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Asperger's Syndrome
Does anyone know of anyone who has this condition?
I know someone with a mild form of Asperger's Syndrome (AS). I was wandering on tips on how to best handle people who have AS?
Does anyone find it difficult to get through to someone with this condition? (for example when they always mistaking what you say for something else etc).
I know someone with a mild form of Asperger's Syndrome (AS). I was wandering on tips on how to best handle people who have AS?
Does anyone find it difficult to get through to someone with this condition? (for example when they always mistaking what you say for something else etc).
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A kid I babysit for has AS. His parents explained it really well to me. Basically people with Aspergers find it more difficult to read peoples feelings etc and so can find it harder to interact with people.
The kid I look after loves strict routines( though mot sure if its the case for most) and he takes everything said very literally. So it can be difficult to get through to people with it.
The kid I look after loves strict routines( though mot sure if its the case for most) and he takes everything said very literally. So it can be difficult to get through to people with it.
I think Aspergers goes well in pie with some chips and mushy peas on the side. Some thick gravy also.
I know that i was suspected of having aspergers because i cant look into peoples eyes and talk about technical subjects for copious amounts of time while my friends are trying to get me to shut up but i doubt i do have it because its v rare in females.
I think most AS people would hate it if you treated them noticably different as its not very fair....I think as long as you are careful with what you say and not force things then it should be fine.
Has anyone done the AQ test on the wired site? does that actually mean anything because my mum got me to take it and i had like 42/50 which kind of worried me.....^^
I think most AS people would hate it if you treated them noticably different as its not very fair....I think as long as you are careful with what you say and not force things then it should be fine.
Has anyone done the AQ test on the wired site? does that actually mean anything because my mum got me to take it and i had like 42/50 which kind of worried me.....^^
Buh, online tests mean nothing compared to professional advice, but are a good starting point - I wouldn't worry about putting a name to your personality personally. I have a very mild form of AS... I'm similar to Nekokat. In fact one of my weird little traits is that I hate being treated at all differently to anyone (by my friends, don't care about others)... makes me slightly paranoid and so on. Just be careful about how you act. As for not looking into people's eyes... I naturally just don't look into people's eyes so when people nod at me to say hello I always accidentally look away while nodding (that must look so dismissive...), but once I forced myself to do it for a period of a couple of days when I was talking to people across a table or something, and now people tell me I stare (but only in that context, I still look away when they're far off or we're walking somewhere). Oh well, can't please some people.
Also, people with AS always seem to be interested in computers, technology, and anything mathematical, as well as sometimes languages and science, because they're logical and rigorous, and want to learn stupid amounts of them. Also things like administrative business (because of logic, order etc.) and so on. See Nekokat's signature. Hey, maybe even see mine.
Also, AS is connected to things like OCD and bipolar disorder and depression, although this varies hugely from person to person.
Edit: answering your original question... I have trouble getting through to a lot of people, they all think I'm blunt and dismissive when really I just hate pissing about wording round things and using euphemisms, so it's not just non-aspies that have a problem with that. I have no problems with understanding emotions but people think I talk about them too much. Meh... don't think of aspies (love that word ) as "people with an illness", just treat them as you should treat any other human being - as normally as possible, taking into account that not everyone gets annoyed / upset at the same things and everyone is different and so on. I don't think people with AS are special in that respect... I just think we tend to be a bit more noticeable.
Also, people with AS always seem to be interested in computers, technology, and anything mathematical, as well as sometimes languages and science, because they're logical and rigorous, and want to learn stupid amounts of them. Also things like administrative business (because of logic, order etc.) and so on. See Nekokat's signature. Hey, maybe even see mine.
Also, AS is connected to things like OCD and bipolar disorder and depression, although this varies hugely from person to person.Edit: answering your original question... I have trouble getting through to a lot of people, they all think I'm blunt and dismissive when really I just hate pissing about wording round things and using euphemisms, so it's not just non-aspies that have a problem with that.
I have no problems with understanding emotions but people think I talk about them too much. Meh... don't think of aspies (love that word ) as "people with an illness", just treat them as you should treat any other human being - as normally as possible, taking into account that not everyone gets annoyed / upset at the same things and everyone is different and so on. I don't think people with AS are special in that respect... I just think we tend to be a bit more noticeable.
Bad A$$
Does anyone know of anyone who has this condition?
I know someone with a mild form of Asperger's Syndrome (AS). I was wandering on tips on how to best handle people who have AS?
Does anyone find it difficult to get through to someone with this condition? (for example when they always mistaking what you say for something else etc).
I know someone with a mild form of Asperger's Syndrome (AS). I was wandering on tips on how to best handle people who have AS?
Does anyone find it difficult to get through to someone with this condition? (for example when they always mistaking what you say for something else etc).
