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    What are the dos and donts on first date and things that ensure a second date
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    Don't keep the conversation one sided.
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    You must kiss on the first date. You must flirt hard!
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    (Original post by RHCPfan)
    Don't keep the conversation one sided.
    Does that include centering questions around her?
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    (Original post by Dante Maretto)
    Does that include centering questions around her?
    Well try not to make it like it's an interrogation but obviously ask questions, let her speak then you can add something to what shes just said before jumping into another question.
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    Does anyone even go on dates these days under the age of 20
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    Don't be too forward, OP. Be talkative and ask her a lot of questions about herself.
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    (Original post by eliza.anne)
    Seems to work well for me. :teehee:

    Nah. Don't be too forward, OP. Be talkative and ask her a lot of questions about herself.
    Aha nah im writing a story about a date but since ive never been a date i have no idea how it should go
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    Ask them about themselves, and then see if they are willing to talk about themselves all night or if they actually ask stuff about you.... Haha
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    Here's a big one: Lead. Being the guy, you want to be authoritative and decisive. Girls don't like to make the decisions, so if you've just had coffee, don't ask "So what do you wanna do now?". Yes, it may work with some girls, but generally girls want their man to be a man who knows what he wants.

    Here's something that's also incredibly useful but often overlooked. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say. A lot of the time people forget to ask questions and show an interest, rather they keep talking about themselves whenever they get the chance. No girl has ever complained that they talked too much on their date. Ask questions!

    It's easy to be in a conversation just partially listening to what they're saying, while you're thinking, "Ok, what am I gonna say after this.. Once I've replied, what will the next conversation topic be?". By doing this you miss a lot of the cues which lead off onto other questions naturally.

    Here's an example of a bad conversation:

    A: What kinda things do you like doing in your spare time?
    B: I'm pretty interested in cooking, I recently started taking cooking classes.
    A: Oh cool, I'm not that good at cooking, but I know enough to get by.
    B: (---) Maybe you should take lessons too.
    A: Haha, maybe I'll join your class.
    *Tumbleweed*
    A: What else are you interested in?

    Here's an example of a better conversation:

    A: What kinda things do you like doing in your spare time?
    B: I'm pretty interested in cooking, I recently started taking cooking classes.
    A: Oh cool, I'm no good but I'd love to learn. What's it like; are you enjoying it?
    B: It's been really fun so far, I've learnt lots of useful techniques and some pretty tasty recipes.
    A: Awesome, what's your favourite dish that you've learnt so far?
    B: I really like the Parmesan-roasted chicken with sauteed potatoes and asparagus, it's delicious!
    A: Are you confident enough to make it for someone else to try?
    B: I've practiced it a few times so I wouldn't mind
    A: How'd you like to cook for us tonight? I'll bring a bottle of wine..
    (You get the picture by now, surely...)
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    Here's a big one: Lead. Being the guy, you want to be authoritative and decisive. Girls don't like to make the decisions, so if you've just had coffee, don't ask "So what do you wanna do now?". Yes, it may work with some girls, but generally girls want their man to be a man who knows what he wants.

    Here's something that's also incredibly useful but often overlooked. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say. A lot of the time people forget to ask questions and show an interest, rather they keep talking about themselves whenever they get the chance. No girl has ever complained that they talked too much on their date. Ask questions!

    It's easy to be in a conversation just partially listening to what they're saying, while you're thinking, "Ok, what am I gonna say after this.. Once I've replied, what will the next conversation topic be?". By doing this you miss a lot of the cues which lead off onto other questions naturally.

    Here's an example of a bad conversation:

    A: What kinda things do you like doing in your spare time?
    B: I'm pretty interested in cooking, I recently started taking cooking classes.
    A: Oh cool, I'm not that good at cooking, but I know enough to get by.
    B: (---) Maybe you should take lessons too.
    A: Haha, maybe I'll join your class.
    *Tumbleweed*
    A: What else are you interested in?

