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    I'm trying to get over someone... What has everyone found is the best techniques, I want everything to the best breakup films to the best activities to take my mind off him.

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    I just try to busy myself with something i am passionate about. For example I am really into human rights and revolutions so whenever i'm getting over anyone i turn on.... V for Vendetta haha hell yeah. But I would suggest just taking some time and looking at the big picture of all things, but most importantly staying busy.
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    The feeling that you experience after a break up is horrendous, no question.


    But don't think that you're being ridiculous, those feelings of anger, sadness, denial and grief are all totally normal.


    However, instead of trying to ignore them or beating yourself up about feeling sad, the best thing you can do is to just go with them...


    Don't be afraid to cry hysterically, make your way through five tubs of Ben and Jerry's or consume a few too many bottles of wine - whatever works for you, just don’t bottle your feelings.


    The problem with a messy break-up is that you’ll never find the answers you’re really looking for.


    You fantasise a million different situations as to why he has broken your heart like this.


    Maybe he's just too stressed with work? Maybe he just needs some space to breathe?


    Don’t waste your time soul searching over why the relationship ended, texting him for his thoughts and wondering "was it something I did?"


    Face up that it’s over, and look to the future.


    The only way to get over someone is to try and live your life normally without constant reminders of them around.


    That means a bit of a cleanse (it's tough love time):
    • Cut all ties with him - no phone, no Facebook, no communication, no excuses!
    • Stop reliving your relationship with your friends on the phone. Thinking about the ‘good ol’ days’ won’t help.
    • Removing all reminders of them from your home, car, and work space. That includes the little passport photo of him you keep in your wallet.


    If you can’t bear to throw things away, put them in a box, tape it up and hide it somewhere hard to get to - preferably guarded by three headed dogs.


    It’s a cliché, but it’s true - when you enter into a relationship you leave behind bits of your single life.


    Although some aspects might be best left in the past, there will be some things that you will want to reclaim.


    Time to get that haircut you always wanted but he didn't like, blow a shed-load of cash on outrageous shopping sprees and get back to doing the things that you put on hold for him.


    Start saying 'yes' to every opportunity that comes your way - if you used to turn down work drinks to be with your other half, now is the time to get out there and mingle.


    This will help on two levels - you’ll be reminded that being single can actually be a really great thing, plus you’ll be so busy that all thoughts of “him” will disappear.


    It’s been said that the quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone, but frankly, we disagree.


    The quickest way to feel even more miserable is to sleep with someone you’re not really interested in.
    Ignore your friends and their “helpful” advice, and make sure that you move on at your own pace.


    If you want to take a break from the opposite sex for a year then so be it. And equally if you want to get right back out there you have to do what feels right for you.


    No one should judge you or push you into meeting someone new sooner than you’d like. The only person who can make you feel better is you!
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    I youtubed 'how to cope with a break up' some of the sensible ones are pretty helpful

    Went through a bad break up myself once (unrequited love, he decided, after 2 of the happiest months of my life because he was finally going out with me, that he wasn't 'feeling it', so broke it off!)

    Anyway, it took me a good year, but i moved on. Never thought it was possible, but it was. You've got to be strong. Was it a bad break up? Did he hurt you? If so, tell yourself that you're a better, stronger person without him, and that he has done you a favour by breaking it off.

    Find a hobby to indulge in. Take up a sport, join a new club, totally immerse yourself in something new, so that your energies are focussed on something positive and enjoyable.

    Do, however, take the time to grieve. Bad break ups are a grieving process.

    And, most importantly- seek support in your friends. Not advice, support. You just need people to be there for you, and friends really are fnatastic things

    you'll get past this
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    The below is some top, top advice in my opinion. Well said!

    (Original post by kameestar)
    The feeling that you experience after a break up is horrendous, no question.


    But don't think that you're being ridiculous, those feelings of anger, sadness, denial and grief are all totally normal.


    However, instead of trying to ignore them or beating yourself up about feeling sad, the best thing you can do is to just go with them...


    Don't be afraid to cry hysterically, make your way through five tubs of Ben and Jerry's or consume a few too many bottles of wine - whatever works for you, just don’t bottle your feelings.


    The problem with a messy break-up is that you’ll never find the answers you’re really looking for.


    You fantasise a million different situations as to why he has broken your heart like this.


    Maybe he's just too stressed with work? Maybe he just needs some space to breathe?


    Don’t waste your time soul searching over why the relationship ended, texting him for his thoughts and wondering "was it something I did?"


    Face up that it’s over, and look to the future.


    The only way to get over someone is to try and live your life normally without constant reminders of them around.


    That means a bit of a cleanse (it's tough love time):
    • Cut all ties with him - no phone, no Facebook, no communication, no excuses!
    • Stop reliving your relationship with your friends on the phone. Thinking about the ‘good ol’ days’ won’t help.
    • Removing all reminders of them from your home, car, and work space. That includes the little passport photo of him you keep in your wallet.


    If you can’t bear to throw things away, put them in a box, tape it up and hide it somewhere hard to get to - preferably guarded by three headed dogs.


    It’s a cliché, but it’s true - when you enter into a relationship you leave behind bits of your single life.


    Although some aspects might be best left in the past, there will be some things that you will want to reclaim.


    Time to get that haircut you always wanted but he didn't like, blow a shed-load of cash on outrageous shopping sprees and get back to doing the things that you put on hold for him.


    Start saying 'yes' to every opportunity that comes your way - if you used to turn down work drinks to be with your other half, now is the time to get out there and mingle.


    This will help on two levels - you’ll be reminded that being single can actually be a really great thing, plus you’ll be so busy that all thoughts of “him” will disappear.


    It’s been said that the quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone, but frankly, we disagree.


    The quickest way to feel even more miserable is to sleep with someone you’re not really interested in.
    Ignore your friends and their “helpful” advice, and make sure that you move on at your own pace.


    If you want to take a break from the opposite sex for a year then so be it. And equally if you want to get right back out there you have to do what feels right for you.


    No one should judge you or push you into meeting someone new sooner than you’d like. The only person who can make you feel better is you!
 
 
 
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