Do guys really love the chase?

Why is it more acceptable for a guy to be rejected? What makes it better? The fact that it's someone else getting hurt, not you? And what if a guy doesn't make a move on you just cos he's shy, when really, you both fancy the pants off each other?

Women should definately take the lead at times. It's very flattering, and puts your mind at rest, because you know she's interested in you.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Women make the first move most of the time. Thats why we have fluttery eyelashes, and wear makeup, and spend an hour doing our hair. Its the second move of actually asking us out. Thats just the expectation. Most people would think we were desperate if we did it. Its sort of expected for men. And also women are supposed to be able to guess whether or not people fancy them more than men, so we would fall further below par if we got it wrong.

Reply 6

Jelkin

17

I've never asked someone out but it's not because I think men should make the first move, it's because I'm too shy! I do think it should work both ways. Still, it's getting more balanced as time goes on, just as equality between the sexes is still on its way.

Reply 7

So when a guy grooms his hair, puts on aftershave, puts a nice shirt on, that's not making a move, but when women do similar activities, it is?

Reply 8

cutcopy

I thought that said, 'do guys really love the cheese?'

And to answer that question, yes. Yes I do.

Reply 9

LostRiot

14

One of the things that annoys me most in life is that only men who are expected to deal with rejection. Well it sucks, girls just have to sit there looking pretty and wait for guys to come up to them, and girls, for some reason, think that guys like to chase,

Sometimes I think, hell I can't be arsed being the one who has to innitiate anything, if she really likes me, then why can't she ask me if I want to.... *insert dating type activity*. But then you always end up giving in because you don't want to blow it.

Anyway, I think there is a big difference between being desperate and 'taking the lead' as you put it.

I'm really not all that experienced in such matters though, so maybe I'm just odd.

Reply 10

xavier2k3

The Mudman

So when a guy grooms his hair, puts on aftershave, puts a nice shirt on, that's not making a move, but when women do similar activities, it is?

Exactly! Double standards anyone? :rolleyes:

The feeling of being chased is great, one that both sexes should be allowed to experience, not have it held to one party. Personally, i hate chasing girls and usually dont unless i either know that they're interested by word of mouth or if they seem interested.

regards
--marty

Reply 11

Another thing. Women will quite often delay their responses (in my experience) or be extremely indifferent. The saying may be "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" but it just irritates me more than anything. If you say no immediately, that's one thing. It's deflating, and hurts, but at least it's over with. Better than giving out false signals for long enough, deliberating, being evasive, thinking it's making you unattainable :. attractive, when it actually makes you less attractive. In my opinion at least...

I know I'm ranting, but it's happening to me as we speak.

Reply 12

shrutikim

I have to say in this - because its my case, a few months back from now I LIKED a guy , we never spoke , he knew EXACTLY HOW ( he could read it in my eyes) I felt about him. But I was rejected; I still not know the reason for this end. Because of him, I caused my heart so much misery (I think I must have cried my eyes out).
But now those feeling of bitterness have mingled in my profession life and ever since I can’t stand him, just because I was so hurt, I took it all the anger out in my studies. Promised my self that I would be the best in every thing (no reason for rejection), this de motivation has motivated me, to revenge this pain.
now when I am hell bent on ruining him, I just think about the past and laugh, how I had imagined my self to be his women , and now his end( not physically obviously, but I will definitely hollow him from his heart and mind, he will forget to love. )

Reply 13

LostRiot

14

shrutikim

I have to say in this - because its my case, a few months back from now I LIKED a guy , we never spoke , he knew EXACTLY HOW ( he could read it in my eyes) I felt about him. But I was rejected; I still not know the reason for this end. Because of him, I caused my heart so much misery (I think I must have cried my eyes out).
But now those feeling of bitterness have mingled in my profession life and ever since I can’t stand him, just because I was so hurt, I took it all the anger out in my studies. Promised my self that I would be the best in every thing (no reason for rejection), this de motivation has motivated me, to revenge this pain.
now when I am hell bent on ruining him, I just think about the past and laugh, how I had imagined my self to be his women , and now his end( not physically obviously, but I will definitely hollow him from his heart and mind, he will forget to love. )

good lord

Reply 14

cat_meiow

I started the chase with my boyfriend but I blame alcohol for that, he reckons we would of ended up together anyway but I doubt we would if I hadn't made the first move.

Reply 15

john!!

clueless101

Id never make the first move on a guy- if hes not interested then im not. Plus, you have to admit that if a girl gets rejected its so much worse and embarrasing than a boy getting rejected. Call it double standards but i guess thats just society for ya!

I wouldnt think its more embarrasing, good for the girl if she has the confidence to that

generally most dont.

Reply 16

Snide

Flattered, but it'd be awkward if I didn't like her back.

Has happened before. Not very fun.

Neither is chasing, though. Just get bored after like an hour.

Reply 17

shrutikim

I have to say in this - because its my case, a few months back from now I LIKED a guy , we never spoke , he knew EXACTLY HOW ( he could read it in my eyes) I felt about him. But I was rejected; I still not know the reason for this end. Because of him, I caused my heart so much misery (I think I must have cried my eyes out).
But now those feeling of bitterness have mingled in my profession life and ever since I can’t stand him, just because I was so hurt, I took it all the anger out in my studies. Promised my self that I would be the best in every thing (no reason for rejection), this de motivation has motivated me, to revenge this pain.
now when I am hell bent on ruining him, I just think about the past and laugh, how I had imagined my self to be his women , and now his end( not physically obviously, but I will definitely hollow him from his heart and mind, he will forget to love. )

Don't take this the wrong way, but you sound like a bit of a nutter to me... *steps carefully away*

Reply 18

Tyler Durden

17

shrutikim

I have to say in this - because its my case, a few months back from now I LIKED a guy , we never spoke , he knew EXACTLY HOW ( he could read it in my eyes) I felt about him. But I was rejected; I still not know the reason for this end. Because of him, I caused my heart so much misery (I think I must have cried my eyes out).
But now those feeling of bitterness have mingled in my profession life and ever since I can’t stand him, just because I was so hurt, I took it all the anger out in my studies. Promised my self that I would be the best in every thing (no reason for rejection), this de motivation has motivated me, to revenge this pain.
now when I am hell bent on ruining him, I just think about the past and laugh, how I had imagined my self to be his women , and now his end( not physically obviously, but I will definitely hollow him from his heart and mind, he will forget to love. )

You have no idea. Grow up.

Reply 19

shrutikim