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Girl Making you cry

for the boys has a girl every made you cry and did it damage your self estee and confidence in anyway.

yes it has happened to me and it has damaged my confidence ever since.

girls how do percieve a boy if you was to make him cry.

Reply 1

bonnie

I certainly wouldn't think any less of him. I'd be touched that he likes me so much I have such an impact.

Reply 2

MagicNMedicine

20

Males crying over girls has become a lot more fashionable.

It is supposed to make girls say oh look he's in touch with his emotions, he's a sensitive and caring person.

All a load of horsecrap really. If a girl dies, its worth crying over her, if not then save your tears.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

bonnie

I certainly wouldn't think any less of him. I'd be touched that he likes me so much I have such an impact.

ditto

Reply 4

Daveinnorfolk

many times.

But crying is a natural emotion why shouldn't you do it? Personally im of the belief that 'real men cry' as you're not affraid to show your feelings rather than complying to a culture of masculinity which says you should be tough and masculine (and i DEFINITELY aint that) so yeh didn't damage my confidence.

Its the same as guys who talk about emotions being seen as being feminine but so what? I know i'd rather have a talk about emotions than end up cutting my body up about it.

I think i've just answered the quesiton of why more of my mates are girls than guys... oh well im happy :-)

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

sorry i didnt explain myself properly, i meant if a girl intentionally made you cry by picking on you etc

Reply 6

Daydreams

bonnie

I certainly wouldn't think any less of him. I'd be touched that he likes me so much I have such an impact.

Interesting...its nice to know some people think like that.

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

i could hear my bf crying as i left this morning. im not going to see him in ages (ldr) and it made me feel even worse than i allready did :'(

Reply 8

Eien

16

MagicNMedicine

Males crying over girls has become a lot more fashionable.

It is supposed to make girls say oh look he's in touch with his emotions, he's a sensitive and caring person.

All a load of horsecrap really. If a girl dies, its worth crying over her, if not then save your tears.

I see your point in how 'being in touch with emotions' is fashionable and that people act this way for the sake of it, but I would still say that freely expressing emotions is important - however the important word is 'freely', which means that if you don't feel like crying, then don't, but I don't see why men should have to prevent any expression of their emotions, since this is just as absurd as deliberately crying for the sake of it. I'd cry in a lot less serious situations than somebody dying, but if that's how you feel then fair enough.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

But what if you was not emotionaly attached to a girl and she intentionally made you cry by teasing and bullying, that would make me precieve a boy in a different way, if i made him cry by picking on him pr him making me bullying him, i would think hes a looser.

Reply 10

Eien

16

Anonymous

But what if you was not emotionaly attached to a girl and she intentionally made you cry by teasing and bullying, that would make me precieve a boy in a different way, if i made him cry by picking on him pr him making me bullying him, i would think hes a looser.

It depends on the degree of bullying and the overall sensitivity of the person, regardless of gender - being male should not automatically mean that you are a loser for feeling hurt while a girl is able to express these emotions - that said, as a whole boys do cry less often, but this should not be taken as a generalisation. Also, if the crying was a melodramatic reaction, to relatively mild bullying, then the victim would be a drama queen, boy or girl. If somebody did cry, it would not necessarily mean somebody was caring and sensitive, there are a lot more traits that truly indicate that, but it would be indicative of taking things to heart or possible insecurity.

Reply 11

minimo

15

There is no harm in men crying and expressing their feelings. In fact I have even greater respect for a man who is bold enough to do that without being branded by a silly stereotype.

Reply 12

Redefined

13

Anonymous

sorry i didnt explain myself properly, i meant if a girl intentionally made you cry by picking on you etc

Reply 13

Viktoria86

Everyone crys sometimes u need 2 express ur feelings & let things go when ur hurt. So crying is a good thing no matter what sex u r.
If someone cries it shows their a human being and they have a heart. & if a guy cries over me well it shows that he cares so much and is a real sweetie and i respect that.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

Girls had made me cry a couple of years ago it hugely affected myself self esteem and confidence (also due to other things) but now im a lot bigger and i aint gonna stand for **** if they try it again although my confidence is steadily increasing.

Reply 15

supernova2

11

How could a girl make you cry by picking on you :/

The only time id cry if people picked on me would be if I was quite a bit younger and it was either a group of people or someone seriously intimidating (physically)

If a girl bullies you and your say 16+ just politely tell her to shut the hell up or youll smash her face in. Thanks. (I didnt say that)

Although walking away would be the normal and decent thing :smile:

Remeber a lot of people tease for harmless fun or in an anger rather than to really upset or damage someone.

Reply 16

XavierTroy

1

The perception that men shouldn't or don't cry is nonsense. I think, yes, men are the less emotional sex, but it doesn't mean they are heartless. Generally I think in any deep relationship both will have cried because of each other more than they have over any other singular situation or person.

Reply 17

generalebriety

16

I've cried over a lot of things before. I've cried because I was worried for, or upset over, or angry with my friends. I've cried about guys (meh, I can still post, I give myself the right to!) I was emotionally attached to, and I would feel happy that anyone who cried for me really was my friend - although obviously not feel good at all at the time, for their sake. I don't do it to impress people, I don't do it "because I'm a poof" (heard that so often now, I never minded, but it's funny that I could list gay stereotypes by rote now :smile:

), I do it because it feels right, like I'll smile when something good happens.

Anonymous

But what if you was not emotionaly attached to a girl and she intentionally made you cry by teasing and bullying, that would make me precieve a boy in a different way, if i made him cry by picking on him pr him making me bullying him, i would think hes a looser.

That would make him whatever you believe that would make him, but more importantly, that would make you a complete bitch - I would have infinitely more respect for him than for you.

Reply 18

AwakenedOne

Yiiw

Interesting...its nice to know some people think like that.

Indeed.

Reply 19

pendragon

13

I have cried tons over breaking up with my gf of than two 2 years recently. I cry at films too, like watership down.

I was brought up by a single mum, so what if a guy cries so long as he doesnt cry all the time.

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