Bf - photo of naked friend + flirting/joking about it
Few months ago, I was on my boyfriend's laptop. Tried to click on My Computer as was fixing something, accidentally clicked on My Photos. Saw naked photo of someone, an amateur one, taken by someone themselves. Looked like a friend of his. Had suspicions, let go, went to then go check my gmail.
He was already logged onto his gmail. Not proud of this, but saw conversation with girl I thought the naked photo was of. Quickly saw her talking about "not letting [him] see more photos of her vajayjay". That's all I saw, I shut it down and went into shock. Basically connected the two. Conversation dated in the last month or so.
Exploded at him, he told me it was a pornographic photo, downloaded it as his internet doesn't allow him to watch videos. I don't care about him watching or looking at porn. I care it was potentially a girl he knew. He used to like her and they used to send each other lots of naked photos. This photo, however, was dated a month before. I googled her, keep googling her, the face looks the same, the body shape looks the same, everything looks the same. He convinced me of the above story, just a photo of a website. I never fully believed him tbh.
Suspicions are rising again. Had a fight, and now I've brought it up. She looks so similar. So incredibly similar. I know I sound like a psycho looking her up but I could swear on my life it is her.
What the hell do I do. Relationship of 3 years. Everything feels wrong anyway with him, maybe I should just stop kidding myself he's not lying. He said he's been cheated on before and never would do it to anyone else. Maybe he just meant physical cheating. She lives in America. SHe looks so similar and I'm going mad, what do I do?
He was already logged onto his gmail. Not proud of this, but saw conversation with girl I thought the naked photo was of. Quickly saw her talking about "not letting [him] see more photos of her vajayjay". That's all I saw, I shut it down and went into shock. Basically connected the two. Conversation dated in the last month or so.
Exploded at him, he told me it was a pornographic photo, downloaded it as his internet doesn't allow him to watch videos. I don't care about him watching or looking at porn. I care it was potentially a girl he knew. He used to like her and they used to send each other lots of naked photos. This photo, however, was dated a month before. I googled her, keep googling her, the face looks the same, the body shape looks the same, everything looks the same. He convinced me of the above story, just a photo of a website. I never fully believed him tbh.
Suspicions are rising again. Had a fight, and now I've brought it up. She looks so similar. So incredibly similar. I know I sound like a psycho looking her up but I could swear on my life it is her.
What the hell do I do. Relationship of 3 years. Everything feels wrong anyway with him, maybe I should just stop kidding myself he's not lying. He said he's been cheated on before and never would do it to anyone else. Maybe he just meant physical cheating. She lives in America. SHe looks so similar and I'm going mad, what do I do?
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She called it a vajayjay?
Is she really old enough to be sending naked photos?
Is she really old enough to be sending naked photos?
Original post by Anonymous
Few months ago, I was on my boyfriend's laptop. Tried to click on My Computer as was fixing something, accidentally clicked on My Photos. Saw naked photo of someone, an amateur one, taken by someone themselves. Looked like a friend of his. Had suspicions, let go, went to then go check my gmail.
He was already logged onto his gmail. Not proud of this, but saw conversation with girl I thought the naked photo was of. Quickly saw her talking about "not letting [him] see more photos of her vajayjay". That's all I saw, I shut it down and went into shock. Basically connected the two. Conversation dated in the last month or so.
Exploded at him, he told me it was a pornographic photo, downloaded it as his internet doesn't allow him to watch videos. I don't care about him watching or looking at porn. I care it was potentially a girl he knew. He used to like her and they used to send each other lots of naked photos. This photo, however, was dated a month before. I googled her, keep googling her, the face looks the same, the body shape looks the same, everything looks the same. He convinced me of the above story, just a photo of a website. I never fully believed him tbh.
Suspicions are rising again. Had a fight, and now I've brought it up. She looks so similar. So incredibly similar. I know I sound like a psycho looking her up but I could swear on my life it is her.
What the hell do I do. Relationship of 3 years. Everything feels wrong anyway with him, maybe I should just stop kidding myself he's not lying. He said he's been cheated on before and never would do it to anyone else. Maybe he just meant physical cheating. She lives in America. SHe looks so similar and I'm going mad, what do I do?
He was already logged onto his gmail. Not proud of this, but saw conversation with girl I thought the naked photo was of. Quickly saw her talking about "not letting [him] see more photos of her vajayjay". That's all I saw, I shut it down and went into shock. Basically connected the two. Conversation dated in the last month or so.
