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    I am a first year medical student. Started medicine about 7 months ago. Took a gap year in 2012. The thing is I just can not concentrate on studies anymore. I am smart but medicine calls for hardwork and studying most of the time. I am in a long distance relationship since 1 and a half years and my focus is only on my boyfriend. We have 11 hours time difference and it sucks. I just want to talk to him atleast once during the day on phone or skype but most of the time it can not happen. I have to wait till night and I waste my whole day without studying or doing anything else. I have an exam on tuesday and I am sure i'll fail it 'cause I just didnt study?

    Any motivational advice on how to keep the relationship AND excel in my studies? or atleast not fail? Love is occupying my mind ALL the time!
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    You just have to have a separate compartment for each thing, if that makes sense!
    Get up early and focus on work, reward yourself for good work by talking to your boyfriend Once you get into a routine it's easier to maintain it but getting started on work is often the hardest thing
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    I know but its SO damn hard to focus, i just cant stop thinking about him or feeling unhappy. Studies are the last thing on my mind.
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    Must be really tough. The only way I can think off is to very strictly compartmentalise your life. To pull off medicine and a long term relationship will require very strong self discipline. Mind you, it is probably the type self discipline you have already flexed to win a place on such a competitive course. At least early in your course the holidays are still quite long. But I know this is not easy. Perhaps there are other course mates in a similar situation that you can talk to or even the university councelling service if things are really tough. Good luck.

    Either that or transfer to an English or Archiology degree, lol..
 
 
 
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