basically during sex i usually *** way too early before my gf has really enjoyed herself. its not premature ejactualtion, i just rarely last longer than say 20 seconds.
sometimes i last for ages, but thats after a few days of lots of sex.
just wondering if theres anything which can make me last longer (and dont suggest the 'chair' trick )
cumming too soon..... Watch
- Thread Starter
- 17-04-2013 00:00
- 17-04-2013 00:27
There’s not one cause; it’s a combination of factors. Some believe anxiety is the culprit, repetitive learned behaviors, excessive or insufficient arousal, or muscular tension. First, you need to learn to calm yourself down and lower your performance anxiety levels. Secondly try using Local anaesthetic gel or Condom. Hopefully it will help and Lastly Try to think of something other then sex during the Intercourse.
- Community Assistant
- 17-04-2013 10:49
It is PE, because you're coming before you want to.
Ignore the post above - you want to be aware of what you're feeling, not trying to think of something else. Anaesthetic condoms are also a bad idea - if you want to feel nothing, use a dildo.
The real answer is learning the signs of when you're about to come, and practising doing changing the stimulation so that you don't (unless you want to). There's a good set of exercises in Bernie Zilbergeld's books: Men and Sex and The New Male Sexuality (the second edition of the first one).
- 17-04-2013 13:32
You need one of these to take your mind off it