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    Hi, first post on here.
    I'm 19 and for the past 3 years i've been living with OCD and experienced violent intrusive thoughts. There are periods where it's not too bad but i'm coming out of a phase now where what i've gone through was probably worse than when it first hit as it was accompanied by severe depression.

    I've only ever told one person that i'm suffering from this and that was my GP, and that was only a couple of weeks ago. I don't want to tell my family as i don't want them to worry about me and i don't want them to think i'm some insecure nutter.

    I'd like some questions answered really, primarily if it is possible to achieve a stage where you can go through long periods, weeks and months without having to worry about this ******* of an illness?

    Secondly what can triggure a bad episode of OCD? I know weed is a no go and i learned that the hard way as my GP told me that triggured my last bad episode, but in terms of alcohol... a pint of beer goes some way to relieving my stress but i don't want to become dependant on it, there is defo temporary relief from it but what are the long term effects in relation to OCD?

    Lastly i guess the question to ask is can you lead a normal life having OCD?

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    Of course you can live a normal life! From experience this...
    Work out what your OCD habits are figure out what triggers them...stress,anger etc.
    I have almost constant anxiety and I know that certain habits are a relief mechanism. Personally I try replacing some habits gradually and trying not to get stressed about it. Instead of having my pens on the right all the time i may put one which im using to the left.
    I dunno I'm not really sure my habits count as OCD really.
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    I would talk to your family if you can manage it -- if you think they might understand if you explained it well enough. OCD thrives on secrecy. I did much better after I'd told my family and my closest friends -- I didn't talk to them about it very much, but there was at least this vague sense of support that helped me through. When you're keeping it secret, it can make your obsessions worse.

    Answer to your first question: yes. Definitely yes. You always need to "manage" it -- you always need to be aware, I guess, that it's a problem for you -- but you can definitely get to a stage where it doesn't interfere with your life anymore. Have you had ERP? That's the most effective treatment and goes a long way towards recovery. If you can't get it from a professional, you can often do some of it yourself -- look around on the Internet and see what you can find. ERP sucks to go through, but the results are worth everything.

    As to triggering bad episodes... coffee is often really bad. Lack of sleep can be bad. I haven't seen any bad effects brought on by alcohol but everyone is different.

    And living a normal life? Of course. You'll get out of this bad patch -- it will take work, but you can do it. ERP techniques are probably the way to go. Accept your thoughts and move on; don't let yourself compulse. Since it sounds like you have Pure O OCD, have you figured out what kinds of thoughts are compulsions rather than obsessions? That's an important thing to figure out as far as recovery goes. Checking your reactions to things, asking for reassurance, and avoiding things can all be examples of compulsions.

    Seriously. You're going to be fine. Loads and loads and loads of people go through this. It's going to be okay.
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    (Original post by Isobelily)
    I would talk to your family if you can manage it -- if you think they might understand if you explained it well enough. OCD thrives on secrecy. I did much better after I'd told my family and my closest friends -- I didn't talk to them about it very much, but there was at least this vague sense of support that helped me through. When you're keeping it secret, it can make your obsessions worse.

    Answer to your first question: yes. Definitely yes. You always need to "manage" it -- you always need to be aware, I guess, that it's a problem for you -- but you can definitely get to a stage where it doesn't interfere with your life anymore. Have you had ERP? That's the most effective treatment and goes a long way towards recovery. If you can't get it from a professional, you can often do some of it yourself -- look around on the Internet and see what you can find. ERP sucks to go through, but the results are worth everything.

    As to triggering bad episodes... coffee is often really bad. Lack of sleep can be bad. I haven't seen any bad effects brought on by alcohol but everyone is different.

    And living a normal life? Of course. You'll get out of this bad patch -- it will take work, but you can do it. ERP techniques are probably the way to go. Accept your thoughts and move on; don't let yourself compulse. Since it sounds like you have Pure O OCD, have you figured out what kinds of thoughts are compulsions rather than obsessions? That's an important thing to figure out as far as recovery goes. Checking your reactions to things, asking for reassurance, and avoiding things can all be examples of compulsions.

    Seriously. You're going to be fine. Loads and loads and loads of people go through this. It's going to be okay.
    My mum sort of found out from what ive been suffering from and to be honest its not that bad, i guess you have to suffer from pure ocd yourself to truly understand the **** that flies through your head. My recovery is going well since i posted this, feel happy and content for the first time in years as ive actually started to confront the issue rather than run from it.
    You seem to know alot about OCD so can i ask you a question.

    My pure ocd basically got triggured off by a violent movie i saw that shook me up quite a bit, i havent watched that movie since, if i watched that movie could that help me? i ask this because (going a bit private now) sometimes when i watch porn, i often get images of a sexual nature flying through my head but it goes away quickly, could the continuous violent images be the result of me watching this violence and getting so shook up that my mind hasnt been able to process what i saw and is still stuck there?
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    I'm so glad you're feeling better!

    What you're referencing sound a lot like intrusive thoughts. There is no "why" to intrusive thoughts -- they just ARE, and most people have them, not just people with OCD. The trouble is, people with OCD attach a lot of importance to those thoughts, and that's why there is that need to compulse, because the intrusive thoughts set off so much anxiety. Try not to overanalyze the reason you're having intrusive thoughts. Just try to accept that you have them and then move on.

    You potentially COULD watch that movie again, but you'd need to be doing it for the right reasons. If you watched it and then went into compulsions (rumination, checking, analyzing your past, anything like that), that would ultimately be harmful and bad, because it would make your obsessions worse. If you watched it for ERP reasons, to try and desensitize yourself to violent images, and made sure you didn't compulse and welcomed in any anxiety that it sparked, that could potentially be helpful -- but you'd need to make sure that's really what you were doing, that you weren't watching it to "check" how you might respond. I'd check with a counselor or someone first and see what they said about it.
 
 
 
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