NOSE JOB (Rhinoplasty) on the NHS. Desperate :(Watch
I'm 19 and my nose is very big and I have a bump. I'm happy with the rest of me, I like my body, hair, teeth, everything else. However, my nose is making me depressed. I refuse to go out, I refuse to go on dates, I refuse to have pictures taken. It makes me feel worse than everyone else. And it's not just one of those things that we don't like about ourselves but have to accept it - I'm becoming very obsessed with it.
For example, whenever someone asks me for a lift, I make up excuses. And it's not because I don't want to do them a favour, but I CAN'T STAND someone sitting next to me in a car and looking at my profile.
Also, when I got with my (now ex) boyfriend, I REFUSED to be introduced to his friends and family for months because I thought they wouldnt accept me... because of my nose. I realise how stupid this sounds, and obviously I personally would not dislike someone because of their looks, but it's just constantly in my head, and even though I keep telling myself I should accept it, i just cant. IMPOSSIBLE.
Whenever I mention it to my friends they seem to brush it off and not take it seriously. I spend almost every night crying myself to sleep about it. Not accepting yourself is probably one of the worst things - worse than others not accepting you. I've decided I want a nose job, and my family agreed I should have it done because they see how unhappy it makes me. However, I'm a uni student and I cannot afford it. Apparently you can get it on the NHS, but does anyone know if I have any chances of actually qualifying for it? Where do I even start?
PS. I'm not a spoilt little girl, this is honestly ruining my life by making me so self conscious. I hate living like this. So if you want to criticize me because I want to get it for "free", please don't. I'm living in self created hell.
PS2. I've tried just accepting myself. It's not working
Without wanting to disappoint you, (and please bear in mind that I have no expert knowledge of this at all, this is just some random person on the internet giving you their opinion) I think it's very unlikely that you'll qualify to have the surgery you want on the NHS - and even if by some remote chance you did qualify, it's likely that there would be a significant waiting list.
It's also clear that you can't carry on isolating yourself, crying yourself to sleep every night, and generally suffering because of this. Given that you can't afford private surgery at the moment, and that it may be impossible to get the surgery via the NHS, my advice would be to focus on getting help for the way you feel, instead. I'm not saying 'just accept yourself', because it's clearly not that simple, but I do believe that with professional help you could address how it's impacting on you. One place you could seek this help is by talking to your GP (maybe at the same time as discussing whether there's any possibility of getting surgery); but I also noticed you said you're at uni - most universities will have some sort of counselling service available free of charge to their students, and it may be worth seeking help from them. I really think this would be a good source of help for you because this is obviously really limiting your life at the moment.
You may want to consider talking to someone about it. No, therapy won't give a smaller nose, but it may help you deal with your appearance until you've managed to save enough money to get it sorted yourself. Another reason to wait is that it's not really the best idea to undergo cosmetic surgery when you are in an unhealthy state of mind. No surgeon can give you a perfect nose.
See what therapy can do for you and save up for it when you graduate.
I might be having a nose job within the next month, and I'm paying - or rather, my parents are, because they know how long I have agonised over my nose for.
I don't think it's fair that you should get it done on the NHS. If my parents are forking out to pay for mine, and believe me, my parents are not remotely wealthy, then yours should too.
Lavender blue sky go break your nose and then tell me it doesn't have any health benefits plus ppl actually commit suicide due to the way they look so actually a nose job could be a life saving operation.plus the nhs would not do it if it had no benefits at all I think your comment is discussing frankly you just don't understand
I can quote and spell lavender blue just ipad is abit wack and actually they do I am a 5 th year registrar in e.n.t iv seen just from a rhinoplasty septorhinoplasty tipoplasty how they say people's quality of life has changed so much unfortunately in this day and people are judged from how they look social status etc it can really effect someone's quality of life the nhs knows this.plus no lactic surgery I.e nose jobs rhinology boob jobs tummy tucks then their is hardly any need for plastic surgeons on the nhs so more jobs would be lost its a vicious circle
OP, I totally understand your concerns, my nose isn't perfect either since I broke it and I dislike it a lot. It's not really that bad, but just the fact that it's different to how it was bothers me. I have a slight bump as well and I don't really like people looking at me from one side either. Unfortunately I don't think there's much the NHS will do, despite me breaking it all they're doing to fix it is the non-cosmetic stuff (straightening my septum, not the outside). So I think your best bet if it really bothers you so much that it's affecting your life is to either save up to have the surgery done elsewhere, or you can try that counseling that people have suggested I suppose.
I'm kind of hopeful that by sorting out my septum it'll slightly take down the bump, as it seems to be in line with my septum so maybe by straightening it it'll pull the bump in a little But either way, what i'm having done will make a big difference to me, so if all I get is a straight septum and normal breathing then i'll pretty happy.
i have even tried to break my nose once but failed so badly. 3 years ago
but thanks for the info of NHS because i have a problem with my right nose hole i cant breath with it only with the left one.
so ill try and lets see what happens.
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