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    Hi everyone,

    I have a very aloof personality and it is starting to bother me. Listening to my friends and family talking bores me very quickly and I end up switching off. A friend of mine was talking to me about some problems he is going through right now and I just didn't know what to say back. I don't show much emotion on my face either so I probably looked like I didn't care even though I do because I like him. I just have no interest in things even thougj deep down I do care. I feel like there is a mental block stopping me from getting close to people.

    I sometimes worry that people think I don't care about them or show little interest in things which makes me feel guilty and sad. I find it really hard to open up to people about my life and this makes me feel really lonely. I don't why I am this way, I have been for ages. Over the past few years I feel like I have been in limbo where I am stuck in a rut with nothing going on for me. Nothing much makes me happy, I am either feeling content/unsure what I am feeling/down.

    What would cause me to be like this?
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    There are loads of reasons you could be feeling like that and they're usually very individual to each person. I would suggest you try visiting a counsellor. It's not for everybody but it can usually at least help you get to the bottom of why you feel how you do. If you're finding socialising hard at the moment try not to take on too much. Keep in contact with your friends but don't spend all your time trying to be a better friend if it's exhausting you. If you trust them you could tell them you're feeling a bit stressed at the moment so may not seem interested but that doesn't mean you don't care.

    Once you start to get to the bottom of things it should lift some of the stress and make things easier for you.
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    Oh I seem to have replied to two of the same thread, oopsie. 2 for 1, lucky you! :P
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    I think you need to be a little easier on yourself. It appears that you know why you're being "aloof" it's because you're struggling with yourself it's so difficult to be supportive of others when you're not happy yourself.

    I second Kindred find some one to talk to, a counsellor, a helpline or start a personal blog, this has really helped me, I sort of talk myself through my problems it helps me to understand where I am going wrong or what exactly is upsetting me and how I may be able to change that.

    Also maybe it'd be worth taking some time to figure out what you really want/need and then you can start working towards that.
 
 
 
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