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    I'm 17 and have only ever had 2 boyfriends. I'm bisexual and I pretty much like to stand out. I'm often seen with bright colours in my hair. I have quite a lot of piercings and 2 tattoos. I like all types of music but my favourite band in the whole world is Queen. I am quite loud, chatty but I get on with most people. I don't know if it's my looks that are the problem or my loud personality, I love to stand out and I do things to shock people. Is this off putting? I know I'm young but I feel alone. I shouldn't go by it but one of my closest friends in my college class has been with 20 something lads and I've been with 2. I guess it's just I'm starting to get a bit lonely and worry it's me that's the problem.

    A few recent pictures of me:
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.n...41645104_n.jpg
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.n...55503904_n.jpg
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.n...80085090_n.jpg
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.n...25282442_n.jpg

    Honest opinions, do I look like the type of girl thats unapproachable?
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    Nah you don't look unapproachable. Don't change just to 'fit in'.
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    I would happily approach you !
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    I've never had a boyfriend so having only 2 is less of an issue than you think put it into perspective people have loved you before so there's no reason why someone won't fall in love with you once again !
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    Do not change your personality to fit in never a good idea to do so, you're not my type but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't talk to you. Comparing yourself to your bestfriend will only make you feel worse she may have been with more guys but that doesn't mean anything.

    There isn't anything unapproachable with your looks it may just be way you interact and behave around others. Some guys may prefer quieter girls or those who don't stand out.
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    I personally would never approach you outside of a club or party.

    Would bang, cause I have virtually no standards when it comes to that, would go further though.
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    (Original post by Yawn11)
    I personally would never approach you outside of a club or party.

    Would bang, cause I have virtually no standards when it comes to that, would go further though.
    Such a charmer.

    I think you like fine, 'quirky' even .

    I have to say I'd maybe go a bit easier on the eyebrows though if it were me - but if you like it, keep it!
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    You look like a 'party girl' although that may be because the pics are taken on nights out?

    Bright colours hair are alright I guess, wouldn't mind it. Don't mind chatty/loud as long as they don't mind quiet guys and aren't constantly spouting BS on things they haven't got a clue about. I usually don't say anymore than I have to, which tends to infuriate certain people.
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    (Original post by iJess)
    I'm 17 and have only ever had 2 boyfriends. I'm bisexual and I pretty much like to stand out. I'm often seen with bright colours in my hair. I have quite a lot of piercings and 2 tattoos. I like all types of music but my favourite band in the whole world is Queen. I am quite loud, chatty but I get on with most people. I don't know if it's my looks that are the problem or my loud personality, I love to stand out and I do things to shock people. Is this off putting? I know I'm young but I feel alone. I shouldn't go by it but one of my closest friends in my college class has been with 20 something lads and I've been with 2. I guess it's just I'm starting to get a bit lonely and worry it's me that's the problem.

    A few recent pictures of me:
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.n...41645104_n.jpg
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.n...55503904_n.jpg
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.n...80085090_n.jpg
    https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.n...25282442_n.jpg

    Honest opinions, do I look like the type of girl thats unapproachable?
    It depends where you go. For example I imagine you'd fit in more in a punk rock type club/bar more than a typical club.
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    You look like fun so maybe...
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    Thank you for everyones input. I don't spout BS, I don't want to change who I am at all, I like the way I am. I have actually have toned down the eyebrows recently haha. Just bored of being on my own now
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    I think you look OTT but that's just my opinion.
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    Agreed with the other girl about eyebrows, I love dark eyebrows but they look a bit odd with light hair IMO. And I'm not much into dyed hair but if that's what you're into why should you change? If you're happy with how you look then you'll find someone who wants you for you. You're only 17, there's nothing wrong with sleeping around but you're so young! Do you really want to say you've already been with 20+ guys? These things come when we least expect them, so just be patient.


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    I wouldn't compared yourself to someone else by number of people they've slept with fior a start, who cares if your friends have slept with 20+ lads. You should only sleep with people you want to, and for your own reasons.

    Also personally you don't look 'too over the top' at all! But a loud personality can be offputing to me but others maybe love that. I'd rather someone have too loud a personality than too quiet. Be happy with how you look and are!
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    When you say approachable do you mean for friends or romance?

    You seem friendly!

    I am only wary around louder people if they're likely to gossip or you tell them something and suddenly everyone knows (I'm not implying this applies to you).

    I find it difficult to make the first attempt to approach people (to speak to as friends), but when I do, it's based on their personality and mannerisms, rather than how they look.

    By the way, relationships aren't the be all and end all! I'm older than you and have never been in a relationship or had interest.

    Everyone's different when it comes to these things, and it is over said, but do what feels natural.
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    I used to have my eyebrows a blondey colour but everyone said they looked ginger
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    "I'm 17 and have only ever had 2 boyfriends."

    This sums up the problem. You're worrying too much. 2 boyfriends at 17 is by no means unimpressive or whatever it is you're worried about....
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    (Original post by iJess)
    I used to have my eyebrows a blondey colour but everyone said they looked ginger
    http://eyeslipsface.co.uk/en/restofw...kit/invt/81300

    That's a great eyebrow kit, looks really natural too. With your hair colour I'd go for ash or light


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    (Original post by eliza.anne)
    http://eyeslipsface.co.uk/en/restofw...kit/invt/81300

    That's a great eyebrow kit, looks really natural too. With your hair colour I'd go for ash or light


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    Thank you that's not badly priced tbh
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    (Original post by iJess)
    Thank you that's not badly priced tbh
    All of their products are amazing, minus the mascaras. Sign up to their newsletter also, they often have 50% off deals! That's when I stock up :lol:


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