I haven't been on TSR for a long time but I have a burning need to rant and garner some opinions from all you lovely folk. Sorry if this has been discussed elsewhere.
Have any of you moved back home after uni, and what was it like?
I'm living back home now whilst finishing up my masters, and it's sometimes great, but such a challenge! I was living far away, near my university, with my boyfriend whilst studying, but the combination of my studying all week, working weekends and taking care of him (buying/preparing food, cooking, washing up, all the cleaning, laundry etc) was just incredibly draining and I couldn't get up the focus to study properly! I'm kicking myself now, but hey...
Unfortunately the stress contributed to us breaking up, and now I'm at home, licking my wounds and pounding out a dissertation.
I've always worked part-time whilst studying, but I'm still in debt. I have a hefty overdraft to pay off. So my family are kindly not charging me rent. Instead, I do all the cooking and cleaning in the house. And to be honest, I'm finding myself similarly stressed as I was before! They ask for specific meals, which, okay, fine (my dad is a kind of lob it in the oven and hope for the best chef) but sometimes those take 2 hours to prepare! And buying all the stuff, and cleaning up after, and walking our dogs twice a day for a total of 2 hours, and hoovering the whole house every other day, with mopping....
does anyone have any pearls of wisdom to offer, please?! if it's ways to effectively relax, quick tasty meals, a magical dog bathing fairy, anything would be awesome! or, just tell me I'm being ridiculous. maybe I need some perspective. I'm really stuck here.
Living at home...backwards leap or good financial sense? Watch
- Thread Starter
- 14-05-2013 20:19
- 15-05-2013 17:41
Tell your family to manage their expectations! Tell them that they can ask for something specific cooked once or twice a week, but that other than that you will cook something that fits in with your schedule / workload.
And vacuuming every other day is ridiculous - tell them to take their shoes off at the door and it shouldn't need doing more than once a week.
I'm sure the dogs need walking, but is there a younger sibling / young neighbour who might walk them for a small sum? Subcontracting FTW!
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- 19-05-2013 15:40
Look towards moving out - it sounds like you're a virtual slave. No rent is no rent, but what about your liberty, and independence? That's worth a lot more than any money.