and is only after her for some sort of personal porn source is baseless and quite ridiculous IMO.

    Being in an LDR and regularly seeing your attractive other half on Skype is one of the most sexually frustrating things you can inflict on yourself. If a guy really just wanted to use women for sex the last thing he would do is get into a long distance relationship.
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    How are you in a LDR if you've not been on a date yet? He sounds like he's using you a bit, especially if he ends the call because you're not in the mood.

    Personally I'd meet him etc first before doing any intimate cam stuff. Its risky. BUT, if you decide to do anything on cam...make sure your face is hidden, just in case. I'm really paranoid about that stuff :ninja:
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    he sounds horrible, get rid of him!
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    (Original post by Daniellejo.)
    Am I the only one who thinks he sounds like a bit of a **** if he ends the call with you just because you don't feel like masturbating for him on camera?
    Fair enough a man may have needs, but it's not fair of him to act childish and make you feel bad if you're not comfortable with something.
    Oh yeah definitely, he does sound like a ****.
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    Definitely time to let go. Long distance relationships aren't supposed to work like free porn.
    If it gets worse, just stop contacting him altogether.
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    He is clearly using you. Don't continue masturbating on Skype. It's dangerous for a number of reasons. Even if you think you know him well (which I doubt it by what you have said) if you break up he could spread the videos/pictures.


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    He just want to see you stroke the pussy.


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    This definitely isn't a relationship. The guy definitely isn't in love with you. I dunno if you talk to him because you enjoy the attention and the fact that he seems to be interested in you, but it really sounds like he's just talking to you to see you naked on cam. To do that he's willing to let you believe you have a 'relationship' and that he's in love with you. How could you possibly know that when you haven't even met him? A girl on cam getting naked = hot.. but, a girl on cam who you know getting naked = 10x hotter. Anything is hotter when you know the person.
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    Well we text and email a lot, so know about each other's interests, and what we've done education and work wise, he says he hasn't been paid for two months, so reason for unable to come see me plus, with the money he has saved, he's spending on running his car and buying a house. Which i believe, but i did call him a child, the first time he ended the call.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well we text and email a lot, so know about each other's interests, and what we've done education and work wise, he says he hasn't been paid for two months, so reason for unable to come see me plus, with the money he has saved, he's spending on running his car and buying a house. Which i believe, but i did call him a child, the first time he ended the call.
    I remember my LDR from last year. She left me by saying "brb, I gotta go to the store" and she never came back.


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    I don't think he's treating this as a real relationship, more that he wants something to **** to. How long did you know him for before the relationship began and was it ever not long distance?
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    (Original post by Daniellejo.)
    Am I the only one who thinks he sounds like a bit of a **** if he ends the call with you just because you don't feel like masturbating for him on camera?
    Fair enough a man may have needs, but it's not fair of him to act childish and make you feel bad if you're not comfortable with something.
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    I told him about my friend going missing, and getting a phone call at 4am from worried parents and i said it was due to the abuse she was receiving from her bf, and mentioned abuseinrelationships.org. He has told me that "im not going missing xxxxx".
    Reuben F - did you not have her contact details?...
    Parpirate - 3 months previous to the relationship and well he lives near family but we met in a pub near me, he travels up and down the country for work, always been ldr.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I told him about my friend going missing, and getting a phone call at 4am from worried parents and i said it was due to the abuse she was receiving from her bf, and mentioned abuseinrelationships.org. He has told me that "im not going missing xxxxx".
    Reuben F - did you not have her contact details?...
    Parpirate - 3 months previous to the relationship and well he lives near family but we met in a pub near me, he travels up and down the country for work, always been ldr.
    Nope, just Skype. She went to the store with her parents and I guess she was leading me on. No phone number, surname, Facebook. We met through a mutual friend who doesn't know much either. She had a habit of going off the grid for a few days but I guess her streak of 8 months is just ridiculous.

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