My teacher loves me. What do I do?

Ok so I don't know what to do. My private music teacher (31) who I have been taking from for a couple of years told me his feelings at 6:30am in a locked practice room at school for about an hour and half. I have a crush on him; he's attractive and has a great personality (is also single). But I'm almost 16 and I doubt anything can happen. I would switch private teachers but he's the best and I am persuing a career in music. He doesn't want anything inappropriate to happen but then I don't know why he told me. I guess we have a closer relationship since he isn't a regular teacher and we know a lot about each other and I don't really want to lose that. But I don't want anything inappropriate to happen. Any suggestions on what to do.

Get with him

Tell him just what you told us...

You don't want anything to happen either so you have a mutual agreement that nothing will. You should take action if it affects your studies though.

Reply 3

spoonboy

Pretend he never told you.

Reply 4

Misogynist

18

Tell him you dont like him 'like that'. He's crazy. He's so old and is trying to 'hit' on a 16 year old.

Get under him.

We had something a bit like this happening in our school. A year 13 girl got into a relationship with a peripatetic music teacher. Inevitably, they got caught out, and he lost his job. I think the implications would be even more serious as you are under 16. My advice, pretend nothing ever happened and he never said anything. If that fails, make it absolutely clear that nothing can happen between you, and if he tries anything on you will change teachers and inform the school

Reply 7

minimo

15

My music teacher in school was the world's worst player aaargh. Everyone fancied him though. :p:

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

Report this straight away to your father/mother/guardian, and to the appropriate authorities... this guy is clearly abusing his powers.

There is a movie where the teacher has sexual intercourse with a student then claims he hasn’t etc... I recommend you watch it.

What kind of 31 year old male goes out with a 16 year old girl... must be a loser.

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Or

You could go out with this 31 year old man, and lose your virginity to him and have problems with your family/friends and ruin your rest of your life.

Reply 9

Anonymous #3

What is it with music teachers??!! My music teacher at school abused me when I was 15/16. He used to lock me in his office etc. Six years later and I'm only able to think about doing something. My best friend was abused by her private music teacher from the age of 13. He was a sick bastard and did it before and has done it since. As far as I know the one who did it to me hasn't done it since but it makes me feel sick thinking about it.

He is breaking the law by the way - position of responsibility under the Sexual Offences Act 2003, section 8 or 9 I think.

You need to report it to your head of year or something. Don't do what I did and let him get away with it.

Reply 10

gyrase

3

Anonymous

Ok so I don't know what to do.

Surely the passive approach applies here; you should not do anything.

Reply 11

username61396

1

Anonymous

Report this straight away to your father/mother/guardian, and to the appropriate authorities... this guy is clearly abusing his powers.

There is a movie where the teacher has sexual intercourse with a student then claims he hasn’t etc... I recommend you watch it.

What kind of 31 year old male goes out with a 16 year old girl... must be a loser.

Or

You could go out with this 31 year old man, and lose your virginity to him and have problems with your family/friends and ruin your rest of your life.

I agree with the first part, although I'm not too keen about lying.

Take this paedo down. He's obviously leading on to something far more unpleasant.

Reply 12

Anonymous #3

No she needs to tell someone. You wouldnt believe the amount of psychological damage these people can do.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

He didn't do anything to me.
He only locked me in the room because "he would fell more comfortable" and talked to me for about an hour and half about his feelings.
I feel bad for him.
He's really a great person.
Though my friend told me he probably locked the room in case I returned the feelings.

Reply 14

minimo

15

I suggest you change your teacher. Being traumatised and possibly abused by your music teacher arn't condusive to becoming a successful musician.

Reply 15

bonnie

so he's been having "feelings" for you since you were 13 ? i know that when you're really young you can think it's romantic but it's not. something must be seriously wrong with him. you need to tell your parents and even maybe the police.

Reply 16

username61396

1

Anonymous

He didn't do anything to me.
He only locked me in the room because "he would fell more comfortable" and talked to me for about an hour and half about his feelings.
I feel bad for him.
He's really a great person.
Though my friend told me he probably locked the room in case I returned the feelings.

That's what they tell you.

You're obviously a beautiful and intelligent girl. Don't get started down this path. You're only 16, which means that there's plenty of time to discover relationships. And with your 31 year old teacher is not a good way.

By the way, my crush at school has a 34 year old boyfriend. It makes my stomach turn. :mad:

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

It is inappropriate behaviour for him to lock the door and what he did is enough to get him sacked. Please please tell someone. These people need to be stopped. I remember him lying on top of me on the floor of his locked office screaming no in my head but not being able to do anything. I so wish I had and no it makes me feel so angry. I get angry when I read things like this and upset as you have the power I lost. You can stop him before he damages someone. It's too late for me.

Reply 18

Zebrastripes

13

We had an Art teacher like that. But he's in jail now for having sex with an underage student (or at least he was the last time i heard). Nicest guy in the world (well....) had a lovely wife and baby. The girl told someone, now he's in prison.

Tell someone about it. Or if you are worried, tell your friends and talk to him about it. Ring up a confidential help line as they can give you more advice without getting him into trouble.

Reply 19

username61396

1

Yes. I can second that. Just locking the door is enough. It should always be open "just in case".

My teacher loves me. What do I do?

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