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    I experienced bullying at a young age and never thought i would ever experience it during sixth form.
    I moved from a different city and managed to meet a few people, my friends at my new sixth form wouldn't even account to the number of my fingers on my one hand.They is a very very few people i can trust and i have learnt to be independent.


    Recently i was placed into a class with individuals that i had never had never met and they thought it was funny to make fun of me, my name precisely as it has a strange connotation and is very Victorian. A group of boys laughing,sniggering and making malicious inappropriate jokes and gestures in a pack of 6 can be very intimidating to a girl that is alone in the class and doesn't know many people.I have tried to rise above it and brush it off but today i was too much, i would hear my name every 3 minutes, i find it very strange as i don't even know these people... I nearly cracked and lost my temper as the jokes lately have become cruel and spiteful.I kept in control because i knew shouting would only accelerate and make them laugh even more and i didn't want to give them the satisfaction.As i was walking out of the room they couldn't even look me in the eye; they only do it if they are in a group of friends which is pretty pathetic.


    I thought i could just brush it off and be mature but I have realized that i have to address the issue as they won't let it go.Even though I am scared as I am alone in the class and they is a group of them and many more friends, if i don't defend myself no one else will.
    I want to address them in a way that I want to keep my cool whilst i get my point across.Do i just wait until they do it again and then nip it in the bud there? I am do not want to be spiteful nor repay them by the way they have treated me as that't not me. I just want to shut them up by putting them in their place .what type of thing should i say, i have to see them again and i'm pretty sure they could make more crude jokes and tell their group of friends therefore i just want to get my point across that i can hear everything they see and do not think it's remotely funny.
    My main issue is that they will deny it and make me come of as paranoid. any ideas how to deal with them?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I experienced bullying at a young age and never thought i would ever experience it during sixth form.
    I moved from a different city and managed to meet a few people, my friends at my new sixth form wouldn't even account to the number of my fingers on my one hand.They is a very very few people i can trust and i have learnt to be independent.


    Recently i was placed into a class with individuals that i had never had never met and they thought it was funny to make fun of me, my name precisely as it has a strange connotation and is very Victorian. A group of boys laughing,sniggering and making malicious inappropriate jokes and gestures in a pack of 6 can be very intimidating to a girl that is alone in the class and doesn't know many people.I have tried to rise above it and brush it off but today i was too much, i would hear my name every 3 minutes, i find it very strange as i don't even know these people... I nearly cracked and lost my temper as the jokes lately have become cruel and spiteful.I kept in control because i knew shouting would only accelerate and make them laugh even more and i didn't want to give them the satisfaction.As i was walking out of the room they couldn't even look me in the eye; they only do it if they are in a group of friends which is pretty pathetic.


    I thought i could just brush it off and be mature but I have realized that i have to address the issue as they won't let it go.Even though I am scared as I am alone in the class and they is a group of them and many more friends, if i don't defend myself no one else will.
    I want to address them in a way that I want to keep my cool whilst i get my point across.Do i just wait until they do it again and then nip it in the bud there? I am do not want to be spiteful nor repay them by the way they have treated me as that't not me. I just want to shut them up by putting them in their place .what type of thing should i say, i have to see them again and i'm pretty sure they could make more crude jokes and tell their group of friends therefore i just want to get my point across that i can hear everything they see and do not think it's remotely funny.
    My main issue is that they will deny it and make me come of as paranoid. any ideas how to deal with them?
    I think this is a good idea, if you feel strong enough to do so. You say they are in a class with you. . In my opinion I would do this while in the class with your teacher present, when you hear your name, try to listen to exactly what you say so you can quote it back to them, after a few minutes of listening interrupt them (even if this interrupts the teacher) and say something like "excuse me, im sure i just heard you mention my name, would you mind repeating what you said?" they will probably go bright red and try to say they didnt say anything, in that case quote something you just heard them say and say something like "thats funny, cos im sure you just said ....blah blah blah". then the teacher will probably ask whats going on and u can explain in front of them. they should get in some sort of trouble but even if they dont after it you should just act completely indifferent like it hasnt bothered u. they should then realise its not affecting you and stop hope this helps
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    Urgh, I hate that. I mean, there's trying to get your attention but surely they know you're not into it. They're meant to be engaging you if it was banter and if you're left feeling lonely it ****ing well isn't banter.
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    Hey, just remember not everyone in this world are ********s like that!
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    (Original post by sony42)
    I think this is a good idea, if you feel strong enough to do so. You say they are in a class with you. . In my opinion I would do this while in the class with your teacher present, when you hear your name, try to listen to exactly what you say so you can quote it back to them, after a few minutes of listening interrupt them (even if this interrupts the teacher) and say something like "excuse me, im sure i just heard you mention my name, would you mind repeating what you said?" they will probably go bright red and try to say they didnt say anything, in that case quote something you just heard them say and say something like "thats funny, cos im sure you just said ....blah blah blah". then the teacher will probably ask whats going on and u can explain in front of them. they should get in some sort of trouble but even if they dont after it you should just act completely indifferent like it hasnt bothered u. they should then realise its not affecting you and stop hope this helps
    thanks. I have realized I need to address it immediately after they say something and to sit near enough of hearing range of what they say. the other students can hear what they are saying buy wouldn't even get involved which is expected.even though I'm scared of approaching them, if I don't say it they will continue to make the jokes and will do it to someone else.
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    (Original post by Snagprophet)
    Urgh, I hate that. I mean, there's trying to get your attention but surely they know you're not into it. They're meant to be engaging you if it was banter and if you're left feeling lonely it ****ing well isn't banter.
    yea. had it been banter, I would have kept my chin up and laughed it off, it's much different. they stop each time I look towards them but worse of all, I can't even ask my teacher question on answer back without hearing sniggering.
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    (Original post by danny111)
    Hey, just remember not everyone in this world are ********s like that!
    yea majority of people are nice, that's why I'm finding it so strange that they would even have an issue with Me. individually they never act out but in a big group they gain confidence all the sudden.
 
 
 
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