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So apparently i need to go to the drs about these aweful cramps im getting and my boyfriends mum said they should do scans and all sorts on me 
im terrified 
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Um i've never posted here before but i've got an appointment to see a gp about feeling depressed tomorrow, i've not had to go to the doctors about it in like 3 years, and I'm really nervous.
I don't want to get told I need to go to counselling sessions or crap like that, I don't have time for that, my course at uni is very intensive and has a lot of contact hours and labs that I already keep missing because I feel like I can't get out of bed. Can I tell him I'd rather just be put on pills and get on with it?
Also, I'd rather not be put on an SSRI because (while I'm no doctor) I think being on them before has given me post-SSRI sexual dysfunction but I'd find it so embarrassing trying to explain this to him, especially as the doctor I'm seeing is a guy (I'm a girl)
Lastly, should I tell him I've sometimes been self-harming lately? I'm worried I'll get sectioned or something if I mention it... I might just not say anything about it.
I don't want to get told I need to go to counselling sessions or crap like that, I don't have time for that, my course at uni is very intensive and has a lot of contact hours and labs that I already keep missing because I feel like I can't get out of bed. Can I tell him I'd rather just be put on pills and get on with it?
Also, I'd rather not be put on an SSRI because (while I'm no doctor) I think being on them before has given me post-SSRI sexual dysfunction but I'd find it so embarrassing trying to explain this to him, especially as the doctor I'm seeing is a guy (I'm a girl)
Lastly, should I tell him I've sometimes been self-harming lately? I'm worried I'll get sectioned or something if I mention it... I might just not say anything about it.
If you've been on antidepressants before you're probably aware that they're not really a quick fix. It can take up to 8 weeks for them to work and often people experiment for months with different doses and drugs. So that's something to consider when you think about the effect on your uni workload. I don't see why you shouldn't be able to ask for the pills over counseling, although obviously it depends on your doctor - some are more willing to prescribe antidepressants than others.
With regards to wanting a non-SSRI drug, again that shouldn't be a problem as there are quite a few. You could perhaps word it as you don't want an SSRI as you tried it before and would like something from a different class that way you wouldn't need to mention the sexual dysfunction. Although, the guy's a doctor he's heard way more embarrassing things, but obviously it's up to you and what you feel comfortable with.
You're not going to get sectioned for self-harm unless it's severe enough to put your life in danger and even then it's only a last resort. I'd recommend telling the doctor about it so he gets a complete impression of what you're going through right now and can best help you.
Good luck with your appointment.
Well, today is my birthday although I seem to have kept it quiet on here 
Did successfully manage to do my shopping today which is good, although still didn't manage to make a doctors appointment.
Did successfully manage to do my shopping today which is good, although still didn't manage to make a doctors appointment.
Original post by Sabertooth
If you've been on antidepressants before you're probably aware that they're not really a quick fix. It can take up to 8 weeks for them to work and often people experiment for months with different doses and drugs. So that's something to consider when you think about the effect on your uni workload. I don't see why you shouldn't be able to ask for the pills over counseling, although obviously it depends on your doctor - some are more willing to prescribe antidepressants than others.
With regards to wanting a non-SSRI drug, again that shouldn't be a problem as there are quite a few. You could perhaps word it as you don't want an SSRI as you tried it before and would like something from a different class that way you wouldn't need to mention the sexual dysfunction. Although, the guy's a doctor he's heard way more embarrassing things, but obviously it's up to you and what you feel comfortable with.
You're not going to get sectioned for self-harm unless it's severe enough to put your life in danger and even then it's only a last resort. I'd recommend telling the doctor about it so he gets a complete impression of what you're going through right now and can best help you.
Good luck with your appointment.
With regards to wanting a non-SSRI drug, again that shouldn't be a problem as there are quite a few. You could perhaps word it as you don't want an SSRI as you tried it before and would like something from a different class that way you wouldn't need to mention the sexual dysfunction. Although, the guy's a doctor he's heard way more embarrassing things, but obviously it's up to you and what you feel comfortable with.
You're not going to get sectioned for self-harm unless it's severe enough to put your life in danger and even then it's only a last resort. I'd recommend telling the doctor about it so he gets a complete impression of what you're going through right now and can best help you.
Good luck with your appointment.
