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    Hi everyone

    Basically, I'm thinking of going to university in Scotland (my other choice is in England), but I'm really worried, because I'm scared that if I choose the university in Scotland, I'll really upset my family?

    The other university I'm considering is pretty close to home, but the Scottish one is SO far away, and I'd be really worried to accept it in case it'll make my parents sad that they won't see me for ages.

    I have talked to them and they say that I should just choose whichever one I like the most, but I think they're just saying that to be supportive.

    I don't want them to think that I want to be away from them (because I don't at all!) but at the same time I really want to consider the Scottish one seriously, as well as the English university - What should I do??

    Any help would be greatly, grealy appreciated! Thank you.
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    Hi everyone

    Basically, I'm thinking of going to university in Scotland (my other choice is in England), but I'm really worried, because I'm scared that if I choose the university in Scotland, I'll really upset my family?

    The other university I'm considering is pretty close to home, but the Scottish one is SO far away, and I'd be really worried to accept it in case it'll make my parents sad that they won't see me for ages.

    I have talked to them and they say that I should just choose whichever one I like the most, but I think they're just saying that to be supportive.

    I don't want them to think that I want to be away from them (because I don't at all!) but at the same time I really want to consider the Scottish one seriously, as well as the English university - What should I do??

    Any help would be greatly, grealy appreciated! Thank you.
    Go to the university you like best. I'm sure your parents would rather you be happy than feel like they restricted you. There are always ways to stay in touch, you can call, text, facebook and skype them! It's always hard at first but you'll get used to being away and they'll get used to you being in Scotland! I didn't move away for uni and regret it, and all my friends that went far away for uni and had initial worries now love it!

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    (Original post by adieu)
    Hi everyone

    Basically, I'm thinking of going to university in Scotland (my other choice is in England), but I'm really worried, because I'm scared that if I choose the university in Scotland, I'll really upset my family?

    The other university I'm considering is pretty close to home, but the Scottish one is SO far away, and I'd be really worried to accept it in case it'll make my parents sad that they won't see me for ages.

    I have talked to them and they say that I should just choose whichever one I like the most, but I think they're just saying that to be supportive.

    I don't want them to think that I want to be away from them (because I don't at all!) but at the same time I really want to consider the Scottish one seriously, as well as the English university - What should I do??

    Any help would be greatly, grealy appreciated! Thank you.
    It's your choice, so I think you should decide.

    Also, distance doesn't matter, it's probably more travelling time that matters and how easy it is to get there - Scotland may be far but if you can get a direct train it may not be so bad - I worked out Durham was probably much easier and faster to get to than Exeter even though its a good bit further away!


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    As a parent, I can tell you they'll be emotional when you leave, no matter where you go, but probably also very proud of you for being brave enough to go so far from home by yourself. Sounds like they're great parents who raised a great person, so don't worry about them feeling hurt - they're mature enough to know you love them and won't feel rejected. Good parents know this day will come, from the day they brought you into the world!
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    Go where you want to go. When I was 18, I wanted to apply to Aberystwyth, but didn't because of what my parents would think. (I ended up not going to uni at all - I'm going now, 5 years later).
    Now, my brother studies there, and he loves it, and my parents are proud. My mum sometimes struggles with how far away he is, and it's almost impossible for him to come home for a weekend, but we've all been to visit him a few times


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    It sounds like your parents are mature enough to remember the old saying "if you love something, then you've got to let it go". It's not like you can only communicate by carrier pigeon - you can text, skype, call etc. whenever you want. I think parents always struggle a little bit when their kids first fly the nest (heck, when I first left I was on the other side of the world) but they do get on with things.

    Chances are that if you throw yourself into uni life (societies, volunteering, socialising, part time job whatever floats your boat) then you will find yourself not wanting to come home that often. I'm only three hours away (by train) from home and I have gone up to three months without going home. It's nothing to do with the distance, but everything to do with the fact that I am really enjoying myself at uni.

    Don't forget that you will be home for anything up to five months of the year - you'll have a week off in late October / early November, a month off at Christmas, a month off at Easter and three months off over summer, so your family will still get to see plenty of you. They can also come and visit you, and you can show them the sights in your new city, which I'm sure they'll really enjoy.
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    They wouldn't have said that you should choose which one YOU want if they didn't mean it. It's hard for all parents, at least you'll still be in the UK and on the same landmass! Lots of people come from all over Europe to study in Scotland so you definitely will not be the only one far from home.

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder! Being away from home can make you appreciate your family more, while broadening your horizons and growing yourself as a person. Take the opportunity to show your parents how much you'll miss them, and always make time to Skype them and send them postcards if that makes you feel like that would help

    Good luck!
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    Thank you all so much for your responses - they've all been really, really helpful, and thank you all for taking the time to be supportive, too, because it means so much to me!

    I AM going to Scotland provided I get my grades, so thanks so much again to you all for helping me make that decision!
 
 
 
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