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    Does anybody have any advice for how to tell friends about mental illness?

    I want to be more open about myself let my friends know about some of my issues (especially OCD and anxiety ones) but I don't know how much I should say or how to go about it.

    Does anybody have any advice for how I can casually mention some of my issues without giving it too much focus or how much information would be too much?
    I don't want to freak them out or make myself out as some nut-job, I just want to give them a bit of warning cos I do kinda freak out a lot for no reason.
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    The way that worked best for me, was to mention it casually in a conversation if something related comes up, like say if your friends were talking about tidying or cleaning or organising or something like that, just slip something into the conversation about yourself, like 'Oh yeah I get stressed about cleaning a lot too', that actually sounds stupid but you get my gist, just gently dangle a hook in there, and then laugh and carry the conversation on as if nothing happened, play it cool and dont make it out as something uber serious. I found that if you take a few friends away to the side, looking worried and nervous, and try and tell them something about mental illness while making it look like a huge deal, its not very nice for you OR your friends, because you're scared about how they'll react and what they're thinking of you, and they probably won't know how to react or what to say at all in that kind of intense situation, so if you mention it all lighthearted they will probably be more likely to formulate some kind of response and/or go and talk to you seriously about it later, when they've had time to digest the information. Also, don't go into all the details unless they ask, you don't want to overload them if they aren't up for it.
    Hope this helped sorry it's a bit of an essay! I just don't want you to fall into the same holes I did
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    The way that worked best for me, was to mention it casually in a conversation if something related comes up, like say if your friends were talking about tidying or cleaning or organising or something like that, just slip something into the conversation about yourself, like 'Oh yeah I get stressed about cleaning a lot too', that actually sounds stupid but you get my gist, just gently dangle a hook in there, and then laugh and carry the conversation on as if nothing happened, play it cool and dont make it out as something uber serious. I found that if you take a few friends away to the side, looking worried and nervous, and try and tell them something about mental illness while making it look like a huge deal, its not very nice for you OR your friends, because you're scared about how they'll react and what they're thinking of you, and they probably won't know how to react or what to say at all in that kind of intense situation, so if you mention it all lighthearted they will probably be more likely to formulate some kind of response and/or go and talk to you seriously about it later, when they've had time to digest the information. Also, don't go into all the details unless they ask, you don't want to overload them if they aren't up for it.
    Hope this helped sorry it's a bit of an essay! I just don't want you to fall into the same holes I did
    Thanks. I really appreciate it
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    My friends have taken me to the side and just said they wanted to let me know/explain why they've been acting the way they have. It's always been completely fine. Personally, I just drop it into conversations but maybe that's because depression isn't a thing in my life at the moment so I don't mind being frank about it.

    One thing I think can help is to realise that mental health issues are more common than I think most of us realise. Especially as you get older, you notice that lots of people have them. I also think this stuff is getting talked about more, and people are realising how much it impacts on people's lives, so people are only going to get more understanding as time goes on.


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