Yeah I know it won't be a quick fix but I figure it's better I start them sooner rather than later with exams coming up
That's good that I don't have to mention it, although I suppose I'm going to have to sooner or later, it doesn't seem to be going away by itself so it seems I'm stuck with it
Oh, that's good, I was really scared about what would happen if I told him. In that case I'll tell him
Thank you! It's actually going to be my birthday tomorrow so I hope it doesn't put a downer on the whole day
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Well, today is my birthday although I seem to have kept it quiet on here Did successfully manage to do my shopping today which is good, although still didn't manage to make a doctors appointment.
Did successfully manage to do my shopping today which is good, although still didn't manage to make a doctors appointment.Happy birthday man
You kept that very quiet! Well done on the shopping, any plans to do something for your birthday?Original post by Anonymous
Yeah I know it won't be a quick fix but I figure it's better I start them sooner rather than later with exams coming up
That's good that I don't have to mention it, although I suppose I'm going to have to sooner or later, it doesn't seem to be going away by itself so it seems I'm stuck with it
Oh, that's good, I was really scared about what would happen if I told him. In that case I'll tell him
Thank you! It's actually going to be my birthday tomorrow so I hope it doesn't put a downer on the whole day
That's good that I don't have to mention it, although I suppose I'm going to have to sooner or later, it doesn't seem to be going away by itself so it seems I'm stuck with it
Oh, that's good, I was really scared about what would happen if I told him. In that case I'll tell him
Thank you! It's actually going to be my birthday tomorrow so I hope it doesn't put a downer on the whole day
Happy birthday for tomorrow!
Yeah, I agree starting antidepressants sooner rather than later is a good idea. I'm currently on mirtazapine and it's worked great for me but it does have a tendency to completely knock people out to start with - probably not a great idea for you to take that one if you've got lots of classes/work to do.
Tbh I'm not sure how much your GP would be able to help you with the post-ssri sexual dysfunction. It hasn't been studied all that much and a fair few psychiatrists don't know that much about it either. If I were you I'd have a read of the literature just so you know about it and potentially anything that's worked for other people.
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Well, today is my birthday although I seem to have kept it quiet on here Did successfully manage to do my shopping today which is good, although still didn't manage to make a doctors appointment.
Did successfully manage to do my shopping today which is good, although still didn't manage to make a doctors appointment.Happy birthday!
Original post by Anonymous
Um i've never posted here before but i've got an appointment to see a gp about feeling depressed tomorrow, i've not had to go to the doctors about it in like 3 years, and I'm really nervous.
I don't want to get told I need to go to counselling sessions or crap like that, I don't have time for that, my course at uni is very intensive and has a lot of contact hours and labs that I already keep missing because I feel like I can't get out of bed. Can I tell him I'd rather just be put on pills and get on with it?
Also, I'd rather not be put on an SSRI because (while I'm no doctor) I think being on them before has given me post-SSRI sexual dysfunction but I'd find it so embarrassing trying to explain this to him, especially as the doctor I'm seeing is a guy (I'm a girl)
Lastly, should I tell him I've sometimes been self-harming lately? I'm worried I'll get sectioned or something if I mention it... I might just not say anything about it.
I don't want to get told I need to go to counselling sessions or crap like that, I don't have time for that, my course at uni is very intensive and has a lot of contact hours and labs that I already keep missing because I feel like I can't get out of bed. Can I tell him I'd rather just be put on pills and get on with it?
Also, I'd rather not be put on an SSRI because (while I'm no doctor) I think being on them before has given me post-SSRI sexual dysfunction but I'd find it so embarrassing trying to explain this to him, especially as the doctor I'm seeing is a guy (I'm a girl)
Lastly, should I tell him I've sometimes been self-harming lately? I'm worried I'll get sectioned or something if I mention it... I might just not say anything about it.
Good luck!
