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    I won't make this anonymous because very few people actually know me on TSR and I am not a troll!

    I am currently 17 and have been concerned about one thing in my sex life - I last too long. While some may see that as a good thing, it means I gain very little pleasure out of sex and start to get tired after about an hour.

    This may be beneficial for the partner in some ways, but I am tired of experiencing this time and time again and don't look forward to what is effectively a workout where I feel like I am being used.

    It has nothing to do with me being too small to get any feeling as some people suggest on other threads - I am well above average. It also does not apply to the girls that I have been with. They have all been adequately sized.

    I am not circumcised and all the girls I have had relations with, I have found very attractive. I don't know if it might be a mental thing in my head because I can sort myself out within 10-15 minutes. However when having sex I just cannot seem to 'finish' through sex alone, I always end up having to finish myself off. This obviously makes me feel bad and her too as she feels like she is doing something wrong.

    Has anyone had this issue before and any ways of overcoming it? It is a bit of an issue at the moment because we have A levels and I just don't have the time to dedicate an hour or more to someone.

    Any serious suggestions would be appreciated.
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    You are watching too much pornography and w***ing.

    You say you "don't have time to dedicate an hour", to what, getting laid? It has become too easy for you to do it yourself.

    Stop tossing and you will definitely see results.
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    Have a toss break for a few weeks then see if anything changes

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    You don't have to come via intercourse! If you stop enjoying it, stop doing it and move to something else. While there are women who enjoy extended intercourse, there are many who are bored and sore after a while, and even for the ones who enjoy it, having a partner who's not enjoying it and who is getting frustrated isn't going to be much fun.

    I suspect it's down to the difference in sensations between the years of solo masturbation and being inside a vagina. It can take time to get off on the latter as quickly as you can with the former.

    So.. particularly if you're 'hard and fast' when alone, try a slower and more gentle action. Using lube also helps. When it comes to partner sex, don't start until you're particularly turned on.
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    (Original post by unprinted)
    You don't have to come via intercourse! If you stop enjoying it, stop doing it and move to something else. While there are women who enjoy extended intercourse, there are many who are bored and sore after a while, and even for the ones who enjoy it, having a partner who's not enjoying it and who is getting frustrated isn't going to be much fun.

    I suspect it's down to the difference in sensations between the years of solo masturbation and being inside a vagina. It can take time to get off on the latter as quickly as you can with the former.

    So.. particularly if you're 'hard and fast' when alone, try a slower and more gentle action. Using lube also helps. When it comes to partner sex, don't start until you're particularly turned on.
    That seems logical. I'll give it a break for a week or two and see if that helps things!
 
 
 
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