    Here's an example of a better conversation:

    A: What kinda things do you like doing in your spare time?
    B: I'm pretty interested in cooking, I recently started taking cooking classes.
    A: Oh cool, I'm no good but I'd love to learn. What's it like; are you enjoying it?
    B: It's been really fun so far, I've learnt lots of useful techniques and some pretty tasty recipes.
    A: Awesome, what's your favourite dish that you've learnt so far?
    B: I really like the Parmesan-roasted chicken with sauteed potatoes and asparagus, it's delicious!
    A: Are you confident enough to make it for someone else to try?
    B: I've practiced it a few times so I wouldn't mind
    A: How'd you like to cook for us tonight? I'll bring a bottle of wine..
    (You get the picture by now, surely...)

    Great advice and that's a very good example there!
    Thumbs up from me! :yep:
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    (Original post by Solid.Snake)
    Great advice and that's a very good example there!
    Thumbs up from me! :yep:
    Cheers man, feels good to know that it actually got read and was appreciated
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    Here's a big one: Lead. Being the guy, you want to be authoritative and decisive. Girls don't like to make the decisions, so if you've just had coffee, don't ask "So what do you wanna do now?". Yes, it may work with some girls, but generally girls want their man to be a man who knows what he wants.

    Here's something that's also incredibly useful but often overlooked. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say. A lot of the time people forget to ask questions and show an interest, rather they keep talking about themselves whenever they get the chance. No girl has ever complained that they talked too much on their date. Ask questions!

    It's easy to be in a conversation just partially listening to what they're saying, while you're thinking, "Ok, what am I gonna say after this.. Once I've replied, what will the next conversation topic be?". By doing this you miss a lot of the cues which lead off onto other questions naturally.

    Here's an example of a bad conversation:

    A: What kinda things do you like doing in your spare time?
    B: I'm pretty interested in cooking, I recently started taking cooking classes.
    A: Oh cool, I'm not that good at cooking, but I know enough to get by.
    B: (---) Maybe you should take lessons too.
    A: Haha, maybe I'll join your class.
    *Tumbleweed*
    A: What else are you interested in?

    Here's an example of a better conversation:

    A: What kinda things do you like doing in your spare time?
    B: I'm pretty interested in cooking, I recently started taking cooking classes.
    A: Oh cool, I'm no good but I'd love to learn. What's it like; are you enjoying it?
    B: It's been really fun so far, I've learnt lots of useful techniques and some pretty tasty recipes.
    A: Awesome, what's your favourite dish that you've learnt so far?
    B: I really like the Parmesan-roasted chicken with sauteed potatoes and asparagus, it's delicious!
    A: Are you confident enough to make it for someone else to try?
    B: I've practiced it a few times so I wouldn't mind
    A: How'd you like to cook for us tonight? I'll bring a bottle of wine..
    (You get the picture by now, surely...)
    Ah a smooth talking french guy eh!
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    (Original post by superduper9)
    Ah a smooth talking french guy eh!
    I'm actually English, but thanks for the smooth talking compliment

    (FYI, I created the account when I studied French; ergo RichyFrench.)
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    Don't I'm or er too much. Don't make bad jones or rude jokes, don't pick your nose, don't fart, don't talk with your mouth full, and so on.

    (Original post by eliza.anne)
    Seems to work well for me. :teehee:
    It's the law in Essex.
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    (Original post by thunder_chunky)
    It's the law in Essex.
    :yep: Considered rude if you don't ask/offer




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    (Original post by the bear)
    never ask for anal on the first date
    That made me giggle

    Anyway ...
    I personally think that a first date should be fun. Nothing too romantic, but nothing too boring. A day out somewhere would be nice. Talk about general stuff that both of you can relate to and have equal thoughts to share about.
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    LOL, I read the title as 'Fresh dates'.

    I thought we were going to discuss the date fruit.
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    ALWAYS ARRANGE WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO BE DOING.

    Don't turn up at a random street corner and awkwardly scuff your feet as you figure out what you'd both like to do.
    Plan it beforehand which allows enough activity to keep an awkward moment from occurring as well as allowing you to casually talk to each other about anything and everything.
 
 
 
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