Exploded at him, he told me it was a pornographic photo, downloaded it as his internet doesn't allow him to watch videos. I don't care about him watching or looking at porn. I care it was potentially a girl he knew. He used to like her and they used to send each other lots of naked photos. This photo, however, was dated a month before. I googled her, keep googling her, the face looks the same, the body shape looks the same, everything looks the same. He convinced me of the above story, just a photo of a website. I never fully believed him tbh.
Suspicions are rising again. Had a fight, and now I've brought it up. She looks so similar. So incredibly similar. I know I sound like a psycho looking her up but I could swear on my life it is her.
What the hell do I do. Relationship of 3 years. Everything feels wrong anyway with him, maybe I should just stop kidding myself he's not lying. He said he's been cheated on before and never would do it to anyone else. Maybe he just meant physical cheating. She lives in America. SHe looks so similar and I'm going mad, what do I do?
Did you ask about the email conversation? What was the excuse there?
Original post by randymandy
Did you ask about the email conversation? What was the excuse there?
He said they were talking about the photos they sent from the past. but she looks so similar
Original post by mikeyd85
She called it a vajayjay?
Is she really old enough to be sending naked photos?
Is she really old enough to be sending naked photos?
She is 24/25. My boyfriend is 25, I am 19 (nearly 20), age gap, ldr, the works. maybe he wanted her. she's probably better than me
Original post by Anonymous
She is 24/25. My boyfriend is 25, I am 19 (nearly 20), age gap, ldr, the works. maybe he wanted her. she's probably better than me
Better?
What a load of ****. I won't hear that from anyone. Nobody is innately better than anyone else. People are different, they show their strengths and hide their weakness. When you compare against another, you compare your weaknesses to the stenghts they show in public. This is a twisted view on things and is wrong.
Sometimes in life **** just happens. You're young, if you've got any doubts about this, just end it. There's no point hanging on to something that doesn't, make you happy. If he's happier with her, then let it be. Fighting a war in a far off land over something you're not sure about just seems a little pointless.
If I'm reading you wrong here, just say. But your heart doesn't seem in it.
If your worried about being single, please, don't be. Having someone for the sake of it is just pointless. Be happy in yourself and shared your life with only those you care about. It's an easy way to be very happy.
Original post by mikeyd85
Better?
What a load of ****. I won't hear that from anyone. Nobody is innately better than anyone else. People are different, they show their strengths and hide their weakness. When you compare against another, you compare your weaknesses to the stenghts they show in public. This is a twisted view on things and is wrong.
Sometimes in life **** just happens. You're young, if you've got any doubts about this, just end it. There's no point hanging on to something that doesn't, make you happy. If he's happier with her, then let it be. Fighting a war in a far off land over something you're not sure about just seems a little pointless.
If I'm reading you wrong here, just say. But your heart doesn't seem in it.
If your worried about being single, please, don't be. Having someone for the sake of it is just pointless. Be happy in yourself and shared your life with only those you care about. It's an easy way to be very happy.
What a load of ****. I won't hear that from anyone. Nobody is innately better than anyone else. People are different, they show their strengths and hide their weakness. When you compare against another, you compare your weaknesses to the stenghts they show in public. This is a twisted view on things and is wrong.
Sometimes in life **** just happens. You're young, if you've got any doubts about this, just end it. There's no point hanging on to something that doesn't, make you happy. If he's happier with her, then let it be. Fighting a war in a far off land over something you're not sure about just seems a little pointless.
If I'm reading you wrong here, just say. But your heart doesn't seem in it.
If your worried about being single, please, don't be. Having someone for the sake of it is just pointless. Be happy in yourself and shared your life with only those you care about. It's an easy way to be very happy.
You're right. Even before this, for a whole year, he flirted with other girls and compared me to his ex. I have no confidence now, now self-esteem, everything is based on what he'll like. I'm so lost. I can't believe it.Thank you
I think you have to leave him , you seem unhappy with him in general
Original post by Anonymous You're right. Even before this, for a whole year, he flirted with other girls and compared me to his ex. I have no confidence now, now self-esteem, everything is based on what he'll like. I'm so lost. I can't believe it.
Thank you
You're right. Even before this, for a whole year, he flirted with other girls and compared me to his ex. I have no confidence now, now self-esteem, everything is based on what he'll like. I'm so lost. I can't believe it.Thank you
Honestly love, it sounds like he's driven you to this point by systematically breaking your confidence. How intentional that is I can't say, only you can judge that. Before you make that judgement though, give yourself time to think.