Don't change how you act, but bear in mind they may have trouble with interactions and take things literally a bit too much. As a mild form, he shouldn't have much trouble or seem that much different. I have a mild form of AS and I've never found it too much trouble (except for taking things the wrong way at times), but then I spent quite a bit of time 'learning' social interactions that didn't come naturally.
Trainspotters are supposed to have AS. The railways are very regimented, everything runs to a timetable, it has rules for everything and everything has a technical explanation, which falls into categories that AS sufferers have.
Damn Im a trainspotter, and do have a few character traits that AS would have but Im just shy.
On online tests, Ive just found out im 33% gay. WTF???
On dealing with an AS sufferer, organise things in advance. For example its 20:45, ask what they want to watch at 9. And change over to it at 9. They cant handle channel hopping. Also, dont crack stupid jokes that use word play, etc.
Lucyj sums it up the best and generalebriety, gives a good post too
Damn Im a trainspotter, and do have a few character traits that AS would have but Im just shy.
On online tests, Ive just found out im 33% gay. WTF???
On dealing with an AS sufferer, organise things in advance. For example its 20:45, ask what they want to watch at 9. And change over to it at 9. They cant handle channel hopping. Also, dont crack stupid jokes that use word play, etc.
Lucyj sums it up the best and generalebriety, gives a good post too
The worst thing i find is people tend to take offence to things i say and then do the whole "you know what youve done" so its just confusing because you dont really know what to do....
The worst one to do this is i have a very emotional male friend and hes obsessed about why i dont like him sitting too close or telling me off for going on about how processors work etc (oh the geekery!!!)
The worst one to do this is i have a very emotional male friend and hes obsessed about why i dont like him sitting too close or telling me off for going on about how processors work etc (oh the geekery!!!)
Noxid
On dealing with an AS sufferer, organise things in advance. For example its 20:45, ask what they want to watch at 9. And change over to it at 9. They cant handle channel hopping. Also, dont crack stupid jokes that use word play, etc.
Lucyj sums it up the best and generalebriety, gives a good post too
Lucyj sums it up the best and generalebriety, gives a good post too
Thank you, few comments though...
Firstly I'm not a trainspotter (I know you didn't say I was, just commenting
), but I do like train networks... and bus networks and roads and local geography, and that kind of thing. Like a driver is probably very interested in roads. However I wouldn't agree with the channel hopping (certainly unplanned is annoying but when does it not annoy people when they're watching stuff?) or the unplanned bit though. I don't mind doing things spontaneously as long as I'm not already busy. In fact I'm a bit impulsive at times. Wordplay... I dunno, that depends what you mean, I understand these jokes perfectly and think most are awful, like a lot of people do. In fact I was first recognised as a potential aspie by the fact that I picked on words so much and always took things the 'wrong' way (on purpose), as a strange kind of joke. Meh, I amuse myself anyway. My little brother has Aspergers syndrome. Reading facial expressions and tones are very difficult. So is changing a system, if you say you are going to do something, you better do it. They have a tendancy to obsess over one thing, and talk about it non stop. Google it, there are loads of wonderful web sites about it.
SH!T i think i may have this. How do you know? i am crap at taking hints, REALY blunt (some see this as rude) others just see it as me.
I have never had a problem making friends (realy) although when i first go into a group of people i.e.moving school i used to get bullied loads (never figured out why) cos i am not exacly the steriotypical kid that gets bullied.
I do electronics as a hobby and i have learned a lot of material beyond degree level.
+loads of other things that i cant be shaged to write.
I have only just heard about this and im shocked there is a name for what seems like my personality. (would explain an awfull lot though)
I have never had a problem making friends (realy) although when i first go into a group of people i.e.moving school i used to get bullied loads (never figured out why) cos i am not exacly the steriotypical kid that gets bullied.
I do electronics as a hobby and i have learned a lot of material beyond degree level.
+loads of other things that i cant be shaged to write.
I have only just heard about this and im shocked there is a name for what seems like my personality. (would explain an awfull lot though)
Anonymous: I wouldn't get too hung up over it. Wiki it or google it or something, but don't be too shocked. You are who you are, Asperger's won't take that away from you, and certainly don't try and change who you are or go starting sob stories about "ooh I'm so different, please be nicer to me", because people won't like it... just be more sensitive to it. Realise that if people bully you, they're just ignorant and don't know why you act how you do. I can't say I know why bullies act like they do either though. It all balances out in the end.
Bonnie: same as above don't worry about it, AS isn't common but it's certainly not a "1 in __ million" case. He may not have it though. I'd say people were only really fit to judge themselves... unless they're hypochondriacs or something of course. With no amount of medical background can you get inside someone's head... certainly not by going out with them because most of what you see is them while they're going out with you, not them while they're not thinking about you and are acting normally around their friends.