I think Saber's already covered everything I would have said. And happy birthday too. So pathetic 
Curled up in bed in agony but said id do the washing up when the pain had gone, i said this at half 8, the pain still hasnt gone
Deffinately contemplating something bad to take the pain away
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Curled up in bed in agony but said id do the washing up when the pain had gone, i said this at half 8, the pain still hasnt gone
Deffinately contemplating something bad to take the pain away
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Original post by PonchoKid
So pathetic
Curled up in bed in agony but said id do the washing up when the pain had gone, i said this at half 8, the pain still hasnt gone
Deffinately contemplating something bad to take the pain away
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Curled up in bed in agony but said id do the washing up when the pain had gone, i said this at half 8, the pain still hasnt gone
Deffinately contemplating something bad to take the pain away
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MASSIVE HUGS!
ugs:Good luck with the docs. Don't worry it will be over soon enough and will hopefully mean the cramps will go away. Push through, it will be fine xx
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Kinda just wanna scream WHO AM I? really really loud
Not feeling brilliant and just generally having a bit of an identity crisis/ getting down on myself moment.
Uni is not going well. I have missed like half the corse already.
Oh and I need to arrange a blood test (not my strong point) and I think I have an eye infection. -_-
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Original post by Sabertooth
Happy birthday for tomorrow!
Yeah, I agree starting antidepressants sooner rather than later is a good idea. I'm currently on mirtazapine and it's worked great for me but it does have a tendency to completely knock people out to start with - probably not a great idea for you to take that one if you've got lots of classes/work to do.
Tbh I'm not sure how much your GP would be able to help you with the post-ssri sexual dysfunction. It hasn't been studied all that much and a fair few psychiatrists don't know that much about it either. If I were you I'd have a read of the literature just so you know about it and potentially anything that's worked for other people.
Yeah, I agree starting antidepressants sooner rather than later is a good idea. I'm currently on mirtazapine and it's worked great for me but it does have a tendency to completely knock people out to start with - probably not a great idea for you to take that one if you've got lots of classes/work to do.
Tbh I'm not sure how much your GP would be able to help you with the post-ssri sexual dysfunction. It hasn't been studied all that much and a fair few psychiatrists don't know that much about it either. If I were you I'd have a read of the literature just so you know about it and potentially anything that's worked for other people.
Thank you! Last time I was put on them I was 15 and very distressed so I literally just took whatever they gave me, but I'm in a much better situation to discuss options this time
Yeah, I've tried looking it up and there's not really much about it, there are treatments available to help with the vaginismus aspect of it though, which would be a step in the right direction
Original post by superwolf
Good luck! I think Saber's already covered everything I would have said. And happy birthday too.
Good luck!
I think Saber's already covered everything I would have said. And happy birthday too. Thank you! x
Original post by Nathanielle
Same here!
I don't think you need to realise it, you know it. You just need to feel better and force you to say hello to the person next to you. It is not a problem of realizing, I think.
Either that, or it is just that in Asia being quiet has nothing negative or he is just like that.
I see no evidence, that you are.
You sit quiet in the lecture and hopefully will be able to participate. Just chat with the others before and afterwards and no problem.
I don't think you need to realise it, you know it. You just need to feel better and force you to say hello to the person next to you. It is not a problem of realizing, I think.
Either that, or it is just that in Asia being quiet has nothing negative or he is just like that.
I see no evidence, that you are.
You sit quiet in the lecture and hopefully will be able to participate. Just chat with the others before and afterwards and no problem.Sorry, it was just an incoherent ramble
. I do sit with people and we spend time after the lectures socialising and stuff, its just that they don't seem to be a particularly good influence in class, talking over the teacher and all that. I remember sitting at the front once and he didn't seem that quiet, maybe I should just stop sitting so far back! That is why I don't want to sit with them people. Maybe I should just say that I'm sitting in the front in order to concentrate with work. They don't concentrate and then they ask me for help. Even in tests sometimes, something I do not agree with doing 
. I guess if they treat me differently or even ditch me because of this it says a lot about them 
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah I know it won't be a quick fix but I figure it's better I start them sooner rather than later with exams coming up
That's good that I don't have to mention it, although I suppose I'm going to have to sooner or later, it doesn't seem to be going away by itself so it seems I'm stuck with it
Oh, that's good, I was really scared about what would happen if I told him. In that case I'll tell him
Thank you! It's actually going to be my birthday tomorrow so I hope it doesn't put a downer on the whole day
That's good that I don't have to mention it, although I suppose I'm going to have to sooner or later, it doesn't seem to be going away by itself so it seems I'm stuck with it
Oh, that's good, I was really scared about what would happen if I told him. In that case I'll tell him
Thank you! It's actually going to be my birthday tomorrow so I hope it doesn't put a downer on the whole day
It is my brother's birthday today too Original post by Sabertooth
Happy birthday man You kept that very quiet! Well done on the shopping, any plans to do something for your birthday?