If you do break up with him, give yourself time to find yourself. Allow yourself the space to indulge in experimentation with the arts, hobbies, the world. Find what makes you happy again.
Only when one can truly love oneself can one truly love. There's some truth in that.
Been with him since 16, now 19. 3 whole years of my life. It's just not right anymore, I have no more confidence, everyday I feel wretched and have done for the 3 years. I think he might have cheated on me too.
Sounds stupid but I'm scared to break up and be single. Can someone give me some reassurance on how to do it? This is my first relationship.
Sounds stupid but I'm scared to break up and be single. Can someone give me some reassurance on how to do it? This is my first relationship.
I am in the same position
But I am not scared to be single....I am scared of what he will do to me if I properly break up with him. He has made threats like he will kill me or my family in the past and has said he will take his revenge in whatever way he can. As he has serious anger issues I am sure he will too
I don't love him and I want to escape but I am scared of what may happen
But I am not scared to be single....I am scared of what he will do to me if I properly break up with him. He has made threats like he will kill me or my family in the past and has said he will take his revenge in whatever way he can. As he has serious anger issues I am sure he will too
I don't love him and I want to escape but I am scared of what may happen
Original post by Huskaris
You'll feel a lot better if you are genuinely unhappy. If you have no confidence, surely he should be helping you with that?
You might feel like it's a weight off your shoulders (count yourself lucky this is one of my few non troll responses)
You might feel like it's a weight off your shoulders (count yourself lucky this is one of my few non troll responses)
I have no confidence because of things he's done
Everything feels bad, we have nothing in common anyway, everything is wrong. I'm just scared to be alone Thank your for your reply
Original post by Anonymous
She lives in America.
You need to chill, at best he was just building on some **** bank material
Original post by Anonymous
I have no confidence because of things he's done Everything feels bad, we have nothing in common anyway, everything is wrong. I'm just scared to be alone
Thank your for your reply
Everything feels bad, we have nothing in common anyway, everything is wrong. I'm just scared to be alone Thank your for your reply
Precisely, because of things he's done... Doesn't make you a bad person. Being alone isn't that bad, you would be shocked at how many other decent people are out there :P
Original post by Yawn11
You need to chill, at best he was just building on some **** bank material
But flirting and joking about it? While coming up to a 3 year relationship with me? I don't mind him using porn, I don't care, but they've had a past, and they were joking about it again, and I could swear it was her.
You want to know how to break up or how to cope being single?
Breaking up's easier said than done, and especially in your case you seem to have gotten used to a bad relationship. I think you need to work out for yourself not only why you want to break up with him, but also why now. That should give you some strength. If you've felt wretched for 3 years because of your relationship, you're undoubtedly making the right decision to call time on it, too.
As for coping with with being, it's tricky without knowing what your likes and dislikes are. But what you ought to do is keep doing the stuff you did without him (time with your friends, time alone etc), and see if you can find something else you enjoy to fill the time you would have otherwise spent with him.
Breaking up's easier said than done, and especially in your case you seem to have gotten used to a bad relationship. I think you need to work out for yourself not only why you want to break up with him, but also why now. That should give you some strength. If you've felt wretched for 3 years because of your relationship, you're undoubtedly making the right decision to call time on it, too.
As for coping with with being, it's tricky without knowing what your likes and dislikes are. But what you ought to do is keep doing the stuff you did without him (time with your friends, time alone etc), and see if you can find something else you enjoy to fill the time you would have otherwise spent with him.
I'm scared I won't find anyone else. I'm just so ugly, no one will ever love me. What if this is the only person who will ever want me.
Original post by Anonymous
I am in the same position
But I am not scared to be single....I am scared of what he will do to me if I properly break up with him. He has made threats like he will kill me or my family in the past and has said he will take his revenge in whatever way he can. As he has serious anger issues I am sure he will too
I don't love him and I want to escape but I am scared of what may happen
But I am not scared to be single....I am scared of what he will do to me if I properly break up with him. He has made threats like he will kill me or my family in the past and has said he will take his revenge in whatever way he can. As he has serious anger issues I am sure he will too
I don't love him and I want to escape but I am scared of what may happen
For you, you should wire yourself up or keep your phone on record and record him threatening you. When you've collected enough evidence, go to the police and ask for your bf to not be allowed near you.
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