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    How do you really know if your in love or not? Could i be convincing myself i'm in love with this guy? I looked at pictures of him and his girlfriend and i did feel a bit jealous, It's made me a bit upset and feel really down about myself. Is this love though?

    How would i know that i was in love with him? I felt like I've liked him a lot for the past few years? Is there signs? Thoughts that i would have? Feelings when he's around? How do you know if you just fancy someone, or you actually love them?
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    How do you know if you're in love or not?

    Well... when they're the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing you think of at night.
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    I'm 24 and despite being in relationships still find it hard to define the plethora of feelings I've experienced as love.

    The problem is that you have to differentiate between lust and infatuation. No-one on this forum is going to be able to do that for you.

    How well do you know this person?
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    I think a lot of the younger generation confuse infatuation and lust with 'love'. I also think people feel it in different ways and there are also different types of love.

    To answer your question; no, you don't love that guy. You are lustful of an idea you have that exists only in your head. You fancy him and that's fine. But go elsewhere as he has a g/f
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    I think when you're in love, you just know so if you're not sure, then you probably only just really like him

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    (Original post by 1on4)
    I think a lot of the younger generation confuse infatuation and lust with 'love'. I also think people feel it in different ways and there are also different types of love.

    To answer your question; no, you don't love that guy. You are lustful of an idea you have that exists only in your head. You fancy him and that's fine. But go elsewhere as he has a g/f
    The goggles of lust are so dangerous....I feel as if i want to be with him, but then i think that as he is now that i wouldn't want to be with him? rather i feel that if he changed just a little then i would marry him etc...this is not love right? and i don't think about him day and night, only recently that i have really really started thinking maybe i really like him? I question this yearly...
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    It's hard to explain but mega-love like true love really hits you, like being hit in the face. All of a sudden you realise your life won't be the same and can see yourself marrying this person and your just thinking woah where did this come from?

    For most people though, you probably feel that but just to a much lesser extent.

    It's hard to define, if it's true, it's long-lasting and doesn't burn out a such and you just want to spend time with them

    They suddenly define true happiness for you.

    For example, I use to be admittedly very money-driven (not materialistic, just money-driven, it motivates me, used to define my self-worth almost) and after meeting that person, it just made all of that seem worthless to me and completely changed my perspective on life forever and probably for the better, I'm a much more loving and compassionate person now.

    And I guess that's what real love as opposed to infatuation does to you, it changes your life and how you think.

    Infatuation usually burns out, doesn't hit you as hard, doesn't feel as strong and that includes feeling jealous. You can be infatuated but get jealous. But when you're truly in love it has a much more had a brick thrown at my face feeling attached to it/breaking into tears on the floor.

    It just depends, there are so many different levels of love but you know when you've made the right connection with someone. It's just a knowing.

    When you've truly been in love with someone, you can see the difference between that and infatuation. But it really is hard to define.

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    You know your in love when you don't have to ask the question.
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    There is a difference between love and attraction. Love is the kind of thing that will make you run up to the one you love after 20 years or parting without a single thought and bear hug them.
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    It's pretty impossible to explain, but in my opinion/experience if you have to question it then it's not love (it may be the falling stage, it may simply still be attraction, just depends on you how you feel, how well you know them etc)... But yeah I think when you're finally definitely in love you just know and don't have to question that
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    If he's in a relationship with another girl, it makes me think you really fancy him/ infatuation but not love. I feel like being in love is a two way thing. It stems from all the happy moments you spend together etc. If its just you feeling all these feelings then its probably not love (maybe just unrequited love)
 
 
 
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