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    As the title says really, I don't think I'm terribly bad looking or completely lacking in any other way, but nearly every time I go to a club I try to pull a girl and it nearly always backfires. Perhaps a lack of confidence is doing it, but any tips on how I can build that and any tips on pulling in general?
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    Change your approach, try to have a good time rather than focusing on pulling
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    Maybe get a life and stop going to clubs for a desperate shag.
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    Go to a gay bar.


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    Well if you lack confidence and seem desperate - then no chance. Unless they are desperate.

    Perhaps you should check how others do it or get someone to be a wingman for you.


    But don't take it too hard, it requires a fair amount of luck and the right amount of experience.

    Keep trying!
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    maybe those girls just want to be asked out. if a guy just wants casual sex it usually means that he wouldn't want to date you- which really isn't a nice thing for a girl... unless you find one who's also just looking for casual sex I'd advice you to simply ask for their numbers. you might get luckier then.
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    maybe you're actually uglier than you think
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    A lot of girls go to clubs just to dance with their friends. I'm single but not looking for anything right now (casual sex, relationship or otherwise) so it doesn't really matter to me how good looking the guy is or what his approach is; I'm just not there for that. This isn't the case for every girl but I'm just putting it out there that potentially all that's going wrong is that the girls you're approaching just aren't looking to be pulled.
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    (Original post by C-Dawg)
    Change your approach, try to have a good time rather than focusing on pulling
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    (Original post by arina162)
    maybe those girls just want to be asked out. if a guy just wants casual sex it usually means that he wouldn't want to date you- which really isn't a nice thing for a girl... unless you find one who's also just looking for casual sex I'd advice you to simply ask for their numbers. you might get luckier then.
    this.

    Go out to have a good time instead of having a set mindset on pulling and taking a girl home. This just adds to the pressure and you won't get anywhere. Instead, if you're having a good time, you're more relaxed and come across to others exactly in that way rather than being desperate.

    Second, yes there are girls also want casual sex. However, if you approach every girl with the assumption that they're only after sex, then you're going to get knocked back. Many are out to have a good time, socialise, let out some steam and meet someone, not necessarily for a ons. So, try to work out what kind of girls you should go for and what they're expecting.
 
 
 
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