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    Ok so basically, there is this boy I'm the year above (yr 13 I'm in yr 12) and he is in my group for games and has been since i started it in january. In total there are about eight of us so we all know each other quite well. Sometimes we get paired up, and one time I was with this guy, so we sort of HAD to talk, and I am quite a friendly chatty person anyway. I never normally purposefully go up and talk to him, I always hang around with my girlfriends, and he hangs with his friends. I accepted him as a friend on facebook and he started inboxing me things like "hey how are you?" and general conversation which he obviously hoped would lead onto something more. Anyway a couple of monthes later, he asks me to prom to be his plus one saying he can't imagine going with anyone else. I declined telling him the truth, that I am in a relationship with someone. (Even if I hadn't been he's not my type..) He was fine about this anyway... But even though I basically told him it was never going to happen between us, he still keeps on inboxing me, like three times a week atleast. I never start the inbox, always him, and sometimes he says things which I just don't reply to. But the next day he will start again on another topic... He's a nice friendly guy, but I'm bored of his inboxes and I really don't want this to develop any further. I thought after telling him Im in a relationahip he would have stopped with the inboxes but no! What shall I do to get him to stop? And is it right if me to want him to stop? He's only being friendly?

    I would say casually block him on facebook - he can still see your profile but can't send you messages......

    Worked for me when a clingy girl kept messaging me on chat. This way she never saw I was online P

    I have the same problem but with another girl. She's just a really chatty person who used to be in my art in year 11 but se haven't seen each other for about a year now, but she keeps popping up. Not sure what to say to her. I usually keep it short but I'd feel rude not replying to her.

    I tend to ignore a few messages and then answer a few, acting as if I never missed any. I guess that wasn't very nice of me but what could I say? 'Stop being clingy when I hardly know you'?

    I wouldn't block him, but you need to make it clear that you want to keep a certain distance from him. For example, use the shortest answers possible when replying to him, and log off if he messages you while you're logged in. This way you're still being polite rather than ignorant and you could just have logged off anyway.
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