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    Well basically as the title implies, I fap to women other than my girlfriend quite a lot. Standard stuff, fitness models and the celebs, fantasy crushes. This is simply because she has a no sex before marriage rule and I think any form of foreplay's been ruled out too due to her religious beliefs. I really care for her, but she makes me ridiculously horny which I then currently have to take out on my own. And for same reason my sex drive has just spiked in the last year or so anyway...
    I do this discreetly, don't go around telling her! The difference is it's lust for the women on the screen, purely a physical thing to release the tension-but I want her for her personality too (even though I find her hotter than she thinks she is ). I'm not in the relationship for sex anyway, I knew full well her beliefs when I asked her out. I don't want to upset her just because I'm a young man with raging hormones

    Is this normal and does this make me a bad guy for her? Any suggestions of what to do instead? Chances are she's probably doing the same right?
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    I'm suprised you're not having sex with other women, so you sure as hell shouldn't be guilty about thinking of other women.

    If she ever comes across your internet history, she has no right to complain.

    As the saying goes, relationships require give and take and mutual understanding. If you appreciate her beliefs and are happy to oblige by them to make the relationship work then she has no right not to understand that, for one, you don't morally support no sex before marriage and are doing it for her but also that you're anatomically a man.

    To sum it up, you have no reason to feel guilty as it doesn't make you 'not right for her'.
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    It's perfectly normal to masturbate and think of other people, everyone does it. Celebrity crushes are harmless - it's not like you are ever going to meet that person in all likelihood. As long as you are not going out and sleeping with other people behind her back then it's fine. I don't think you would upset her, as you say she may well be masturbating herself.
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    go easy on that though, makes it more enjoyable when you do it with something other than your hand
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Standard stuff, fitness models and the celebs, fantasy crushes.
    How is this standard stuff? lmao

    We live in the age of the internet where there's porn everywhere. If you're not fapping to midget bukkake porn you're doing it wrong.
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    Even in a sexual relationship it is normal to **** over girls who aren't her. A healthy fantasy life is essential for our wellbeing.

    Women don't understand the difference between lust and love. Do not let her or society tell you that your sexuality is wrong or evil.
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    she might be dissapointed if she knew but its pretty normal and I don't think she would be properly upset or annoyed. And if she is shes not being very reasonable. You are making a big effort to be understanding and accommodating to her beliefs and if this is how you manage that she should be completely understanding.
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    (Original post by Mockery)
    I'm suprised you're not having sex with other women, so you sure as hell shouldn't be guilty about thinking of other women.

    If she ever comes across your internet history, she has no right to complain.

    As the saying goes, relationships require give and take and mutual understanding. If you appreciate her beliefs and are happy to oblige by them to make the relationship work then she has no right not to understand that, for one, you don't morally support no sex before marriage and are doing it for her but also that you're anatomically a man.

    To sum it up, you have no reason to feel guilty as it doesn't make you 'not right for her'.
    Just because OP's girlfriend doesn't believe in sex before marriage, doesn't mean OP should then be off sticking his chop stick into another woman's stir fry. :sly:

    OP - There's nothing wrong with masturbating and yes she may well be doing it herself as well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well basically as the title implies, I fap to women other than my girlfriend quite a lot. Standard stuff, fitness models and the celebs, fantasy crushes. This is simply because she has a no sex before marriage rule and I think any form of foreplay's been ruled out too due to her religious beliefs. I really care for her, but she makes me ridiculously horny which I then currently have to take out on my own. And for same reason my sex drive has just spiked in the last year or so anyway...
    I do this discreetly, don't go around telling her! The difference is it's lust for the women on the screen, purely a physical thing to release the tension-but I want her for her personality too (even though I find her hotter than she thinks she is ). I'm not in the relationship for sex anyway, I knew full well her beliefs when I asked her out. I don't want to upset her just because I'm a young man with raging hormones

    Is this normal and does this make me a bad guy for her? Any suggestions of what to do instead? Chances are she's probably doing the same right?
    Your a wang-ka. Sod all wrong with being one as I am a bit of a tosser myself. Self induced masturbation isnt cheating but you seem to already know its not a good idea to inform the missus of your activities. No need to feel bad about thinking about other women when you do it, unless they are of inappropriate age in which case its downright mingin.
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    Look mate, if she isn't doing it herself, then she is at least having the same thoughts and choosing to restrain herself. Nothing wrong with it at all although it is hardly the kind of topic you are going to want to bring up with her.

    I mean, it is alright seeing saying 'she's a bit tidy' (or as my mate puts it 'she's worth a squirt') when you are watching a film or something but you are hardly going to say - 'in fact, I might go and loosen one off about her later on'.

    In simple terms, your girlfriend knows that you probably indulge in a bit of hand shandy but it doesn't mean you have to talk about it or feel guilty. I mean, she knows you have to go for a crap too doesn't mean you have to tell her about that either.
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    You're helping the relationship by masturbating because it quells your sexual frustration. Otherwise you'd be frustrated, maybe take it out on her, maybe cheat. I don't advise telling her ever! She doesn't need to know. But at the same time you're doing nothing wrong.


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    (Original post by scrotgrot)
    Even in a sexual relationship it is normal to **** over girls who aren't her. A healthy fantasy life is essential for our wellbeing.

    Women don't understand the difference between lust and love. Do not let her or society tell you that your sexuality is wrong or evil.
    Yes we do. With very young and early teenage girls maybe. Just as with young boys.


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    You shouldn't feel bad, if you didn't do this you would get really frustrated and that could lead to other things. I'm sure she would rather you do this than anything else.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is simply because she has a no sex before marriage rule
    Do you plan on marrying her?
 
 
 
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