Bonnie: same as above
don't worry about it, AS isn't common but it's certainly not a "1 in __ million" case. He may not have it though. I'd say people were only really fit to judge themselves... unless they're hypochondriacs or something of course. With no amount of medical background can you get inside someone's head... certainly not by going out with them because most of what you see is them while they're going out with you, not them while they're not thinking about you and are acting normally around their friends.my friend has it, and this sounds awful, but he drives me insane sometimes!!
he takes everything far too litterally, and gets upset over the tiniest little thing.
but he's bloody talented as well. only has to listen to a piece of music, and he can play it without music, just by ear
he takes everything far too litterally, and gets upset over the tiniest little thing.
but he's bloody talented as well. only has to listen to a piece of music, and he can play it without music, just by ear
I think most people affected would claim the way they took things wasn't "far too literally", and that you, if anything, might take things far too lightly. It's all relative in a way. He takes things more literally than you. You take things less literally than him. Neither of you is right or wrong - just that because there are more people who don't have AS than people who do, it's often thought they're "wrong". They're not. Just different. Learn to accept it.
Anonymous
gets upset over the tiniest little thing.
I doubt it is a question of being easily upset. More one of being upset by different things to normal people...
arrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh ***ing hell what a mind job
I only just found out about this condition and am in a bit of a state of shock. How can i be certain i have it?
I have read wiki page on it and to be honest (which im not sure i want to do). It does describe a lot of my personality traits. Not only the negative ones such as lack of empathy but the positive ones as well.
I only just found out about this condition and am in a bit of a state of shock. How can i be certain i have it?
I have read wiki page on it and to be honest (which im not sure i want to do). It does describe a lot of my personality traits. Not only the negative ones such as lack of empathy but the positive ones as well.
"The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nightime". This gives a pretty fascinating, not to mention touching, insight into the mind of Christopher Boon, a teenage boy with Asperger's.
By Mark Haddon.
By Mark Haddon.
Anonymous
arrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh ***ing hell what a mind job
I only just found out about this condition and am in a bit of a state of shock. How can i be certain i have it?
I have read wiki page on it and to be honest (which im not sure i want to do). It does describe a lot of my personality traits. Not only the negative ones such as lack of empathy but the positive ones as well.
I only just found out about this condition and am in a bit of a state of shock. How can i be certain i have it?
I have read wiki page on it and to be honest (which im not sure i want to do). It does describe a lot of my personality traits. Not only the negative ones such as lack of empathy but the positive ones as well.
To be certain you have it, firstly sleep on it a couple of nights (because you seem bloody stressed right now), secondly ask yourself "What exactly would I gain by knowing one way or the other?" considering that trying to change yourself would just lose you friends and make you seem false and insecure, and thirdly, if you can think of a good reason to find out, go and see your GP and they will refer you to someone who knows what they're on about if they think it's worth it.
Would it kill you to find out you had AS? You've lived (...) years without knowing and managed fine already. And it's not as if finding out you have AS will suddenly turn you into a freak. You will be exactly the same person on both sides of that doctor's clinic, just that on the other side you'll know the medical name for what's going on in your head - it seems you already know what it is that's going on in your head. I have to admit finding out I had AS was a shock but... it hasn't changed me and I wouldn't want to change myself. It's not like being diagnosed with cancer, when there was a specific point in your life at which you didn't have cancer and it's developed and is going to get worse and kill you. If you have it, you've always had it, and you always will have it. If you're that worried I'd focus more on reading up on symptoms and realising why people react badly to your personality, if they do, and realising why what you do makes them react badly.
Also, don't forget everyone has various mental afflictions to some small degrees, some people more than others. Asperger's is often seen as a blessing rather than a punishment, but that's probably through pride. Then again, a degree of intelligence often follows AS, even if depression and so on do too, so maybe it is a blessing. Either way, a hell of a lot more differs between people's brains than even the most accomplished brain scientists know about - some people are stupid, some are clever, but it's much deeper than that. I recommend any half-decent psychology book if you're interested. Also, I think the BBC has some interesting articles, including things like "brain sex" (not as ambiguous as the title sounds), and there's always 4degreez.com if you want to scare yourself by thinking you have several mental disorders.
Can be very interesting to read up on though.Either way, good luck. It's a shock first time round but hey... I could think of worse things.
Champagne-Dahling
"The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nightime". This gives a pretty fascinating, not to mention touching, insight into the mind of Christopher Boon, a teenage boy with Asperger's.
Ahhhh... been wanting to read that book for ages now. It's "on my list" for over the summer. Also want to read "Le scaphandre et le papillon" (wiki it) or, in English, "The diving-bell and the butterfly", which is... very loosely connected but not really relevant at all... but still interesting.
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