You kept that very quiet! Well done on the shopping, any plans to do something for your birthday?Thanks
didn't do much really, someone in the neighbouring flat invited me over and played a bit of PS3 (which I'm crap at )Original post by superwolf
Happy birthday!
Good luck! I think Saber's already covered everything I would have said. And happy birthday too.
Good luck!
I think Saber's already covered everything I would have said. And happy birthday too. Thanks
Hey guys. Had a better day yesterday than I have before although it wasn't perfect.
Visited a Buddhist Temple located in the Scottish Borders.
But now today.. feel awful, horrible, pathetic, lonely..
Psychiatrist today though.
Visited a Buddhist Temple located in the Scottish Borders.
But now today.. feel awful, horrible, pathetic, lonely..
Psychiatrist today though.
Hi all. Hope you're doing well. I believe it's a few people's birthdays so happy birthday to all of you
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Now for the question...
Has anybody experienced a total lack of any sort of sexual drive on their meds?
I'm on citalopram and have been for probably half a year now. I don't think I had much of a sexual drive before I started, but I wasn't in a relationship, which I am now.
I have all the "normal" romantic feelings so it just feels strange that I don't want to do anything about them.
I don't know if some sort of a mix of depression and meds is causing this since they are listed symptons/ side effects, or if it's just me. I don't even know if it would matter if it were my MH since I don't know if i'll ever be without it.
I feel like i'm taking advantage of my bf a bit by having this relationship with him, in which some form of intimacy can be legitimately expected, and giving him absolutely no physical intimacy.
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Now for the question...
Has anybody experienced a total lack of any sort of sexual drive on their meds?
I'm on citalopram and have been for probably half a year now. I don't think I had much of a sexual drive before I started, but I wasn't in a relationship, which I am now.
I have all the "normal" romantic feelings so it just feels strange that I don't want to do anything about them.
I don't know if some sort of a mix of depression and meds is causing this since they are listed symptons/ side effects, or if it's just me. I don't even know if it would matter if it were my MH since I don't know if i'll ever be without it.
I feel like i'm taking advantage of my bf a bit by having this relationship with him, in which some form of intimacy can be legitimately expected, and giving him absolutely no physical intimacy.
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Original post by avhhs
Sorry, it was just an incoherent ramble . I do sit with people and we spend time after the lectures socialising and stuff, its just that they don't seem to be a particularly good influence in class, talking over the teacher and all that. I remember sitting at the front once and he didn't seem that quiet, maybe I should just stop sitting so far back! That is why I don't want to sit with them people. Maybe I should just say that I'm sitting in the front in order to concentrate with work. They don't concentrate and then they ask me for help. Even in tests sometimes, something I do not agree with doing . I guess if they treat me differently or even ditch me because of this it says a lot about them
. I do sit with people and we spend time after the lectures socialising and stuff, its just that they don't seem to be a particularly good influence in class, talking over the teacher and all that. I remember sitting at the front once and he didn't seem that quiet, maybe I should just stop sitting so far back! That is why I don't want to sit with them people. Maybe I should just say that I'm sitting in the front in order to concentrate with work. They don't concentrate and then they ask me for help. Even in tests sometimes, something I do not agree with doing . I guess if they treat me differently or even ditch me because of this it says a lot about them Well, I know rambling pretty well, too...
Yeah, I know what you mean, but at the end, the people who are on the same wave with you will stick with you and the others not. Thus it is way better to focus on your studies, as this is what you want, because the best way to get happy and good at something is to fully comply with what you are doing.Original post by Kindred
MASSIVE HUGS! ugs:
Good luck with the docs. Don't worry it will be over soon enough and will hopefully mean the cramps will go away. Push through, it will be fine xx
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Kinda just wanna scream WHO AM I? really really loud
Not feeling brilliant and just generally having a bit of an identity crisis/ getting down on myself moment.
Uni is not going well. I have missed like half the corse already.
