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    I'm really looking forward to (hopefully) going to Uni next year, and am just curious how long it takes to go from: "Argh! I don't know anyone! Better go socialise..." to having an established friendship group you would consider your 'good friends'? I know you meet lots of people in freshers week and just generally around but they don't immediately become your best mates...


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    (Original post by Voltozonic)
    You'll speak to loads of people in freshers week and then hardly see any of them again.

    It depends on how much of an effort you make and luck with "flat-lottery" as it's called.

    I'm currently coming towards the end of my first year and don't really have any friends. But i'm quite introverted and hate the Uni drinking culture.
    Yeah I thought that would be the case...

    So do you not get on with your flatmates?


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    I agree with the above, a lot depends on how you get on with your flatmates, and that's just down to luck. My flatmates in first year were ok, but we had little in common, and I never considered any of them to be my friends. This year, I've moved in with some new people, and I consider them all to be my friends, and were living together next year.

    You also have the opportunity to make friends on your course/neighbouring flats, so don't be afraid to talk to people, as I was when I first went to Uni
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    The college system at Cambridge makes it a bit different, but I felt settled in my group of friends after about a month - met the guys who've ended up being my best friends on the first day though.
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    (Original post by AVB)
    I'm really looking forward to (hopefully) going to Uni next year, and am just curious how long it takes to go from: "Argh! I don't know anyone! Better go socialise..." to having an established friendship group you would consider your 'good friends'? I know you meet lots of people in freshers week and just generally around but they don't immediately become your best mates...


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    I have stayed at home during my undergrad so found it a little more difficult to make friends. 1st year I had some smoking buddies, 2nd year I found a solid group of friends and saw them outside of lectures and 3rd year has been awesome. Good solid friendship group, friendly with lots of course mates and get together outside of uni regularly to do stuff (not just getting drunk, not really my thing!)
    It definitely depends on how much effort you make to be honest

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    Well in my first year, I had a group of friends that I went out with all the time, and I am on good terms with everyone on my course and go to alot of (drinking) LAN parties with them. then in my second year, I made a completely new set of friends on top. and then my closest friends are my flatmates. And also one of my best friends go to another university in the same city, So I am friends with his flatmates as well.

    But I knew who were from christmas of my first year, then my group of close friends expanded in the beginning of my second year.
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    I'm nearing the end of my first year.

    I have my core group of friends, and have had since about November. Since then it's been getting to know everyone better and expanding that group through meeting their friends.
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    (Original post by RibenaRockstar)
    I'm nearing the end of my first year.

    I have my core group of friends, and have had since about November. Since then it's been getting to know everyone better and expanding that group through meeting their friends.
    What do you tend to do for the first couple of months before you establish your core friends?


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    (Original post by AVB)
    I'm really looking forward to (hopefully) going to Uni next year, and am just curious how long it takes to go from: "Argh! I don't know anyone! Better go socialise..." to having an established friendship group you would consider your 'good friends'? I know you meet lots of people in freshers week and just generally around but they don't immediately become your best mates...


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    For me it was something like 4 days


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    On the very first day in halls I ended up at the flat upstairs and made someone of my best friends.
    It was about a month in before I started getting friendly with other people on my course, the faculty hosted a quiz night which was a really good way to make friends, because we had to make teams.
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    (Original post by LSD)
    For me it was something like 4 days


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    Lucky you! haha

    How did you meet them?


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    (Original post by AVB)
    Lucky you! haha

    How did you meet them?


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    Met a group of people outside our biology introductory lecture at the beginning of freshers week and got chatting, there was about 6 of us and we were all staying at home and commuting so couldn't do many night time freshers activities, so we met up every day of freshers and every day after that for two years The group expanded to about 12. Third year we all specialised into our different areas of biology so we don't see much of each other anymore. I still count them as close friends though always will.


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    First Term id say, but you slowly acquire other 'lesser' friends through seminars and societies, depends how sociable you are really well thats my personal experience
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    (Original post by AVB)
    What do you tend to do for the first couple of months before you establish your core friends?


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    I was lucky that one of the girls who I've been friends with since year seven came to the same uni, so just knowing she was there helped. the first couple of weeks were odd... I spent time by myself and with my flatmates.

    One of my flatmates I'd been speaking to since like this time last year, so that was good.
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    Took til around late Jan/early feb of first year before I knew who my best friends were so dont worry about it, first term is a mess really as you aren't sure who are your friends and who aren't
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    I got on with my flatmates... ok, but have little in common with them. For me, I became friends with most people on my course pretty much instantly (it's hard not to on a course like mine, you kind of have to see them as family by christmas really ) and then from that lot I have my best friends - the ones I'm living with next year - my close friends, and then friends and I'm nearing the end of first year, I'd say it took me until around late November to establish my best and close friends, before that I was just friends with everyone on my course and a few people outside of it
 
 
 
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