Oh and I need to arrange a blood test (not my strong point) and I think I have an eye infection. -_-
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ugs:Good luck with the docs. Don't worry it will be over soon enough and will hopefully mean the cramps will go away. Push through, it will be fine xx
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Kinda just wanna scream WHO AM I? really really loud
Not feeling brilliant and just generally having a bit of an identity crisis/ getting down on myself moment.
Uni is not going well. I have missed like half the corse already.
Oh and I need to arrange a blood test (not my strong point) and I think I have an eye infection. -_-
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thanks hun, STILL have awful pain
bloody hate being a woman sometimes Original post by Kindred
Hi all. Hope you're doing well. I believe it's a few people's birthdays so happy birthday to all of you
________________________________________________________________
Now for the question...
Has anybody experienced a total lack of any sort of sexual drive on their meds?
I'm on citalopram and have been for probably half a year now. I don't think I had much of a sexual drive before I started, but I wasn't in a relationship, which I am now.
I have all the "normal" romantic feelings so it just feels strange that I don't want to do anything about them.
I don't know if some sort of a mix of depression and meds is causing this since they are listed symptons/ side effects, or if it's just me. I don't even know if it would matter if it were my MH since I don't know if i'll ever be without it.
I feel like i'm taking advantage of my bf a bit by having this relationship with him, in which some form of intimacy can be legitimately expected, and giving him absolutely no physical intimacy.
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________________________________________________________________
Now for the question...
Has anybody experienced a total lack of any sort of sexual drive on their meds?
I'm on citalopram and have been for probably half a year now. I don't think I had much of a sexual drive before I started, but I wasn't in a relationship, which I am now.
I have all the "normal" romantic feelings so it just feels strange that I don't want to do anything about them.
I don't know if some sort of a mix of depression and meds is causing this since they are listed symptons/ side effects, or if it's just me. I don't even know if it would matter if it were my MH since I don't know if i'll ever be without it.
I feel like i'm taking advantage of my bf a bit by having this relationship with him, in which some form of intimacy can be legitimately expected, and giving him absolutely no physical intimacy.
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i was on citalopram and lost my sex drive to start with, then again when i increased from 20mg to 40mg, but got it back, have you explained to him that its your meds, im sure he will be understanding about it. you could also go back to your docs and talk about different meds?
Original post by PonchoKid
thanks hun, STILL have awful pain bloody hate being a woman sometimes
i was on citalopram and lost my sex drive to start with, then again when i increased from 20mg to 40mg, but got it back, have you explained to him that its your meds, im sure he will be understanding about it. you could also go back to your docs and talk about different meds?
bloody hate being a woman sometimes i was on citalopram and lost my sex drive to start with, then again when i increased from 20mg to 40mg, but got it back, have you explained to him that its your meds, im sure he will be understanding about it. you could also go back to your docs and talk about different meds?
That sort of pain 'eh? Nice long bath, hot water bottle and some pain killers. That's what I prescribe
Mine are awful sometimes so I'll just sit and watch some pointless TV with a bowl of ice cream 
...and a cat :3 xxI have spoken to him about it kinda and he understands but I still feel bad sometimes,
Spoiler
Happy birthday to the birthday people. 
So...
Had a visit to the hospital I'll be in today, and it was nowhere near as scary as I thought it would be. Thank you to all the people who tried to talk me into going today. I'm really glad I did. And I can now stop freaking out about it.
So...
Had a visit to the hospital I'll be in today, and it was nowhere near as scary as I thought it would be.
Thank you to all the people who tried to talk me into going today. I'm really glad I did. And I can now stop freaking out about it. 
Original post by tasha96
Happy birthday to the birthday people.
So...
Had a visit to the hospital I'll be in today, and it was nowhere near as scary as I thought it would be. Thank you to all the people who tried to talk me into going today. I'm really glad I did. And I can now stop freaking out about it.
So...
Had a visit to the hospital I'll be in today, and it was nowhere near as scary as I thought it would be.
Thank you to all the people who tried to talk me into going today. I'm really glad I did. And I can now stop freaking out about it. PRSOM!!
I'm soooooooooooooooooooooooo happy for you!! That's gotta provide an ickle bit of confidence for you
Dude i'm actually smiling and i'm pretty darn proud of ya! Appointment today was horrible.
Feel so lonely now.
Feel so lonely now.
